to ask for other people who have had the week from hell to come and tell me your stories?

[toomanynicks]

I have had such a shit week. I have found out I may or may not have an incurable STD but won't know until more tests are done. I'm in a v senior position at work but someone is very subtly and cleverly back stabbing me in a way that I know about it but others find it hard to see.

The dcs have gone back to university leaving me on my own.

My dp was uninvited from a wedding that I told him he had been invited to - the groom fucked up massively and now they insist they are at full numbers. I'm upset, my friends are upset but there appears to be nothing we can do. I told dp last week I thought something was up with us, it wasn't, i was just being sensitive and we worked through it. Now he thinks I don't want him around at the wedding as he finds it hard to believe the story so he's completely distanced himself from me and I don't think he'll come back!

I cried myself to sleep last night for the first time in years and this morning I am sat at my desk feeling utterly numb!

Please tell me about your shit weeks so I have some sympathy to give out rather than being sat here feeling sorry for myself

oh auniverse what awful news. When do you think you'll find out the prognosis? fingers crossed for the trials....

JOOI can you say what this incurable STI is, the only one i can think of is Herpes and over time heard of many people with that but they seemingely manage.

Course if you don't want to say then thats fine!.

auniverseofbeaches Thats bloody awfull but FWIW me ex wife was in the same boat and only a year ago had just "weeks" to live . She was offered a clinical trail and now has bene told its all stopped and just go away and get on with your life and don't come back for around a year for a check up!

Sorry don't know quite what they did as was elsewhere in Europe.

Maybe don't go to the wedding as its poor form for your partner to be uninvited. Also could you explain you have herpes to your partner? Might make him realise why you're down. Hope you start to feel better now.

My Universal Credit claim got cancelled for 'non attendance' of a meeting, which I fucking went to and even booked my next appointment whilst there! Apparently they 'must have clicked the wrong button' and as I started a new claim immediately on the advice of the person who I rang at the job centre, that means that I can't appeal. So now I have to wait another 5 weeks and go through the whole process from scratch, I'm burning through the little savings I have as moving house was horribly expensive what with having to furnish DDs new room. Can't get in contact with my psychiatrist either for no discernible reason, nor have I been able to get a GP appointment for another issue despite spending hours on the phone every morning this week. I'm also currently on day 10 of my period (usually 3 days long) so feeling exhausted, plus DD has been waking up in the night every two hours or so having been sleeping though the night for a while. I feel like the universe is punishing me for leaving my abusive relationship, which was definitely the right thing to do for both DD and I.

So sorry that everyone on this thread is having a shit time let's hope things improve soon

I have chronic fatigue, chronic pain and fibromyalgia. I’ve been largely bedridden for the past almost 8 years. I’m hoping my hysterectomy will help eventually as my uterus was poisoning me. Very very ill.

I had a hysterectomy last year and several months on a massive hernia in the scar, which started above my belly button and unzipped the whole thing to my pubic bone causing a bunch of smaller hernias.

I cannot focus. I cannot retain any information or remember to do things. I struggle to hold a coherent conversation. On a Tuesday I organised with a mum I’d pick dd up from an activity later that day and then forgot to go thinking she’d bring her back as is the norm. So dd called me stranded and upset. She’s 10.

I’m supposed to be going to a school reunion next week in my home town. I’m never going to make it.

I’m on all sorts of pain killers, which I’m sure are getting me down. I’m very sensitive to them. I went to the gp yesterday to get antidepressants. I’m falling apart emotionally. It’s been too much. I feel like I’m losing the fight. I know I’ll pick myself up. But this week has been too much.

auniverse I am so sorry. That is so horribly sad. That’s an encouraging post from justa

toomanynicks I will have a scan in 9 weeks to check my response. We know the prognosis is not good (According to the stats, average survival is around 18 months) so the focus now is to make sure I am around for as long as possible. And prove the stats wrong

justaboy - thanks! Exactly the kind of hopeful story I need today. I believe there are some amazing trials out there....so glad your ex benefited!

