because I"m fed up of being responsible of paying for all the extras, all the holidays...I match up his salary because I'm so fed up of paying more..he never has money. It was my 40th and he got me nothing (I didn't want him to put it on credit card), Christmas the same. I arranged week end away and I pay for it all. I have savings he has none. Do not think I'm treating myself while he has nothing, I'm working 60 hours a week in a pressured job plus I'm in charge of the childcare, house admin, pretty much all the cooking.
I resent him so much, when we met he sold himself as someone driven and ambitious...he has been 20years in the same job, very little salary increase, rare bonuses, I got him a training for xmas 2017 and he hasn't finished it yet since he discovered he has 2 years to finish it. it feels it only goes one way and I can't take it anymore...he told me he thinks one of the kids needs tutoring, who is going to pay for it ? me