Tomo is DNEphews birthday meal. I DO NOT want to go 
Dmil will be there and blatantly treats her other GCs differently to my children. I can't bare to sit there whilst she fusses over the others whilst she barely looks in the direction of my children.
The past six months or so have been particularly difficult with her, with the arrival of our new baby she was told in no uncertain terms that the first person to meet DD would be our DS, she took this news badly when I was in labour and left the hospital in tears despite being aware of it all along our pregnancy 
The first few days of DDs life she was extremely difficult; refusing to see DD as she wasn't one of the first to see her...
Anyhow, in an odd kind of way we moved forward from that. Until recently, we asked Dmil and Fil to come on summer hols with us; they declined stating they were going to get a last minute cheap deal; fair enough. However two weeks later when SIL booked they booked with her 🙄🙄🙄 talk about being pushed to the side.
DH then asked MIL if she would like to watch DD for an hour at one point last week, no set day or time just when would suit her. She stated no I have the other grandchildren. That was the end of that.
When she visited a few weeks ago for twenty minutes she spent the time here trying to convince us to give her our children's slide for her other grandchildren 
to save her buying them a £99 slide, how lovely eh?
I recently had fraud on my card, and DH had left his card in his works van which his workmate took him, he rang and asked her to borrow £4 for bread and milk until the following day; she begrudgingly said yes but the following day was hot on the phone to recoup her £4, DH dropped the money off to her and then she proceeded to hand it over to her other grandchildren 🙄🙄 I know it's her money and she can do what she wants with it; but is there any reason for her to be so curt with us in favour of them?
What is her problem? I can't bare to see her at the mo so the thought of going for a meal with her tomo repulses me. I've had tears on a few occasions wondering what's wrong with my perfect babies and why she doesn't want anything to do with them.
DH says he's just biding his time before a massive explosion will ensue at her!