Meant to add to everyone.

I've been feeling peri meno/pre menstrual to the point of spending the entire day crying at work yesterday.
My health anxiety has ramped up to levels that I am finding verrrrry difficult to cope with.
Went for a routine BP check yesterday and it's sky high.
No fucker washes the cups at work, i come in every morning to find a sink full of them and it's not my feckin job to wash them.
Still trying to sort out other people's mistakes at work which takes up my time so I'm behind with my normal day to day stuff.
My DD didn't get into a theatre group that she auditioned for.
AAAARRRRRGGGGHHHHH.

Wow thought I was having a week but no where near some of these.
I'm so sorry @auniverseofbeaches I can't imagine finding out that kind of news.

I have to hand the car back next week as I took out a PCP agreement (I KNOWWWWWW) which I knew was coming and arranged for a decent older car and a loan to tide me over. Fine with that. Then this happened:

I left my abusive husband almost 2 years ago. This week I've been having flashbacks and panic attacks. Counselor wants me to talk through the trauma and deal with it. I just want it to go away. I haven't slept properly in days and every noise I hear leads to panic that he's managed to get back in to the house.

Boiler has been acting and hasn't been working for a month. third person out yesterday €2.5k to replace, it's shot.

Storms last Friday caused a hole in the roof over the kitchen (bad extension job) I have a bucket under it, between the boiler and the car I just can't go near it.

STBXH has successfully declared himself homeless, despite living in one of his stepfathers houses. So maintenance has stopped and he won't have the DCs any more. he was always touch and go, but DC's don't understand what a fucking cunt he is so this is really hard on them. And selfishly I did enjoy my one night every month where I got to sort myself out and just relax.

Monday was a call from social to explain that my wages were now so high (€30k p/a) that I'm not entitled to any more help. So no more maintenance from DH (it was €50 a week, loads more than most I'm aware but pays for fuck all), no more help with childcare fees (youngest is 2 so 925 p/m and oldest in school so 300 p/m) which was €350 p/m, GP card is gone, no help with the mortgage ever.

I know I can get through this and it will be fine. But it's a lot for one week and I just want to cry and hide and right now there is a lot of WHY MEEEEE

@MarieIVanArkleStinks
I don't think that's quite right.
A quick google led to this page which shows they would have so many hoops to jump through and in the end they would have to show they had a sustained and positive effect on the children which includes their family relationships.
www.thefamilylawco.co.uk/information/what-are-grandparents-rights/

@poster auniverseofbeaches so sorry to hear this. I work in clinical trials. Do you know where to look for existing trials? Have you been referred to any centres/hospital conducting trials?

I wish you the best outcome.

IdClimbHimLIkeATree if nothing else, your username has made me chortle.boys Bloody exes - why are they so shit. A lot of us on this thread are single parents - I think that says a lot about the shittest weeks!

I don't want to tell anyone about the herpes thing because they are not sure! I've never had anything on my genitals, but this swab randomly appeared with it - I have no idea what this means and nor do they apparently. Though I think Dr Google says I have it but it's just appearing in a different place. I'm not sure what it means for it being contagious etc. Apparently next time I get it, I have an urgent referral set up to see a specialist same day. In the meantime, as dp has fucked off, I have saved myself the bother of telling him!

and peaches and others who left abusive relationships WELL DONE. Don't ever think you did the wrong thing. Your dcs will thank you in time :)

@boysmomma that sounds like a tough week. Hang in there.

@dreamingofhome I have been referred to the Sarah Cannon Centre (Linked to my current hospital) and to a Prof Schmid (?) at Barts. I still need to get googling, when I feel mentally strong enough! Feeling lucky to have been approved for pembrolizumab in the meantime...

@auniverse - I'm so sorry to hear your news. Sending you a huge hug and hoping for better news for you.

In fact, sending hugs to everyone on this thread who's having a crappy week.

