to ask for other people who have had the week from hell to come and tell me your stories?

[toomanynicks]

I have had such a shit week. I have found out I may or may not have an incurable STD but won't know until more tests are done. I'm in a v senior position at work but someone is very subtly and cleverly back stabbing me in a way that I know about it but others find it hard to see.

The dcs have gone back to university leaving me on my own.

My dp was uninvited from a wedding that I told him he had been invited to - the groom fucked up massively and now they insist they are at full numbers. I'm upset, my friends are upset but there appears to be nothing we can do. I told dp last week I thought something was up with us, it wasn't, i was just being sensitive and we worked through it. Now he thinks I don't want him around at the wedding as he finds it hard to believe the story so he's completely distanced himself from me and I don't think he'll come back!

I cried myself to sleep last night for the first time in years and this morning I am sat at my desk feeling utterly numb!

Please tell me about your shit weeks so I have some sympathy to give out rather than being sat here feeling sorry for myself

The dog is constipated.
I'm constipated.
We've run out of cash again.
I forgot to send my DD to school with the right stuff for a trip she was doing.
My other DD was on a trip out and flipped the bird at a civilian and was reported to the school, had a detention and isn't allowed on the end of year trip now.
I've achieved nothing all week.
The house is a pigsty.
I've been waiting since over a week ago for a prescription which the pharmacy fucked up.
Hope that helps. Oh, and I've had my period so my endometriosis has been hurting my insides.

sorry to hear all that echo! it helps believe me. We can suffer together.

I broke my wrist and had surgery to pin it. It fucking hurts. I can't dress myself and haven't had a proper wash for ages. Don't have a D anyone so no one to help me.

Supposed to be going to the Caribbean on Sunday. No point claiming on insurance as booked flights with miles and staying with a friend of a friend so cost is only £50 more than excess but I'll never be able to go again for the same price.

Waiting to see if they will let me fly.

Even if they do let me go I won't be able to swim so it cuts out 1/3 of my planned holiday activities (thankfully you only need one hand to sunbathe and drink rum!)

Had to go straight back to work after surgery as in the middle of recruiting for a vacant post. Two great internal candidates who I really like were beaten by an external (who to be fair was really good) so I had to tell them last night and feel like a prize shit. Team dynamic probably fucked now.

Oh and period is due tomorrow. Yay!

My husband 55 is being made redundant, he’s never been out of work and our son has just started new job and he has been told he hasn’t passed and will be Thursday 😞 so feel completely deflated and fed up with life at the moment

Thanks for starting this nicks it was quite cathartic to get it all out. I think wallowing in the pity party is just what we need.

that is shit, properly shit, poor you

with my likely STD and now me driving dp away, I'm not sure I will ever get another partner again so perhaps we should form our own single women commune. I can help you with your clothes and you can talk shit to me!

Not this week but last week.
Rushed into hospital in DKA (diabetic ketoacidosis) and diagnosed with Type 1 diabetes.
Got out of hospital 4 days later to find my car insurance renewal was double what it was last year, tipped me over the edge a little.
DP got nothing done at home (not even empying/loading the dishwasher) while I was in so came home to a tip and had to tidy up even though I could barely move my arms because of where the cannulars had been.
And had a paycut at work.
Cried a lot and couldn't console myself with chocolate because I wasn't adjusting my own insulin at the time.

I would have the rage about the wedding thing, guest list is one of the main things to keep on top of!

My week not so bad compared to all of yours so 💐🍷🍰

gin being redundant at 55 is hard, I'm sorry and just bad luck it's happened the same time as your son :(. Hope they both find something else soon. Did your dh at least get a payoff?

cat not being able to console yourself with chocolate or ice cream sounds murderous. I shudder to think what my blood sugar level is today after the crap I ate last night!

I am about to go to the hospital to discuss end of life care for my mum. I have been diagnosed with a condition that will be lifelong (although thankfully not life-limiting) this week which is going to take some management. As a single parent, we are reliant on my wage so I am fearful about what the future may hold for us as a family.

Just usually run of the mill crappy week here- sick bugs and an impending holiday so I’m panicking about that being affected y the sick bugs.

Found nits in dds hair for about the 5th time this year.
Sent ds off to his maths exam with cross words in his head because he was faffing about has lost his candidate number and almost missed the bus. I actually cried in frustration when he left, now feel guilty he's going to be stressed out and have a shit day.
Got some work done in my house and I don't like it, looks shoddy and will cost money to fix.

At the end of my rope with the increasingly erratic, destructive, toxic behaviour of my MiL (DH is of the same mind). After many years trying to facilitate the relationship for the sake of our DC, I'd at last reached the point where I was ready to cut her off. It was not a decision taken lightly, and even DH was in agreement. But it can't happen. Grandparents' rights are a bigger threat in the UK then I ever thought imaginable, particularly if you have relatives who are inclined towards litigation, as ours are. She could openly flout the very reasonable decisions we as parents have taken to protect our DC, the courts would support her, and there would be nothing we could do (save emigrate without telling her). Anyone thinking about cutting off toxic grandparents could do well to read about all this. It's sobering, depressing and thoroughly shocking.

