To be annoyed at husband ?

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Hi all!

Maybe i’m over-reacting but need to vent !

DH has away for 4 days for a Work trip and came home late last Night.
I was looking forward to a cosy family night tonight - we have 3 children , 2 under 5 and a teenager.

But no ... He is off to spend 3 hours at the cinema because he MUST see the new avengers film tonight.

So no time With the children , as he came home from Work and started doing Jobs, and i have to put 2 if them to bed so they Will be asleep when he gets home.

Wtf?!!

I was going to suggest maybe he needs a bit of down time however as he left a crying child he is been very unreasonable

Blimey. Even my Marvel mad dd is waiting until tomorrow.

I understand him wanting to see the film but he could absolutely have waited until tomorrow. I’d be livid.

He does things when he wants to

Well there you go then. Why are you surprised at this?

Selfish. YANBU.

What's with the Random capitalisation?

So, do you get to go out, and just leave him with the kids? As if I don't already know the answer to this question.

He could have seen it yesterday or the day before ! He was completely child free-
We are in a different country so it’s been out for a few days.

Yes i know we have tomorrow- which we are spending at the in laws !

But thats for another thread 😂

Wow! He has been away and now back doesn’t even want to spend time with his kids and just left a sobbing child. Selfishly putting his own needs -well wants actually- above the needs of his distraught child. Awful.

Sorry for random capitalisation - phone!

Funny how some men, when they have these hobbies and interests and various pursuits, they almost NEVER include taking the children with them.

Selfish fuckers.

YANBU obviously. I would tell him (when he comes in) that tomorrow you are going out for the day- ALONE - and he can have the kids.

Sauce for the goose and all.

Self centred prick.

I don't actually agree with his behaviour BUT it was only released yesterday so he couldn't have seen it before. (Although we saw it last night due to partly what LittleElle said) and its sold out quite a lot of places.

I actually do get to go out and do things by myself and spend weekends away .
However i use that time to do things for ME and then when i’m With the children it’s about them.

I don't know about this one actually.

On the face of it YANBU but it is really, REALLY hard to avoid people spoiling that film for you.

Also, work trips are often shit and I will often become laser-focused on whatever I am looking forward to when I get home, just to get through it, especially if the thing I am looking forward to was postponed because of the work trip.

Granted for me it is usually a sit-down dinner or a trip out with family or something because my life revolves around them all, but I can see it being something else one day.

I mean the reverse of this would be that he's got through the work trip from hell looking forward to a film where 20+ films plots converge, wanting to see it asap because of spoiler twats, and was not allowed to enjoy it without a massive fuss and a guilt trip. I can see both sides.

Sorry x post with you saying you're not in the uk.

Let him take the dc to the in-laws while you catch up with all your must -do things!

Is he heavily into Marvel?

I don't understand this mindset. I'm not one of those people who feel that all spare time should be spent with the DC. But for pete's sake, after a trip away my DC would be desperate for me/DH to spend a little time with them.

That's horrible. Your poor DC.

He cares more about seeing a stupid superhero film than spending time with his kids? That's horrible. I'd tear a strip off him for that.

His priorities need a serious rethink.

Definitely see why you're miffed. How obnoxious.

I marvel at his cheek, but I think you need to avenge yourself, OP

Why couldn't be go to a late night showing after they were in bed? I worked away a lot until recently and had ideas of cinema, theatre trips and gallery exhibitions in the evenings but the reality was I was exhausted, often had team meetings or felt I ought to have dinner with colleagues.

Haha lookingelsewhere - that cheered me up!

Doubt it was the Work trip from hell - he finished at 4.30pm everyday and went for dinner and drinks each evening . So he COULD have chosen to see the film there OR wait till tomorrow .

I didnt make a massive fuss- think his children were doing that .

Love a corny joke.

Make sure you get some time off tomorrow - your DH will need to stay at home catching up with his children at long last!

If it’s a one off, then I don’t think it’s a particularly big deal (my DH works away every Mon-Thu, sometimes longer, so if I imposed rules like this he would never see his friends at all).

If your DH constantly puts his own needs before his family, however, YANBU. Kid wrangling alone all week is a nightmare.

He sounds very immature and selfish. Unfortunately, if he does this kind of thing often, the children will soon get the message that they're not as important to him as this other crap (like movies that for some reason have to be seen on a specific night).