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Is it U to wear this as a wedding guest?

341 replies

GetSetNo · 02/05/2019 21:27

I've asked a couple of people now, it's about an inch of the floor at the back if I'm wearing flats which I intend to later on or with heels, 4/5 inches.

Everyone I've asked (6 people) says it's fine and I should definitely wear it but if I were the bride, I feel as though I'd think whoever wore it was trying to steal the limelight (although, you can never truly upstage a bride).

Is everyone else BU here?

Is it U to wear this as a wedding guest?
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7salmonswimming · 02/05/2019 21:48

You’re worried about upstaging the bride/bridesmaids because it’s “look at me”. And not in a good way. It looks like something that the pissed girls at Ladies’ Day at the races would wear. It’s tacky. With an even length hem all the way round, above or below the knee, it’s just a regular floral dress with a modest neckline. The raised hemline at the front says you want to show some flesh. At a wedding.

Tacky. Sorry.

Cinnemom · 02/05/2019 21:52

It’s a ghastly dress. It’s not even nice on the model

MirriVan · 02/05/2019 21:52

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DocusDiplo · 02/05/2019 21:53

Aw, I like the dress!

Riddikulusness · 02/05/2019 21:53

You’ll neither upstage the bride nor look as if you’re trying to. You’ll blend in.

marvellousnightforamooncup · 02/05/2019 21:53

It's fine. If you like it, wear it.

NataliaOsipova · 02/05/2019 21:54

If the dress were all one length it would be lovely. As it is, it looks rather odd and is extremely unflattering on that model!

Abcd3 · 02/05/2019 21:54

Would you still like the dress if it were not as long at the back? If so, you could get it shortened at the back if you would feel more comfortable with that look. (The back could still be longer than the front, if you prefer it that way, just not as long as it is now.) I don’t think you would be upstaging the bride with the way it is, though.

bridgetreilly · 02/05/2019 21:55

It's appropriate for a black tie evening event, but I would not wear that to a day wedding.

Pret · 02/05/2019 21:55

Lol at mullet dress.

Have you got a giant toilet roll to sit on?

Juanaiguana · 02/05/2019 21:56

Blimey love, it’s not that nice a dress!
Passable yes but I certainly wouldn’t be worried about upstaging the bride or even the bridesmaids frankly

MirriVan · 02/05/2019 21:56

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pissedonatrain · 02/05/2019 21:56

It's fine.

lboogy · 02/05/2019 21:56

I love it and there's no way it would upstage the bride

StillCoughingandLaughing · 02/05/2019 21:57

Everyone I've asked (6 people) says it's fine and I should definitely wear it but if I were the bride, I feel as though I'd think whoever wore it was trying to steal the limelight (although, you can never truly upstage a bride).

This sounds deranged.

BattenburgIsland · 02/05/2019 21:57

I think it's fine. It's not to my taste but that's not to say it doesnt suit you and I dont think its utterly hideous or anything. I'm sure it will be one of many floral dresses wedding guests are wearing and wouldn't attract attention at all... certainly I cant see any scenario where it would be taking attention from the bride!

coral13 · 02/05/2019 21:57

I think you'd look lovely and I don't think it's an issue for a wedding at all.

To be apart from the hem it's quite a typical wedding guest dress. The hem is nice and unusual but that doesn't mean it will look like you're standing out too much.

Springisallaround · 02/05/2019 21:57

I like it and it looks way nicer than most of the dresses everyone gushes about over in Style and Beauty when people post then saying shall I wear this one!

Dresses are about colouring and confidence, if you look good in it, wear it. It's not remotely bridal and neither is it 'out there' for a wedding! Weddings are full of young fun people as well as older relatives, I've seen full length evening type dresses, minis, lots of legs on show, backless, summer weddings aren't full of people in navy shift dresses, whatever the more conservative members of MN may have you believe.

blue55 · 02/05/2019 21:58

How would it be stealing the limelight? It's just a dress

Jamsangwich · 02/05/2019 21:58

Could you have a dressmaker make the skirt the same length all round, if the "train" bit of it is concerning you? I think it would be very pretty.

coral13 · 02/05/2019 21:58

Also re flats, most weddings I've been to nearly everyone ends up barefoot at the end of the night so I'd ignore the comments re flat shoes!

Ghanagirl · 02/05/2019 22:00

@Famalamaringwrong
Sorry💐

Dippypippy1980 · 02/05/2019 22:00

You have amazing self confidence - i assume you are stunning and would therefore upstage the bride in any dress.

In my humble opinion it’s not a particularly nice dress - but I certainly wouldn’t have an issue with any of my guests wearing it.

I assume the bride knows you are very attractive, but she has invited you anyway - so wear what makes you comfortable and enjoy the day.

FannyWork · 02/05/2019 22:02

I think that’s fine with a cardigan. But if it would make you feel uncomfortable don’t wear it coz you’ll just feel paranoid all day.

Honeyroar · 02/05/2019 22:03

Do you have a picture of it side on? It's a very strange style, it just seems strange looking at the underside of the back of the skirt. It won't upstage the wedding party, but it might get people talking - the comments on here clearly show it's a bit marmite!

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