@MarieIVanArkleStinks, I agree with @nousernamefor4me that the situation may noit be as bad as you fear. the site nouser linked to has this to say:

It is essential that you receive good legal advice at this stage because you will need to persuade the court that you have a meaningful and on-going relationship with your grandchildren, which significantly benefits their lives.

The court will always consider all the child’s circumstances and must only make an order where they consider it better for the child than making no order at all. For example, they might have to weigh up whether your continuing contact with the child might have a negative impact on the rest of the family relationships.

@auniverseofbeaches

I am feeling a bit weepy and sorry for myself after a hospital referral this morning, but your post has just made me full on weep.

I really hope that they can find something in the trials to help you. Lots and lots of love being sent your way

@Boysmomma - that is truly shit. But at least you can take heart in the fact that you are a bloody brilliant provider and parent, even if your ex is a complete piece of shit. Karma will get him.

Last week, heart attack and a sick chicken! Now looking forward to another angioplasty and drugs and drugs for life.

There’s a lot of shitty weeks, but this WILL pass. Hunker down, try not to catastrophracise and take one thing at a time

I have just had my request for flexible working turned down by my company who clearly don't know their obligations in this regard. It would make our lives so much easier and wouldn't make a jot of difference to the company. I could cry, and indeed have, several times!!

Moving house tomorrow and running out of boxes to pack with, not even halfway done and stressing like mad, had a panic attack almost every day this week over the whole thing.

Have completely run out of money and have no food

Ds not done any of his homework or reading this week as everything is chaotic due to new house (which needed renovation but cowboy builders fucked up and we have had to fix, hence running out of money. Important stuff like having to replace the front door which they destroyed) so feel really guilty over that

Dp and mil have had a massive blow out as she has pulled her usual trick of kicking off whenever some major life event happens.

She offered to buy ds's bedroom furniture, which we thought was kind and done in good spirit.
Clearly my non reaction to her buying furniture for ds's room that is both ugly and shit quality (white mdf after we requested pine in the same price range so when it chips it doesn't look horrendous) is not the drama she is looking for.

She is now accusing dp of coming to her with his hand out (something he has never done, he is a professional and takes pride in his ability to provide through his hard work) and accusing me of sitting on my arse while he paints every room in the new place. Which again is untrue, as he painted the ceilings and high areas, I did all the sanding, fillering, chasing of tradesmen, cutting in etc. It's been a team effort. I'm also packing up our stuff entirely on my own while he is at work.

Dp has defended me to her, but he is sick to death of having to.

Dp is currently now nc with her, she hasn't tried to get in touch with him and he won't make the first move either. This may well have been the straw that broke the camels back.

So now the poor bugger is not only stressed out about moving house which is innately stressful in itself, he is stressing about his 'dickhead mother' (his words not mine), our son being upset over moving and losing the bath (new house only has a shower) and feeling guilty over that too. And feeling guilty over not seeing ds as he's been working full time and then having to go straight to the new place to build furniture and paint the fresh plaster (so ds doesn't breathe in the plaster dust) So is now understandably in a fucker of a mood and is being all snappy and irritable and hangry.

I've also been knocked back at interview for the fourth time. Trying to find a job after staying at home for a few years and my confidence is taking a battering.

And the lovely sunshine has made my sun allergy rash (pmle) flare up so my hands and arms are sore and swollen and itchy, and no amount of steriod cream or antihistamine is taking the edge off.

This week has been really shit.

@ auniverseofbeaches You are in good hands between those 2. They have quite a few trials ongoing that you might be eligible for. There has been some very promising early results from some current breast cancer trials. 🌷

clinicaltrials.gov/ct2/results?cond=Breast+Cancer&term=&cntry=GB&state=&city=&dist=

I woke up this morning to the news that a dear friend had lost her battle with pneumonia in the night. I knew the chances of her surviving were small, but she's always been such a fucking fighter that I never even considered this might be the outcome. I miss her and now I'm sitting all day at my desk trying not to let my colleagues see me crying.

This is the third friend I've lost this year alone and it's only bloody May.

🌷 to everyone having a bad week. Hope next week will be better