You can imagine how this has coloured my week. And to top all that, my full-time contract at work is becoming untenable because of discrimination against those with childcare responsibilities: a known problem in my workplace, and one being challenged. In the meantime, we're all being micromanaged to the hilt.

Over time these things can wear a person down and crush their morale. And the most frustrating thing of all is that there is not one damned thing I can do about any of it.

Sympathies to everyone else enduring a shitty week!

CanILeaveNowPlease: we've crossed posts while I was writing mine, but that puts my issues well and truly in perspective. I'm so sorry about your mum, and about your own health. It makes other problems seem minor by comparison

for all those having shitty weeks especially those with unwell parents, I know how tough that is

didn't realise that about grandparents' rights mariel

Work has been horrendous, manager off sick, extra work and I've been so overwhelmed I'm just not doing it, which makes it all worse and will cause more problems down the line.
Partner situation is complicated - not sure what the future is for us.
Dad has dementia and I need to organise moving into a care home. He thinks he's fine and is resisting help.
Friend is seriously ill but making demands on me and I've just realised the relationship is toxic in many ways but feel awful for not wanting to help as they've no one else.
Have been missing credit card payments so that's also going to hit the fan.

OP, I know you didn't ask for advice so just ignore if you want but do you have to go to the wedding? I'd bin it off. They haven't been very nice to your or your DP.

Op is it herpes?

I was diagnosed aged 17 with it, I split with my partner and was very depressed for a long time. But, it got easier, and I met dp(who is the same). There's a website called positive singles. It has lots of people who have anything from herpes to hiv hepatitis etc.

It's where I met dp!

Toomanynicks - neither did I, and I'd have thought two parents closing ranks together and of the same mind would impress any court, but it's not necessarily so. It's come as quite a shock as I process all this.

And it's made even worse by the fact that denying contact is something I never imagined I could even be capable of, and wouldn't even be considering were I not convinced her influence on our DC was thoroughly pernicious.

Sad all round - and for all concerned. My heart breaks for our DC.

We completed the sale on my late Grandma's house, the last link to 'childhood' homes we had.

Whilst at the house last weekend we found out her aunt so my Great Great Aunt had passed away.

Whilst trying to sort travel to that funeral found out that my best friend from schools Dad, a very favoured teacher at school, has passed away this morning.

Boiler needs replacing

Son sent home from nursery with a temp yesterday!

But the worst is the graze on my daughters (4) knee - which the drama about has helped to make me smile amidst it all! Its not that bad but the limp is impressive!!!

to everyone on this thread.

Monday I spent panicking about 11 year old ds2's dla tribunal.
Tuesday I went to ds2's tribunal and lost.
Wednesday ds2 got a really bad eye infection and spent 8 hours in hospital while they did tests to decide if he needed iv antibiotics. Younger 2 dc's wouldn't sleep because they were upset about me and ds2 not being there. 5 year old ds4 who has learning difficulties struggles to function on not enough sleep so yesterday he kept getting told off at school and now this morning he didn't want to go because he was worried the teacher will shout at him again.
The house is a top
I'm on my period
We've run out of crisps and jaffa cakes.

I have had 4 of my 5 dc down with chicken pox as a single mum this does not make life easy especially when recovering from a c section. My 7 week old preemie baby was rushed to hospital as she stopped breathing and has been diagnosed with sleep apnea. My mum was also in the hospital at the same time and had her caravan stolen while she was in there. And my eldest dc had to have surgery on his foot. Its been exhausting and emotional, I keep wondering when my break is coming

mariel that sounds horrendous. How can they possibly trump your rights as parents?!

namechange yes herpes. But an unusual presentation. I don't have it on my genitals and never have but I had a skin infection on my neck that wasn't clearing and they took a swab and found it is HSV2. I'm really shocked. Because it's nowhere near my genital area they are a bit confused - the doctor said 'well it isn't genital herpes' but I've looked it up afterwards and it quite obviously is! They've said wait till it happens again and then go and see a specialist but I think I have to assume I have got it :(.

toast I have really fucked up with dp. He asked for space because of the wedding thing but then kept messaging me. I am feeling ill this morning so sent him a message saying I would not be around for a few hours, he hasn't even responded to say he hopes I'm ok. I think he's had enough and part of me doesn't blame him. I don't want to go to the wedding, I'm so pissed off and upset (along with all the other shit) but I think I will have to go as i'll look an idiot if I don't!

The way I'm feeling I never want to go out again!

I found out on Monday that my stage 4 Breast cancer had changed to triple negative and had spread pretty widely in the last few weeks (Lungs, liver, bones, abdomen).

I started Chemo and an immunotherapy drug yesterday, we hope it will control the cancer while we look into clinical trials.

So today I am sitting at home, feeling rotten and wondering how much time I have with my family (DC's are 7 and 10).....

After doubting everything, wondering how I'm going to make sure the kids have all they need with no financial assistance forthcoming from their Dad, i read this thread and all the comments and honestly? my week hasn't really been that bad