Is this crossing boundaries

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A bit perplexed so wanted your thoughts as I don’t feel I can voice them at home . I have a friend that I haven’t seen for weeks . We work together and see eachother daily normally. All. Back to normal tomorrow when he returns from a big trip overseas . He had text me on many occasions saying how much he misses me , misses hanging out at work , talking etc since he’s been away . Just got a message from him saying that he’s never missed me like this before and can’t wait to see me this week. We are only friends but it seems a bit full on . I am married, he is in a semi relationship . Why do I feel unsettled ? Are boundaries a bit crossed here ? Thanks

Sounds like to me your occupying the emotional space a girlfriend should be occupying

That in itself is a bit worrying

@trebla I hope you’re right . I’m hanging onto your words . We work in a small environment so I’m dreading this . Part of me is hoping that he is just going through an emotional phase. He also left voice notes so I know it’s him and genuine

I'd just be open, neutral and curious. Your radar is already on alert so you are unlikely to sleepwalk into an awkward scenario. Let us know how it goes ♡

Thanks I will. I’m a little apprehensive . It feels so odd but I’m
Hoping he just needs a bit t of support

I do have male friends but this would be odd to me. My best male friend did say to me once over coffee, 'oh I've really missed this just having a chat and a laugh', we'd both had a lot on family and work wise and these days often meet up with DH his DW, the DCs or at a wedding, funeral, event etc whereas when we were younger we had lots of time to just hang out, have a coffee and a chat

I’ve been in work for the last two hours and he is totally normal! Like nothing was said, like we saw eachother yesterday. Granted , we are surrounded by other office staff . So strange and out of character .i feel unnerved