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To be annoyed at husband ?

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Whyohwhydo · 26/04/2019 15:57

Hi all!

Maybe i’m over-reacting but need to vent !

DH has away for 4 days for a Work trip and came home late last Night.
I was looking forward to a cosy family night tonight - we have 3 children , 2 under 5 and a teenager.

But no ... He is off to spend 3 hours at the cinema because he MUST see the new avengers film tonight.

So no time With the children , as he came home from Work and started doing Jobs, and i have to put 2 if them to bed so they Will be asleep when he gets home.

Wtf?!!

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Dagnabit · 26/04/2019 17:18

I get that OP is cross as her dh has been away and gone out again but the film isn't a stupid film or for 7yos!! Don't be such a twat Hmm

BettyJune07 · 26/04/2019 17:20

I know how you feel OP! DH has been on afternoons all week meaning he only sees the kids for an hour tops before school, decided to do over time so I've not even seen him after work either. Today he informs me hes going round to his friends house when hes back from work as today is a half shift. Kids are upset and crying because normally we have food and a film when hes back at 7.30, but tonight it'll be get home, get showered, go back out again! Fabulous, and I've ran out of southern comfort because he drank the last of it Shock men!

Stormy76 · 26/04/2019 17:24

That’s a selfish thing to do, he could have taken the teen with him at least ....it’s an avengers film! I would have been pissed if my DH did that, you are definitely not BU

Geminijes · 26/04/2019 17:25

What country are you in Op? I ask as the release date has been tailored to be same nearly worldwide to prevent spoilers making their release online.

'As it would be impossible for Marvel to put the movie in international markets a week early and spoilers not immediately making their way online. The same release date nearly across the world should guarantee that all fans get to go in to Endgame as clean as possible.'

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Whyohwhydo · 26/04/2019 17:25

In reply to another post i’m not saying that parents need to spend all their Free time With them. I’m just disappointed that after a few days away he doesn’t want to spend time With them.

How would it be received if I did that?

I can tell you the amount of criticism i get from spending time away from my children and questions of ”but who takes Care of the children?”

I respond: they have another parent . He takes care of them .

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Bluntness100 · 26/04/2019 17:27

I find that very odd. Has he went on his own? It would indicate to me he doesn't want to be at home. If it was just he was a massive geek he'd have went earlier.

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Whyohwhydo · 26/04/2019 17:27

*them = children !

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G5000 · 26/04/2019 17:33

I just got back from 4 day work trip this morning and went to see the Avengers straight from airport - even though I could have also picked the kids up early. DH agreed that I was not U (as he came with me). it's the Endgame! There will be spoilers all over in the next 2 seconds. There will be other family evenings.

booboo82 · 26/04/2019 17:35

ues you are being unreasonable we've waited a year for this film let him enjoy it !!!

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Whyohwhydo · 26/04/2019 17:38

Yeah cos he only has tonight to enjoy it ! Ffs

How awful of me to not let him .

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justarandomtricycle · 26/04/2019 17:42

It turns out he...
😎
...refers Marvel to DC.

justarandomtricycle · 26/04/2019 17:42

Ha. *prefers

HollowTalk · 26/04/2019 17:46

Couldn't he at least have taken your teenager to it?

justarandomtricycle · 26/04/2019 17:48

I don't really think YABU, OP. I can just see ways a person could do this without being a terrible person. To many it's a big deal, even if only in the entertainment/hobby sense.

HollowTalk · 26/04/2019 17:55

Surely if it was so important to him he would've been able to give you plenty of notice? If he'd been looking forward to it he would've known the release date.

ToeSocks · 26/04/2019 18:07

Leave him to go see his film !

Get a takeaway on him , when the kids are in bed pour a large glass of wine with a film of your choice ! Enjoy it - that's what I would do Smile

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Whyohwhydo · 26/04/2019 18:12

Thankyou toesocks !

The teenager and I are going to watch a cheesy film together and enjoy it 😊

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Leeds2 · 26/04/2019 18:17

Did he ask the teen to go with him (if s/he wanted to)?

burntprop · 26/04/2019 18:20

YABU! It's Endgame!

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Whyohwhydo · 26/04/2019 18:20

No the teen wasn’t invited 😞

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Bluntness100 · 26/04/2019 18:56

Ehrm, I'm not sure how to say this, but are you sure that's where he is and he's alone? He's not seeing someone else?

It's very very odd behaviour op.

thecatsarecrazy · 26/04/2019 19:03

Uggh no this bloody film has caused a row in our house too. Dh wants to take our eldest 2, thought he had already booked tickets I said yeah fine whatever weeks ago .. But no he hadn't and apparently it's because I hadn't given a straight answer. Bollocks. Now he's going at 3pm on sunday. So another day i will be home alone all day with a 2 year old. I said I never get any bloody break!

GeorgiaGirl52 · 26/04/2019 19:33

If it was any other film YANBU, BUT it's ENDGAME!!!! So since you must know how invested he is in the Marvel Universe, yes, YABU.
My grandson is missing his mother's birthday to see it. He and his uncle have had tickets booked for weeks, have planned what t-shirts they are wearing, where they will eat afterward (McDonalds Happy Meals have the characters in them), and finally a trip to the Comic Book Store to buy a momento. You can't win - the Avengers are mightier than you and your DC!!

YemenRoadYemen · 26/04/2019 19:50

Surely - surely! - he takes the kids to his parents tomorrow alone?!

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Whyohwhydo · 26/04/2019 20:12

Do you really think i should let him take the children tomorrow ? Is that not a bit too dramatic?

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