to ask for other people who have had the week from hell to come and tell me your stories?

[toomanynicks]

I have had such a shit week. I have found out I may or may not have an incurable STD but won't know until more tests are done. I'm in a v senior position at work but someone is very subtly and cleverly back stabbing me in a way that I know about it but others find it hard to see.

The dcs have gone back to university leaving me on my own.

My dp was uninvited from a wedding that I told him he had been invited to - the groom fucked up massively and now they insist they are at full numbers. I'm upset, my friends are upset but there appears to be nothing we can do. I told dp last week I thought something was up with us, it wasn't, i was just being sensitive and we worked through it. Now he thinks I don't want him around at the wedding as he finds it hard to believe the story so he's completely distanced himself from me and I don't think he'll come back!

I cried myself to sleep last night for the first time in years and this morning I am sat at my desk feeling utterly numb!

Please tell me about your shit weeks so I have some sympathy to give out rather than being sat here feeling sorry for myself

And to everyone on this thread

I thought my week was shit but your weeks have all been objectively shitter than mine.

Gosh, and to everyone having a shit time - it's hard to stay positive when the blows come so thick and fast.

My beloved uncle died, my husbands friend, aged 42 died, my DDs boyfriend has had to have a hip replacement, following an infection which turned to sepsis, and some bastard took my drivers side wing mirror off and didn’t stop. My car is unusable, Im struggling to get to work, or indeed the hospital/funerals and it’s going to cost £300 to repair.

Oh goodness Sorry to you all.

mine started beautifully last Tuesday with a 12 week scan for a much wanted 2nd baby, to be told baby was very poorly and wouldn't survive to birth - Thursday I had a TFMR. We hadn't told anyone I was pregnant so letting family know both was horrid.

During the same week we locked ourselves out of the house, Ds who is 3 has had a sickness bug and we had just taken away his dummy but want to persevere with that so has also been a nightmare at bedtime.

I need a rest from the world i think.

oh and to top it off, my car went in yesterday for Tyre and Brake checks - I'll get it back today and my bank account will be £310 lighter

@qfor

I know the feeling x

Realised a few days ago that I hadn't been making pension payments recently.

Spoke to a payroll officer, who told me I had 'opted out' in 2014.

Have I fuck.

My work status where I work is complicated.

Different roles, permanent còntract, temporary contract, zero hours, permanent contract then zero hours again, within different departments and periods of unemployment.

If you search for me, you'll see I have an ADHD diagnosis.

I'm potentially missing 5 years of pension payments.

I should have noticed something before now. Fuck.

Good luck to everyone else who's having a shitty week.

I'm spending my one day off looking through 11 years of pay slips.

AUniverseofbeaches, I'm lost for words. So unbelievably cruel. Sending every ounce of positivity your way xxxxxxxxx

toomanynicks Please DO NOT rely on what Dr Google says see a decent STI consultant.

I think that this is a lot more mamagable these days than hiterto.

Im sorry OP.

Mine may or may not be. Im on my way to A&E as my Midwife suspects ectopic pregnancy. So we shall see.

Im so sorry everyone is having shit times

DH lost his job, I'm suffering from Hyperemesis, DS is teething (all 4 canines cutting through at once) and has sore bum, I'm suffering from swollen feet more this pregnancy but don't have preeclampsia and my nipples are way more sensitive than they ever have been and I hate it. DS seems to be able to stand on them without meaning to and I never realise they're in the way until too late.

@Nousernameforme in some respects what you say is true. It wouldn't go through to court, it would go to mediation first. There are, as you say, a lot of hoops to jump through. It's a long-winded and expensive process. All this, together with the fact that she would have to apply for permission to bring proceedings, is deliberately designed to weed out would-be petty applicants who are wanting to score cheap points against their children to gain control as grandparents. And it would stop a lot of them, too. Unfortunately, DH doesn't think it would stop her.

She's had contact purely on her terms, which we've never denied. She's never provided childcare; not even evening babysitting. That means not once. It hasn't been offered and we haven't asked; nor would I see this as the expected role of a grandparent. But she could say we've deliberately made this difficult. She tries to commandeer the good times - birthdays and Christmas - and ignores the DC for the rest of the time. I couldn't imagine any court supporting this state of affairs (and that's without enumerating the other things she's done, which would take too long and be 'outting'). But apparently, I'm wrong.

This used to be a comfort: I reasoned she wouldn't push for grandparents' rights because she simply wasn't interested enough. But the trouble is, she wants the relationship entirely on her terms, even if those terms are injurious to her DGC. If we stopped contact, DH is convinced she'd pursue this, and says that if she did, we could be in trouble. (No info online to refute or confirm this; it's done on a case-by-case basis). Unfortunately he deals with these cases every day of his working life. It may never come to anything at all. But I hate the fact that this toxic, spiteful woman has this nature of hold over me, that I judge she's potentially harmful to my child, and that we as parents can have that judgment overridden by the family courts.

It's not a nice realization. Neither is this as clear-cut as I imagined, despite the fact that it looks fairly cut-and-dried to me.

Currently having week three of a period (menopausal hormones)

Crashed the car.

Had dental surgery and on antibiotics.

Had a quote for 33K for bathroom and en suite

Lots to be grateful though so I'm staying positive :)

auniverseofbeaches this is a great success story written by a woman with metastatic melanoma: www.amazon.co.uk/Catastrophes-Miracles-Story-Science-Cancer/dp/1426216335?tag=mumsnetforu03-21

Joyce Wadler has written two fantastic books about her breast cancer and subsequent ovarian cancer.

