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WIBU? Parking tickets

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QuestionableMouse · 26/04/2019 15:24

I own the car that my mum drives. Every time she goes into Asda lately she's getting a parking ticket and I'm a bit fed up of it.

The car is in my name but she's a named driver on the insurance and uses it once a week to do her shopping. She is disabled but can walk/drive okay. She sometimes has my nephews with her and is blaming them for being so long.

I've just opened another parking ticket where she's been in Asda for almost four hours. (12 ish until almost 4)She thinks I'm being unreasonable because three hours isn't long enough. I think she is because we've had at least 5 parking tickets now.

I'm so fucking fed up. She's now gone in a strop and told me to take the fucking car back because I'm making her paranoid about using it. I don't care if she uses it but I'm fed up of the constant parking tickets!

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Purpleartichoke · 26/04/2019 15:45

I would start by taking to the store. If she is legitimately shopping there, then hopefully they can accommodate that.

If not, could she switch to two outings a week. I’m guessing the shopping is really her only out and about time. I know I’ve been known to milk a trip to Target just because it’s a kid-free break out of the house. Shop, stop at the cafe, shop some more. Remember to go back and look at the pens on the other side of the store( I like stationary) and then finally knock out my necessities list.

THEsonofaBITCH · 26/04/2019 15:46

Ours says the limit is 3 hours, but if you need/want more time you can go to customer services and pay for additional time - it would have to be less than £40 paid for the ticket.

BollocksToBrexit · 26/04/2019 15:51

I'd question the policy. I don't think it's reasonable to put the same time limit on blue badge holders as able customers. The shopping centre near me has no time limit for badge holders.

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QuestionableMouse · 26/04/2019 15:53

They're through Parking Eye which isn't the most reasonable company ever. I'll advise he to talk to them but last time I asked to extend the parking we still got a ticket.

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Mimsy123 · 26/04/2019 15:55

Would it be cheaper for her to get a taxi there and back? Also, definitely speak with customer services as there can be exemptions.

whyohwhyowhydididoit · 26/04/2019 15:55

It would be cheaper and less stressful for her to get cabs. Stop lending her your car.

BumbleBeee69 · 26/04/2019 15:56

Take the car back ffs

ivykaty44 · 26/04/2019 15:57

Be cheaper to get a taxi
Online shopping
Or a combination of both

Iloveacurry · 26/04/2019 15:57

If she’s getting a ticket every time, can’t she just get a taxi there and back?

ivykaty44 · 26/04/2019 15:57

If she sends in the receipt from each visit then they should wave the charge

Isitweekendyet · 26/04/2019 15:57

Op if she can afford £200 in parking fines in less than 2 months I think it’s time for the car to go into her name!

Jellybeansincognito · 26/04/2019 16:01

I didn’t think you could insure cars like this unless you lived at the same address? Obviously a different issue but still...

LumpyPillow · 26/04/2019 16:01

I love a good long, lingering schlep around a big ASDA, but your mum needs to get a grip. Stop lending her the car, ban her for a good while, treat her like a child:

‘You can’t use my car until you agree to use the parking facilities responsibly. If another fine ever comes to me, you are never ever using again.’

DonkeyHohtay · 26/04/2019 16:02

OK, so I get the wanting to go to the cafe too but still, four hours is incredibly excessive. She'd be cheaper getting a cab as others have suggested, or spending the £40 on fuel to go somewhere a lot nicer than an Asda!!

OffToBedhampton · 26/04/2019 16:04

Your mum is an adult who can set an alarm on her phone, if she can drive a car. And you can say no more tickets to your mum or she'll have to get her own car registered in her own name. This isn't stress youneed. The time limit is there for a reason and it is what it is - 3 hours max.
It applies to everybody.

Tawdrylocalbrouhaha · 26/04/2019 16:08

Well if she's paying them herself, I suppose I would leave her to it.

However it would worry me greatly if my mum was doing this, because it would be so very out of character. Has your mum always been disorganised and careless? Or is this a mistake that she wouldn't have kept making in the past?

OnlyFoolsnMothers · 26/04/2019 16:09

QuestionableMouse don’t engage with them, full out you mums details and post it back- your responsibility ends there. This is why people are so scared of these moronic companies.

OnlyFoolsnMothers · 26/04/2019 16:09

Fill out

BaaRamU · 26/04/2019 16:10

Just as an aside, but being the registered keeper of the car is not the same thing as being the owner. It's actually advised that the registered keeper (the person named on the V5C(?) document is the one who uses the car the most. So if you're not paying for the tickets and your only issue is that they're in your name, change the registered keeper to your mum's name and address. It still does not make her the owner, the car is still legally yours.

stucknoue · 26/04/2019 16:11

How is that possible, I struggle to spend more than an hour in Morrison's including lunch

youknowmedontyou · 26/04/2019 16:11

QuestionableMouse don’t engage with them, full out you mums details and post it back- your responsibility ends there. This is why people are so scared of these moronic companies.

But does it? Supposing the DM does nothing, doesn't confirm she was using the car or anything. Would the ticket not come back to OP? Otherwise surely that would be an easy get out?

OnlyFoolsnMothers · 26/04/2019 16:12

Nope they don’t do that/ they can’t do that.

PlainSpeakingStraightTalking · 26/04/2019 16:16

I'm pissed off because they're issued in my name and I don't want dragging into it.

Dragged into what? there isnt a subversive database of registered car owner with dodgy parking .... unpid tickets, but she's paying them. So you arent being 'dragged' into anything

IHateUncleJamie · 26/04/2019 16:18

Is this irresponsible behaviour out of character, @Questionablemouse? Or does she genuinely not care?

If your adult DC were constantly doing this, my guess is that you’d refuse to allow them the use of the car until they could be responsible. No reason why your DM should be able to keep causing you this inconvenience without consequence - assuming she’s not developing dementia (in which case, should she be driving).

PigletJohn · 26/04/2019 16:22

Four hours is a long time.

I know someone who parks in the supermart then cruises round town, goes into numerous shops, has lunch or a coffee, might go into the library.

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