My date doesn't find me attractive ...aibu?

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About 9 months ago I had a date with a guy,told me he wanted to see me again etc
Then he started seeing a girl.
8 months ago he got back in touch and we went for another date.
He was showing me pictures of other girls he's going to be going on dates with.
Very Instagram looking girls,all airbrushed etc.
He then says to me,with them girls I would always worry men would be after them and chatting them up (obviously doesn't worry about that with me)I wouldn't have to worry with you...THEN
He says look at them,I couldn't believe it when they agreed to go on a date with me.
They are so out of my league .
Aibu to think he clearly thinks they are more attractive than me,?

I wouldn't be going on another date with him, very shallow and very rude.

What’s the matter with your self esteem? Why are you even considering not just telling him to fuck off? Why didn’t you just tell him to fuck off when he said this?

I think YWBU to not throw him to the curb

I wanted to make sure I wasn't just being self conscious and imagining things.
I'm certain that's what he was insinuating tho.

I'd have walked out tbh.
Ffs don't see him again.

Sorry that should have said ..8 months later

Wait a second... so you had a first date, then he was in a relationship with someone for eight months, and then he asked you on a second date when they broke up?

Whether I have this wrong or not, he’s an arse and you need to run. He was probably lying about all the other girls.

You can do better than that.

You still remember this eight months on?

Op seriously
I mean, seriously
Have some self respect

He sacked you off for someone else last year yet you still went on another date with him?

Please tell us you laughed in his face and left?

He’s negging you. Cock!

Jesus Christ. This is in no way ordinary behaviour, less of a red flag, ore of an abuser doing a marching band in front of you. You've had two dates and he is firing an anti-tank gun at your self-esteem! Like chariots said, why didn't you tell him to fuck off?!

Just laugh and say, "Oh come on, they're not going to go out with you" and then block him.

What a w*nker! I don’t usually use that word but he deserves it. Please don’t go out with him again. And tell him why. He needs to be put in his place!

It must be a bet he has with his mates.

Basically his core message is 'I am better than you, look at these hot women that I've had. YOU aren't hot. YOU should feel honoured to be with me'.

He is a narcissist.
This is how they often start out dating people, by testing to see if a, you will accept being spoken to like this and if you do, by b, setting you up for how he intends to continue to treat you in future (belittling, anything to make you feel 'not good enough').

Run for the hills.

Basically we went out 9 months ago,had a date and then he went quiet,seen on Facebook he was with a girl.
8 months later (end of feb time) we start texting again.
Last week we went on our second date
(Sorry should have explained better )

If a date spoke to me like that I would walk out without a single word more. That's unbelievably rude, please try to understand why your self respect didn't make you automatically do that and don't communicate with that wanker again.

This is called negging - a negative compliment designed to damage your self esteem and encourage you to "prove" yourself worthy of his time and attention. It's also manipulative balls and you should step firmly away from anyone who exhibits a trace of it.

And I must say, he's extremely bad at it - this is a very clumsy and obvious example.

Ignore. Block. He's negging you.

I actually thought I was decent looking until him.
Felt good about myself (I'm not a Instagram airbrush woman ) but I was happy

As an example , someone once said my pics made me look like I'd been caught in the headlights. I entertained this for one reply which was 'i can't believe you've just said that to me' his was - 'youre still chatting to me though aren't you'

I unmatched him immediately

You are decent. People with sick souls like him seek out decent people to crush.

Also, it wouldn't matter if you were the hottest women on the planet, his type see imperfections in everyone that isn't themselves. And he'd still negg you.

Don't let the knobhead knock your self esteem. Block him and move on.

Stick with how you feel about yourself then. He obviously likes artificial-looking women, and is a total arse.