Aibu to get a bit huffy with DH?

[ApplePieIsAmazing]

DH and I both work nightshifts at a high demand company. In the morning while he was sleeping, I had to attend a 2 hour meeting about improving the work place. It's all a load of shite as far as I'm concerned, all ideas were shot down by management. I left the meeting annoyed, managed to get back to sleep alright when I got home.

DH and I woke up and decided to get fish and chips for dinner before work. He jumped on his PlayStation and started playing a game and usually he would jump on for a bit to wake up and then we would get dinner together. Tonight he played for a while and when I said shall we get dinner soon he said "yeah shortly I'll just finish this match". I thought that meant in the next 5 mins or so. Half an hour later I am starving and we are going to be cutting ourselves short of time to get dinner and get ready.

I said are you nearly ready? He suggested I go out to get dinner myself while he stays home. Now here's where I'm not sure whether or not iabu. I said "I suppose so..I'd much rather you come though" in a bit of an annoyed tone, so he got up and then we went and got dinner. Good thing we got it when we did because we didn't have a great deal of time to get ready.

I know this doesn't seem like a big deal but my friend said I was a bit of a dick and should have gotten dinner myself. Problem is, I'll have to carry 3 bulky boxes, plus drinks through the front door, which is a pain in the arse to get through, just so he can play his game.

So, wibu? Or not? Husband hasn't really said anything but I could tell he was a little annoyed at the time

Eliza, please read my last few comments.

Honestly the amount of comments like yours I have received, and seen others get is astounding. We are all humans and sometimes we do silly things. If i didn't think that my behaviour was a little off I wouldn't have commented would I?

It's not really about being capable of getting fish and chips on your own though is it? It's OP's DH saying he'll come too, making her wait until the last minute and then deciding he can't be arsed. I'd be pissy too.

If he'd said before going on the PlayStation that he wasn't going to come too, then that would be different

Thankyou gentleman! That's exactly what it is! I must not be very articulate

What do you order that you get three boxes?

2x fish, big bag of chips, pineapple fritters, crab sticks and some prawns. We take the extras to work for our midnight lunch

I hate playstation, it steals time. And then the player expects life to be done for him (or her) around them and be fed and watered

Not in my world it isn't. Or are you just generalising?

Tbh I'm with you OP, if it was expected he was coming with me he can come off the ruddy game and come with me. Dont leave me sitting around waiting when communication earlier could have happened.

I have no issues with the PlayStation, hell I play on my computer when I can but yeah, it was the expectation of him coming, waiting for him and then the change of mind

I’d find that infuriating and for his tardiness make him go out and get it whilst I stayed at home with my feet up

And that’s exactly what I’ve done too!

You’re far too accommodating OP

Missing the point, but... do you buy every meal from outside? Do you never cook?

I think the bigger issue here is.....pineapple fritters uurrrggghhh

No seriously op. I think you have just had a stressful and frustrating day and you gave taken it out on DP. I'm sure a breakfast in the morning as you suggested would be nice with a side of "explanation". Just let him know next time to tell you if he us not coming with you and you can collect it earlier saves you rushing.... I want chippy now 😀

You take your DH everywhere with you? Bizarre.
What would have been wrong with saying 'I'm off to the chippy, what do you want? ' and telling him to make the brew etc while you're gone.
As for being unable to carry 3 light boxes....well.

@gamerchick
No generalisation. Merely a comment on what OP described. Nothing more, nothing less.

YABU. For all the reasons stated by others posters. Be independent and get your own food. DH procrastinates over our takeaway or decides he'll order when he is hungry. I take the decision out of his hands (as I do with most things) and get my own food.

Molly usually we do cook, however sometimes you can't be added before a long night shift. We both have physically and mentally demanding roles

That's supposed to be arsed, not added

@ApplePieIsAmazing

Ok, thanks. Sorry if I sounded judgey, it was just because you'd got a takeaway tea and suggested bringing your DH a takeaway breakfast and I was all, really?

We cook everything from scratch here. Everything. It's a faff.

I hope your shift goes well. Xx

Not a problem :) when we are off we cook at home, usually on one of our night shifts we just get a take out, same goes for breakfast

Everything cooked from scratch? I'll be at yours for breaky then, I love home cooked food

Thanks! X

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I completely sympathise with you OP!
My OH will tell me every time that he is coming to the shops/for dinner etc with me and is just “finishing his game”... I know how long a game of Fifa lasts 😂 I’ll be standing waiting for a while and it winds me up.
It’s not that I need him to come with me but we only see each other on a weekend and I like to spend as much time with him as possible... as I’m sure you do with DH, especially with the unsociable hours you both work.

This thread is the epitome of Mumsnet 😂
Let’s ignore the fact that a relationship is two people working together and have a dIg at OP for not doing it on her own.
I live on my own. I can do pretty much everything by myself. But if someone says they are doing it with me and I wait for them it’s bloody irritating if they then can’t be arsed. They’ve wasted my time.
I hear you OP. It would drive me crackers.
Totally different to volunteering for the office chippy run - it’s the expectation and unreliability, not the task itself.

When your tired the littlest of things really grate on you.... a few years ago I use to clean and then work nights in a pub so working from 12pm till about 3am .... my partner left a tea bag on the side I blew my lid and kicked him out 🤣🤣 luckily we see the funny side and 5 years later we have a baby and working together but still laughable.... some of these comments are ridiculous

Why did you have fish and chips if you had just woken up and were going to work. Why not breakfast?

To fuel them through 14 hour shifts where there's very little access to additional food and precious little appeal in cooking a dinner at around 8.30am, maybe?