NC for this. Not a TAAT but a recent thread made me think to ask this hear. Genuinely want to know if IABU...
I was closeish with my sister until a few years ago, when she left her husband and broke up her family out of the blue. My DH and I are still friendly with her ex, the uncle of our DC, who didn't deserve to be treated in that way. It's a difficult situation but I've tried my best.
She has refused several invitations to visit us, since we moved away from her area. Fine, she is within her rights. She texts us greetings at holidays and so on - as you would to a distant but cordial friend.
But, confusingly, she still sends cards and gifts for most occasions (birthdays, xmas, etc.). Over the years they've become more and more soppy and demonstrative. Think "Best sister ever" etc. etc
AIBU to think she is just being mean. There is such an obvious undercurrent to them. I know she's upset with me, I know I've not been perfect but at the same time, neither has she and she can't expect everything to go her way when she has behaved badly.
Are these not jabs? IABU to think I should say something... fwiw, our DM agrees with me that they are intended to be hurtful.