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To have left him stuck in the cellar?

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FreddysTash · 02/05/2019 14:13

We have a new starter at work who is a pain in the arse. He’s shadowing me and constantly disappears and is always off exploring rather than doing what he should be doing. This morning we were in the office and he asked me where he should put clinical waste. I told him we put it in the cellar but that we didn’t have time to do it now as we had to go out of office. He said he’d be quick. I said no because it takes ages to get down there, he’d need codes for the lift down there, and two different doors. He grabbed a pen and paper and asked me for the codes. Getting frustrated I wrote down the codes and told him to be really quick and off he goes.

15 minutes later he’s still not back so I check time and decide if he isn’t back by half past I’d do without him. Half past came so I packed up and headed to my car. I’d just set off when I got a frantic phone saying he was stuck in one of the rooms in the cellar. I told him to repeat the code he had and it was right so I said he’d just have to keep trying. I drove off. 5 minutes later he started ringing again. I ignored it. All in all 4 missed calls. I rang him back and he admitted he was in a different room and that’s why the code wasn’t working. I told him I’d be back at lunch. It was 9.45 at the time. He started getting irate saying it stunk down there, it was freezing, pitch black and the wind was hammering on the fire doors. I left him until 11. AIBU as he got stuck because he went where he wasn’t supposed to go?

OP posts:
scarbados · 02/05/2019 15:09

Just dropping in to say I'm sooooo jealous. You have places where you can 'accidentally' lose irritating colleagues? And lock them in? How wonderful! And there are 2 people probably still sitting on their arses doing fuck all back in my old office!

Ribeebie · 02/05/2019 15:09

What a horrible thing to do to someone. That's bullying and I really do hope he reports you for it.

HillRunner · 02/05/2019 15:10

How do you he lied about it? How do you know it wasnt a genuine mistake? If hes never seen the room befoee he may have thought he was in the correct one. Then later it becomes clear that he isn't.

Assumptions are being made that this guy is a snoop, a liar etc with no evidence at all. All we know is that he was possibly over-keen, and ended up in the wrong room somehow.

scarbados · 02/05/2019 15:10

Bollox - can't edit - meant to finish my last post with 'who should be very grateful I didn't have that ability before I retired'.

Thatdilemma · 02/05/2019 15:11

'tellmewhenthespaceshiplandscoz

In my experience the use of the term "snowflake" is also often used to justify bullying behaviour and/or just general crappy treatment of another human being. See also "It was just banter"

Indeed

Vulpine · 02/05/2019 15:11

Thats an awful thing to do.

MerryInthechelseahotel · 02/05/2019 15:11

What did he say when you let him out at 11?

Faster · 02/05/2019 15:13

I have he feeling the OP won’t be back.

londonrach · 02/05/2019 15:14

In real life no one would ever leave a another human being locked up for two hours. Op is meant to be looking after the new starter. If this is the case op i hope your new starter complains about your bullying behaviour. Locked in without access to toilet water or food. Its a police matter as you have in theory imprisoned him as you knew where he was. Yabu and a very nasty person if this is true which i suspect it isnt as i cant image anyone doing this.

Tensixtysix · 02/05/2019 15:14

You sound like a bully OP. Hope he complains to HR and that you get your backside hauled over the coals!

Gruzinkerbell1 · 02/05/2019 15:15
Grin
To have left him stuck in the cellar?
FreddysTash · 02/05/2019 15:16

Ok context needed, he could have messaged someone else in the building to let him out (which I advised him to) but he didn’t want anyone knowing he was in there. He did something similar on Monday and got a bollocking for it. The fire doors do work but set off the alarm when opened.

The clinical waste was where it should be. The cellar is where we put it when it’s ready to be taken away so no it wasn’t just left lying around.

I left because I’m on a time schedule. I don’t have time for messing around, none of us do. If he really needed to be out, he could have got out but chose to stay so not to alert anyone else.

OP posts:
SDTGisAnEvilWolefGenius · 02/05/2019 15:17

”Who's laughing?”

At least three people on this thread have said they find it hilarious, or ‘lol’, @JaneDoe8000. And others, whilst not saying they find it funny, have said they think the OP did nothing wrong, and the man basically got what he deserved. I find this deplorable. Do you?

TheGrey1houndSpeaks · 02/05/2019 15:19

So why did you give him the bloody code, op?

ThunderStorms · 02/05/2019 15:19

Hope he doesn’t need the toilet or have a medical problem you don’t know about.

What about the work he should be doing that you are preventing him from doing?

How dreadful to be new and insecure that you shadow someone who is there to mentor you. Hmm

churchthecat · 02/05/2019 15:20

He's not "trapped". He just didn't want to tell anyone else in the building that he had been trespassing in case he got another bollocking.

aidelmaidel · 02/05/2019 15:21

Sounds fair enough. He didn't listen to instructions, he went where he shouldn't have, he knew damn well he shouldn't have, he would have been safe if there'd been a fire, and you're busy--serves him bloody well right.

ThunderStorms · 02/05/2019 15:21

So let him out and give hime a verbal warning or whatever you do at your place of work. Let him out, but make sure he knows that this is his last chance before disciplinary.

HillRunner · 02/05/2019 15:21

You still haven't answered why you have him the codes though, OP. You caused this.

Halloumimuffin · 02/05/2019 15:21

I don't understand why, when he wasn't back quickly, you didn't just go and get him, or go with him in the first place?

Sounds like you suspected he'd go walkies and knowing his history, wanted to set him up and then get him in trouble again for taking too long.

And it's not unreasonable for him to message you, the person who knew where he was and gave him the codes to get down there, rather than embarrass himself with someone else. He probably (like most normal people) assumed you wouldn't leave him trapped in a cellar.

Sparklingbrook · 02/05/2019 15:22

I wish he had contacted somebody else then other staff would have found out what OP had done.

Who gave him Monday's bollocking?

How old is he?

1forAll74 · 02/05/2019 15:22

Despite what you have said about this guy, it was an awful thing that you did to him.I would go quite mad being locked in some kind of cellar.!

ForeverClumsy · 02/05/2019 15:23

constantly disappears and is always off exploring rather than doing what he should be doing

This is what you should have been addressing to start with.

What is your clinical waste policy?

Sparklingbrook · 02/05/2019 15:24

If you are shadowing somebody generally you are stuck to their side like glue.

DishingOutDone · 02/05/2019 15:24

Why did you post OP? So we would all have a chuckle about what a really cool co-worker you are?

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