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Original poster

WIBU? Parking tickets

65 replies

QuestionableMouse · 26/04/2019 15:24

I own the car that my mum drives. Every time she goes into Asda lately she's getting a parking ticket and I'm a bit fed up of it.

The car is in my name but she's a named driver on the insurance and uses it once a week to do her shopping. She is disabled but can walk/drive okay. She sometimes has my nephews with her and is blaming them for being so long.

I've just opened another parking ticket where she's been in Asda for almost four hours. (12 ish until almost 4)She thinks I'm being unreasonable because three hours isn't long enough. I think she is because we've had at least 5 parking tickets now.

I'm so fucking fed up. She's now gone in a strop and told me to take the fucking car back because I'm making her paranoid about using it. I don't care if she uses it but I'm fed up of the constant parking tickets!

OP posts:
hidinginthenightgarden · 26/04/2019 15:28

Who is paying for them?
If she expects you to pay for them then stop her using the car. 3 hours is more than enough time to do the shopping.

youknowmedontyou · 26/04/2019 15:28

If you're paying for them then YANBU.

Original poster
QuestionableMouse · 26/04/2019 15:29

She pays but they're issued in my name. It's also such a waste of money because its £40 a pop.

OP posts:
Fiveletters · 26/04/2019 15:29

Is she paying them or expecting you to?

If she’s paying them, I’d leave her to it.
If she’s expecting you to pay them, she’s a CF and I wouldn’t let her use my car anymore.

BruceAndNosh · 26/04/2019 15:30

Who pays the ticket fine?

Fiveletters · 26/04/2019 15:30

Sorry cross-posted

Oliversmumsarmy · 26/04/2019 15:31

Wouldn’t it be cheaper for her to get her shopping delivered?

Sirzy · 26/04/2019 15:32

If she is paying then leave her to it. Enough of them and she will soon realise it’s not worth it

Eliza9919 · 26/04/2019 15:32

How is it taking her 4hrs to do the shopping???

BruceAndNosh · 26/04/2019 15:32

Sorry, cross post.
If she pays the fine, that's her problem.

It's not like speeding where the offences tot up.

How the heck can anyone bear to spend nearly 4 hours in asda?

Teddybear45 · 26/04/2019 15:32

If she’s disabled and she’s in Asda I think you should be able to dispute them. The time limit is to prevent non-customers from parking there not customers!

TacoTeabagging · 26/04/2019 15:33

WTF is she doing for 4 HOYRS in a supermarket?! Genuinely baffled by this!!

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QuestionableMouse · 26/04/2019 15:35

I'm pissed off because they're issued in my name and I don't want dragging into it.

We've had at least five, a couple of which were overturned but the rest paid. If I mention it all she does is gets defensive and tells me she has to go shopping. Oh and I'm making her feel guilty and paranoid when she uses the car.

I've brought up online shopping in the past and been shot down.

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hellsbellsmelons · 26/04/2019 15:38

Wowzer - 4 hours! Doing what exactly???
I'm in and out of Asda as quickly as I can be.
Does she have a disabled badge?
Next time she goes in she needs to go to the customer service desk and speak to them about how long she spends in there and why and they should be able to help her avoid parking tickets.

EvaHarknessRose · 26/04/2019 15:38

Is she using asda as a soft play for the children?

Nanasueathome · 26/04/2019 15:39

I would question how anyone can be in Asda for 4 hours

CuriousaboutSamphire · 26/04/2019 15:39

Take back the car?

If she can't be btohered to prottect yoru financial interests then she shouldn't have any financial connection with you.

What happens if the car gets towed and she refuses to pay the fees and fines fot hat?
Quick answer - your credit rating gets screwed!

Original poster
QuestionableMouse · 26/04/2019 15:42

Yes she had a blue badge. They go in the cafe and sit then chat to loads of people on the way round I think.

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OnlyFoolsnMothers · 26/04/2019 15:43

4hrs in Asda....how is that possible?

You need to understand the law OP, you arent liable for these tickets. They are for the person driving (if council issued they are your responsibility but Im assuming they are from a private parking company, the back of the ticket has a space to fill out the details of the person who was driving).

DonkeyHohtay · 26/04/2019 15:43

What on earth is she doing in Asda for FOUR HOURS? Single handedly rearranging the entire shop?

Just keep passing the tickets to her. She was driving. Her responsibility.

SavingSpaces2019 · 26/04/2019 15:43

Maybe she's popping into other shops as well whilst she leaves her car parked at Asda?
Or making use of the Asda cafe?
Blaming children for her own actions and tardiness is shitty behaviour.

Fact is she knows the time limit on parking and chooses to ignore it.
It would be a lot cheaper to just order online from Asda.

OffToBedhampton · 26/04/2019 15:44

That's ridiculous ..don't lend her the car, or give her a lift to the shop to do her shopping, Asda is 24 hout And pick her up later.
I cannot understand how she can spend 4 hours in Asda. I'm disabled, very slow round the shop and buying for 5, so trolley is full by the end. That takes me 2 hours at most around one of the biggest hypermarket stores

dementedpixie · 26/04/2019 15:44

The signs at our Asda says to speak to customer services if you are going to take longer than 3 hours

SilverySurfer · 26/04/2019 15:44

I'm trying to imagine shopping in Asda taking one hour, let alone four. Your DM is definitely unreasonable.

KitKat1985 · 26/04/2019 15:44

How on earth is it taking her nearly 4 hours to get round in Asda?

Even when I take the kids it has never taken me anywhere near that long.

I wouldn't be pleased either about having constant parking tickets showing up in my name, even if she is paying them.