DH told me to "sort out my grey hair"

[Nearly47]

So my, not so dear at the moment, DH said I need to sort out my grey hairs. We were going for an walk around nearby woods so I didn't bother to even combing my hair so was a bit of a mess. But then he looks at me and says: " you need to sort out you grey hair". I am unreasonable to be really angry and tell him to sort out his belly, get a hair implant, sort out wrinkly face and list every fault I find on him? A little bit tongue in cheek but also pissed off at double stardards of society I have a few strands but it didn't really bother untill now

Cheeky bastard. Use his credit card to book yourself a hair appointment somewhere fancy if you want to dye your hair. If you're happy with your hair how it is then simply tell him to fuck off.

My oh got the sulks because I've stopped dyeing my hair shade 12.0 as I can't deal with brassiness or roots.
I dye it shade 8 or 9 now and there's no brassiness nor do the roots look as shocking. I'm delighted.
Just do your own thing and tell him he needs a nutsack lift n shift.

Unless he's a Jason Momoa look alike I'd tell him to get stuffed
Medusa I think the lovely Jason would appreciate grey!

Rage and him.

Then go spend £300 of his money "getting it fixed" in a really expensive salon.

He won't ask again.

Hmm he shouldn't have said it and mine never has but possibly because I sort it and take a lot of care over my appearance in a natural sort of way. He too is always clean and tidy and watches his weight.

I took a pile of photos a few years ago at a party OH was in the background of some of them. He said why did you make me look as if I had a fat beer belly. I had to turn away and pretend to be busy.

“Hmm he shouldn't have said it and mine never has but possibly because I sort it and take a lot of care over my appearance in a natural sort of way”.

If you mean you dye your hair, that’s not “natural”. Men wishing to “take care of appearance” don’t dye their hair.

I'd have told him to take a look in the mirror! Cheeky sod

if you're not happy about your weight, do something about it!

I agree with the poster who sees nothing wrong with this. This isn't him having a problem with you, this is him telling you to do something about a problem you have with yourself. (His weight is irrelevant, because no-one has a problem with it, based on the facts posted.)

Well you’d gone out without even combing your hair. That paints a picture about how much you care about your appearance.

Maybe you should have told him to sort out his whatever, and it might have prompted a conversation about why you both don’t make any effort any more and whether you’re both really happy with that.

She’d gone out for a walk in the woods, not tea at the Ritz!

Use his credit card to book yourself a hair appointment somewhere fancy if you want to dye your hair.

This is terrible advice. You could be arrested under the fraud act of. 2006

Rude fucker. Tell him to sort out his travelling hairline or beer gut or whatever wonderful cosmetic feature he must have going

I did tell him, not the hair transplant because was worried he might actually decide to do it ( can go very wrong ). He says he was trying to help in case I hadn't noticed. I can't see that we'll these days ( Getting old is pits). But still very sexist. And the way he said it was sooo bad!
He has lots of grey hair. Far more than me but he shaves his head.
I don't know yet if I ever want to colour it
( Not going to happen any time soon after this comment! ). Had it coloured in the past and very fine curly hair became very dry and brittle.
He can an youth obsessed idiot sometimes but then I tell him to give his head a shake and he acts normal again... But makes me worry about his values to be honest...

Hmm he shouldn't have said it and mine never has but possibly because I sort it and take a lot of care over my appearance in a natural sort of way. He too is always clean and tidy and watches his weight.

DH has never said anything like that but that's because he's not a cockwomble. HTH

Has a made other negative comments OP? Was this a one-off thing?

Well I'm terribly grey and my hair will not take color at all, so couldn't color it if I wanted to ! Anyone said that to me would mostly definitely get their arse handed to them!

She’d gone out for a walk in the woods, not tea at the Ritz!

Combing your hair is a basic, along with getting a wash and brushing your teeth.

If she can’t even be arsed doing it when going out then as I said, it paints a picture about how much she cares about her appearance in general. Which is fine if she’s happy. Her DH obviously isn’t so much.

I’d still love DH if he let himself slide to the extent that he couldn’t even be arsed combing his hair before we left the house I wouldn’t fancy him for much longer, regardless of where we were going out to.

I would most probably have told him to bugger off and not return until he had sorted out all of his own myriad of imperfections. I won't be spoken to like that by anyone.

Cheeky fucker.

He'd have fun with me. I stopped dyeing my hair six years ago and now have natural highlights - lovely silvery ones! I love my greying hair. I have a pixie cut and am planning to look like Jamie Lee Curtis...only shorter and rounder....hee hee hee

he was "trying to help"? OMFG.

DH said my hair could do with some shampoo the other day.

So I said yeah and went on a spa day

That'll learn him

Do not be pressurised into colouring your hair. Your decision totally. Stand firm now or he may try to impose his views again eg the clothes you wear.