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AIBU?

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Aibu to get a bit huffy with DH?

72 replies

ApplePieIsAmazing · 01/05/2019 18:43

DH and I both work nightshifts at a high demand company. In the morning while he was sleeping, I had to attend a 2 hour meeting about improving the work place. It's all a load of shite as far as I'm concerned, all ideas were shot down by management. I left the meeting annoyed, managed to get back to sleep alright when I got home.

DH and I woke up and decided to get fish and chips for dinner before work. He jumped on his PlayStation and started playing a game and usually he would jump on for a bit to wake up and then we would get dinner together. Tonight he played for a while and when I said shall we get dinner soon he said "yeah shortly I'll just finish this match". I thought that meant in the next 5 mins or so. Half an hour later I am starving and we are going to be cutting ourselves short of time to get dinner and get ready.

I said are you nearly ready? He suggested I go out to get dinner myself while he stays home. Now here's where I'm not sure whether or not iabu. I said "I suppose so..I'd much rather you come though" in a bit of an annoyed tone, so he got up and then we went and got dinner. Good thing we got it when we did because we didn't have a great deal of time to get ready.

I know this doesn't seem like a big deal but my friend said I was a bit of a dick and should have gotten dinner myself. Problem is, I'll have to carry 3 bulky boxes, plus drinks through the front door, which is a pain in the arse to get through, just so he can play his game.

So, wibu? Or not? Husband hasn't really said anything but I could tell he was a little annoyed at the time

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Bookworm4 · 01/05/2019 18:45

Is this a joke? You can't go to the chippy on your own? Have you heard of a shopping bag? You sound hard work.

Magmatic80 · 01/05/2019 18:46

Would he have got off his arse if you’d only fetched yours?

slipperywhensparticus · 01/05/2019 18:48

No one jumps on a playstation for five minutes it takes that long to load the games sometimes

ApplePieIsAmazing · 01/05/2019 18:48

Bookworm I wouldn't have minded if he asked me earlier if I'd go on my own, but he left it till last minute and the shop don't have large bags, everything is in boxes. And no I don't have any bags laying around at home

Magmatic well I suppose he would, I wouldn't just get my own though

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NeatFreakMama · 01/05/2019 18:48

How far is the chippie?

ApplePieIsAmazing · 01/05/2019 18:48

He played for an hour total

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ApplePieIsAmazing · 01/05/2019 18:49

About 15 min drive there

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Bookworm4 · 01/05/2019 18:51

Chippy boxes aren't exactly huge, stop being a drama queen. Really bugs me women who whine for a mans help, it was a bloody chippy 🙄

ZippyBungleandGeorge · 01/05/2019 18:51

I think you could've gone on your own and next time he could go and you could stay home and watch TV, read a book etc for the half hour it takes to get there and back

ZippyBungleandGeorge · 01/05/2019 18:52

Or get it delivered

ApplePieIsAmazing · 01/05/2019 18:53

Oh, you happen to know the sizes of ALL boxes in every chippy? I'm amazed. I suppose you are a perfect partner too?

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Aprillygirl · 01/05/2019 18:53

Don't buy the drinks and have water if it's too much for you to carry.

ApplePieIsAmazing · 01/05/2019 18:54

Unfortunately they don't deliver :( but that's a good point zippy. Perhaps I was still annoyed about the mornings meeting and slightly sleep deprived

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Aprillygirl · 01/05/2019 18:55

And why don't you have bags at home? I thought everyone had a massive bag of carrier bags at home.

BooksAndCatsAndBooksAndCats · 01/05/2019 18:56

You can't drive to the chippy and buy food for two people on your own?

Is there a massive drip feed coming?

YourSarcasmIsDripping · 01/05/2019 18:56

Next time go and get it just for yourself.
You wanted to spend some time with him i assume(even if it's just going to the chippy) and have dinner together. He couldn't be arsed. You shouldn't be arsed to get his food either or making sure he has enough time to eat and get ready and what not.

Atm you sound like his mother...not good for either of you or the relationship.

MyCatHogsTheBed · 01/05/2019 18:57

He sounds like he was a manchild, you'd worked an extra two hours to him, HE should have volunteered to go to the chippy for you both.

How many chippy meals did you buy? Was it just the two of you?

BooksAndCatsAndBooksAndCats · 01/05/2019 18:57

And what do you keep in a big annoying pile under your kitchen sink if you don't have any carrier bags? Grin

But seriously you don't have any bags in the house at all? How do you do your shopping?

Nicknacky · 01/05/2019 18:57

Does it really take two people to get a take away?

Duchessgummybuns · 01/05/2019 18:57

This is a complete non issue. If you wanted a chippy you should have gone and got one ffs

Giantsbane · 01/05/2019 18:59

I think you're BU

EspressoX10 · 01/05/2019 18:59

You were driving there and couldn't do it alone? That's bonkers

ApplePieIsAmazing · 01/05/2019 19:00

I think it was more the fact he said "we'll go get dinner shortly, after I wake up a bit". Otherwise I would have gone myself much earlier

A charity group was collecting bags for the kids to make clothes and things out of, so I gave away our bag collection after the last food shop Grin

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WillLokireturn · 01/05/2019 19:00

I hate playstation, it steals time. And then the player expects life to be done for him (or her) around them and be fed and watered. Ywbnu to be annoyed after your long meeting that he just abdicated any responsibility and put it all into you by default to then do the adulting (& do the 1950s housewife getting dinner ready stuff 🙄).

FlossieTeacakesFurCoat18 · 01/05/2019 19:01

I don't really want to pile on because I can see why you're feeling miffed but... didn't Miss Piggy say something about never eating more than you can carry? 🤣 Flipping heck how big are these boxes from the chippy?

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