My OH has been very ill since before xmas so I've been looking after DD and the house alone along with working full time and being heavily pregnant.
Now I have a very newborn I'm looking after them alone the majority of the time as he's still not well and I think it's just hit me that I'm tired and lonely and feeling horribly guilty that I cant give my children enough quality time alone with me.
I'm terrified that my OH will lose his job leaving us on my SMP only which isn't enough to cover our rent, let alone all of the other bills we have. I already have the bailiff knocking about a bill that's due because I was so overwhelmed with everything that I froze and ignored it for months, hoping it would go away. I now need to spend the next week going through all my bills and work out what is owed and how on earth I can clear my debt. I already bailed on step change last year when on mat leave with my DD so I doubt they'll help me again - rightly so.
I know I have so much to be grateful for and I honestly am so, so glad I have my babies and OH but my god, I cant do this any more. My brain isn't playing along. I need a proper grown up to tell me what to do
So sorry to those who have had far, far worse weeks than me

Can't even type it, the last 4 weeks actually, I would definitely cry if I even attempted. Here's to a better next week everyone

Had been in the very early days of dating 2 people after being single for a very long time - this week one flat-out stood me up (still haven't heard anything from him at all and this was for last Sunday) and the other one confessed that the constant messages were from another woman he had been arranging to meet up with for kinky sex next week "but was hoping this could be an 'as well as' rather than an 'instead of'".

Mine is nothing in the scheme of things. Certainly not compared with what you poor fullas are contending with.

DH is going through a hellscape at work. It's consuming all the oxygen. We shifted to this country as a result of his work, and I'm irrationally furious that he's being treated the way he is, and having to deal with the levels of toxicity and serial machinations of inept and utterly nasty, to the point of evil people. I feel so anxious and insecure, it's cost us so much, in every which way to move here, and currently he's the only one with a job!

I'm 47, so I'm scared that when I go jobhunting, I'm going to be written off as over the hill.

I'm so homesick it's beyond a joke.

Already had a warning letter re attendance for both daughters. They've caught every bug going this year, which we knew would happen with relocating, but still. Just had a call from DD who has gone to sick bay feeling very hot, sore and sick.

I've got a sinus infection, and hayfever. At the same time. Go figure.

I'm on my period.

I'm sorry, I know my woes are piddling, and I've got so many blessings to count. But it just feels better putting it out there. Thank you.

POTENTIALLY TRIGGERING

I had a miscarriage 1.5 weeks ago, I was left to wait in agony for over 12 hours because no doctor was available to prescribe me the medication I needed to hurry things along as well as stronger pain medication.

At about 20:00 I was tipping my pain threshold and felt the urge to push and told my husband I felt like I could feel something.

At about 23:30 I finally got seen and signed off by a doctor but then I had to wait an additional hour, because they realised I hadn't been given an examination at all since arriving in hospital at 9:30am, and the doctor was by then with somebody else.
By this point I was screaming into my pillow and writhing in pain.

I finally get examined at 00:40 and we realise the reason why I'm in SO much pain is because the baby was stuck in my cervix which was going into overdrive trying to expel it.

Feel extremely let down that I was left for so long, especially as the nurse told us literally everyone else on the ward (I was in a side room) had been seen to and sent home by the doctor earlier and they were just about to see us but called elsewhere.

In addition...

I have an abusive sister with a personality disorder, an abusive narcissistic mother (both diagnosed) and a lovely dad but who cannot keep things to himself and tells EVERYONE every single detail because he either "thinks they have a right to know" (or just enjoys being the trusted person who was confided in) so I haven't felt able to tell anyone in my family.

This week my sister announces, on the DAY of our 12 week scan appointment (so when we would have been announcing too) that she is pregnant and due around the time our baby was.

She had an abortion last year, for her own reasons but had we have been in the same position we would have gone ahead, and I've had to listen to her tell me how hard it's been being secretly pregnant the last 3 months and how scared she's been about her baby dying and all the turmoil she's been through and how upset she was with our DF for spreading what happened with her abortion.

I was doing fine but this last week has broken me and I've felt close to suicide over what I've to listen to and the thought of family asking me intrusive questions.
I have a counsellor for the abuse mentioned above and I've called a few times but he hasn't called me back once.

I have 1 DC already and my DH took the day off yesterday because it got too much. If I didn't have them I don't know where I'd be. I just feel like such a mess

LucyAutumn I'm so very sorry. A loss like this is devastating enough, but how much more devastating when someone behaves with such a crass lack of sensitivity and makes things even worse. It's nearly always "family" or in-laws, too. I've been there, and sadly it's not the kind of thing that's easily forgotten.

This thread is a timely reminder that we never know what kind of pain other people are carrying around with them on a daily basis. It's brought me up sharply, and I hope I'll think of it if I'm ever tempted to treat someone with a lack of tolerance (however difficult this might sometimes be).

Thanks to the OP and everyone else who has posted. I hope in whatever circumstances are possible, the lot of every one of you will improve xxx

oh Lucy that sounds utterly miserable. You write so beautifully about it and I'm so sorry your counsellor isn't calling you back. Your family sound utterly nightmarish. As Muriel says it's a timely reminder that you don't know what other people are going through when you look at them. Give your dc a big cuddle and well done for even writing down what you did, that takes courage.

storm welcome to the shady world of online dating. It can only get worse better

mobsnz being in a foreign country is awful when you are so homesick :(