DH told me to "sort out my grey hair"

[Nearly47]

So my, not so dear at the moment, DH said I need to sort out my grey hairs. We were going for an walk around nearby woods so I didn't bother to even combing my hair so was a bit of a mess. But then he looks at me and says: " you need to sort out you grey hair". I am unreasonable to be really angry and tell him to sort out his belly, get a hair implant, sort out wrinkly face and list every fault I find on him? A little bit tongue in cheek but also pissed off at double stardards of society I have a few strands but it didn't really bother untill now

Tinklittlelaugh- I totally agree (being one of those women). The really stupid thing about hair dye is that it really doesn’t make your face look younger. Possibly from 20 metres if you have a young figure and dress quite youthfully then you may look younger, but generally if you’re 50 you look somewhere around there

Ha ha, yes a big artificial uniformly brown helmet of hair really looks great, doesn’t it? Dyed hair can look like Lego person “clip on hair”.
Or “blonde”, because when we’re over 40, dying it yellow like every other person in our demographic is totally convincing everyone that there is not a white hair on one’s head, despite the saggy chops and frown lines.
Hair dye is very often not an improvement.
And your man can get the Grecian 2000 out himself and do a few sit-ups, can’t he? The cheeky, wee Adonis!

My DH asked me when I am going to start dyeing my hair, I said, when you do yours!

I like my grey, I can’t wait until I get the proper streaks at the temple, then I am going to buy a big can of hairspray and go all Frankenstein’s Wife.

You should tell him to sort out his ugly attitude! If you're comfortable with your grey hairs then it's none of his business. To be fair from your description of him OP he hardly sounds like an Adonis.

Well you were rude back to him, so you're clearly a hypocrite

Since when was standing up to rude, cheeky feckers hypocritical? Should we just take the insults and not respond? They can be as rude as they like but your advice is to say nothing be a doormat, is that right?

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Lego hair

Agree Marchin. Prissys is the right word. Sometimes I think people come to MN to be permanently enraged and offended. It really gets old on some threads

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Also agree with @DizzyPhillips. My Partner is larger, but it's his issue and he knows it. I can't solve it for him. No more than he can solve my many issues.

And I don't like to wash/brush my hair too often, I still have to clean my teeth and shower every day. I sure as shit probably wouldn't bother for a wood walk. It'd get a smooth out of the pony/bun it would likely be in.

OFGS it was a one-off. There are some seriously prissy types around this evening on MN

And in general lately. I think they just have a general need to try and put someone down to make themselves feel better.

I love my grey hairs. I never though I would, especially since I started getting them young. I also forget to brush my hair sometimes. Guess i have more important things to think about than whether my hair is looking nice for other humans or not

Wow-my husband said "I don't mind it" when I was moaning about my few strands of grey hair and I almost replied "I dye my hair for myself not you!" If he said what yours said I'd be referring to him in the past tense!

That was a nasty thing to say to you.

I'd be tempted to wear a series of ridiculous hats.

Grey hair can look really gorgeous. I am someone who believes in taking care of yourself and looking your best whenever possible but I don't consider "sorting" greys to be an essential part of this. Obviously if someone chooses to dye over their greys then good for them, but I think it's perfectly legitimate to just let yourself go grey naturally. It's not as is he's even raising a legitimate concern, like a serious weight problem or not washing often enough.

Anyway, I'm rambling now - YANBU. Your DH is being a cheeky twat. I would start in on the nagging and would not stop until he'd cleaned his act up - tell him he needs to go on a diet, start a new skin care regime, join the gym and actually go, get a new wardrobe, change his beard shaving/trimming routine, start getting both manicures and pedicures, and oooh... What about his body hair? The possibilities are endless OP. Let him have it.