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Is it U to wear this as a wedding guest?

341 replies

GetSetNo · 02/05/2019 21:27

I've asked a couple of people now, it's about an inch of the floor at the back if I'm wearing flats which I intend to later on or with heels, 4/5 inches.

Everyone I've asked (6 people) says it's fine and I should definitely wear it but if I were the bride, I feel as though I'd think whoever wore it was trying to steal the limelight (although, you can never truly upstage a bride).

Is everyone else BU here?

Is it U to wear this as a wedding guest?
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findingmyfeet12 · 03/05/2019 17:12

Wow what a load of bitchy people!

"why on earth do you think you'd upstage the bride in that?"

Do people who say things like this think others are stupid and can't detect their rudeness?

Retired65 · 03/05/2019 17:37

I don't like the bottom of the dress. The dress would look better of it was the same length all the way round.

booknow · 03/05/2019 17:39

I'd have an irrestible urge to cut the back bit off even out that hemlineGrin

MaybeitsMaybelline · 03/05/2019 17:43

If you’re tall it’s fine, if you are a shortie it will look like a train and I wouldn’t wear it.

Vivianebrezilletbrooks · 03/05/2019 17:45

That wouldn't upstage a bride and I actually like it. I think it's the train thing that's making you think that way. I think with flats it would look wrong though.
If you're not comfortable wearing it though, then choose something else.
I've seen far worse at weddings though.

theDudesmummy · 03/05/2019 17:47

It wouldn't upstage the bride and its not inappropriate but both the hemline and the neckline are very unflattering

DontCallMeShitley · 03/05/2019 17:55

The pattern is nice but I see what you mean about the length at the back, it looks as if someone made a mistake cutting it out and made it too short at the front though. A bit longer at the front would have been less attention seeking and would deflect from the weird back which is probably going to get caught in things, trodden on and generally dirty and torn.

If it is the style or the hem you want rather than the fit of the rest of the dress, I suppose you wouldn't be wanting a similar dress with a regular kind of hem which I think would be much more attractive.

snowdrop6 · 03/05/2019 17:55

The tail bit at the back needs chopping of ..it’s all uneven.

VerbenaGirl · 03/05/2019 17:59

Looks pretty standard wedding guest attire to me, not unreasonable at all and I don’t think there’s any risk of upstaging.

Playmytune · 03/05/2019 18:08

Sorry but I really don’t like this dress. It looks cheap and tacky.
However, if you do decide to wear it, don’t bother worrying that you might upstage the bride or bridesmaids, you won’t!

Nearly47 · 03/05/2019 18:12

I think it's a bit much. It has a bit of a dramatic shape so it would attract a lot of attention and if your in the photographs it might upstage the bride a bit depending on her dress style. I was once removed from a wedding photo by the photographer because my dress ( slimline with tiny fabric flowers stuck on front was distracting from the bride)Blush . Go for something simpler and flattering. Use this for another occasion. I like it by the way.

gingersausage · 03/05/2019 18:14

FFS. I’m sure everyone can figure out who the bride is. If not, they are probably at the wrong wedding 🙄

Bezalelle · 03/05/2019 18:15

Ohgod it's appalling! Don't do it!

Bluetrews25 · 03/05/2019 18:15

Might make the photos look very dated.
One length all around is more classic.
Like the floral.

Baconbutties · 03/05/2019 18:16

It’s nice I like it . I don’t think it would upstage the bride at all it’s looks like normal weddingy type dress to me not bridal or bridesmaidy at all as they don’t wear blue florals and the back length is a bit of a feature that obviously isn’t to everyone’s taste but I like it! .

Rubberyduck · 03/05/2019 18:17

Sorry but that is not a nice dress....

EleanorOalike · 03/05/2019 18:21

It’s not my taste but it’s not out of place when I think of the guests I’ve seen at weddings and christenings recently. It’s definitely not so stunning that it would upstage a wedding dress. If I was the bride I wouldn’t feel at all threatened or upstaged by it.

I have to say though, if that’s how you feel why would you even consider it?

TheGrey1houndSpeaks · 03/05/2019 18:27

It’s terrible! But as to upstaging the bride... Confused. No. It really wouldn’t.

RestingBitchFaced · 03/05/2019 18:29

I'm surprised so many people don't like it! I like it, and it's definitely suitable for a wedding. And it's not an actual train so don't worry about that either. Go for it OP

speakout · 03/05/2019 18:31

Oh dear. Sorry OP, it's a gruesome dress.

recrudescence · 03/05/2019 18:32

I really like the fabric but don’t ‘get’ the cut ... but then I’m a bit of an old fart. If you love it, wear it.

EdWinchester · 03/05/2019 18:35

The model has got very unfortunate legs. They don’t do the style of dress any favours. It looks like a very rigid sort of dress, so you may risk looking like a ship in full sail if you’re on the large side.

But upstaging? No, not at all.

bytheseaby123 · 03/05/2019 18:47

I can't believe how rude people are when you have clearly said you love the dress that should be enough!!!

It's obviously the train that is causing the OP to question it, not because she thinks it's better than a wedding dress!

I think if you love the dress wear it. It's not long enough at the back for it to be an issue IMO!

Have a lovely time!

thiscannotbenormal · 03/05/2019 18:50

That's a butt ugly dress IMO

bytheseaby123 · 03/05/2019 18:51

Mumsnet really is an odd place. Yesterday everyone gassing eachother up because someone didn't bother reading an email about a work event and had the horror of having to rush to NEXT.
Now tearing this person a new one because you dislike the dress and are too bitchy to understand the point of the thread.