To Think 1 am is too late for a school night

[TowerRavenSeven]

Ds is 17 and got free tickets to a opening night movie (nothing that he’s been dying to see) He’d be going with a friend of his and she would be driving him home.

The movie ends at 12:30 and he’d be getting home at 1. He’s just got over a bad bout of bronchitis and has been crazy busy with traveling with school, exams, etc. I just think 1 am is so late yet I’m torn. He’s a great student, never been in trouble, serious about school and grades, etc. What say you? Honestly my gut feeling s no.

I think that this is exactly the kind of thing you do at 17! Let him go, hell be knackered but it won't last long.

Yes. It's a one off. He can make up the sleep later.

As a one off, it’s fine.

As he didn’t choose the time I’d let him go, making it clear that it’s a one off, as long as he’s sure that there’s nothing important at school the next day.

Let him go

As a one off, I'd say yes. But not something I would be happy with every week.

At 17 I was partying until 2am and in college by 8. Still got good grades. One late night won’t do much harm.

Let him go . If it’s avengers my son did this with the last one at the same age

I was sometimes up til 1 or 2am on a school night at that age to go out clubbing etc and I was fine. I'd definitely let him go!

I would say yes as a one off at 17.

YABU! Is it Endgame?
Life is important at this age. Being tired one day in school not going to ruin his life!
He'll need to learn to balance tiredness and work.

What time does he need to get up, I wouldn't give this a second thought as a one off tbh

Im a teacher and Id endorse it. 17 is fine, old enough to cope with being tired.

I am an Assistant House Parent in a small boarding school. Many of the girls in house aren’t asleep at that point - I know as I can hear everything from my flat. As a one off, it’s fine.

At 17, he will cope with it on a one off random occasion. Just as long as he hasn't got any important exams the following day.

A 17 year old is basically an adult and as such should be expected to cope with being tired for 1 day and this is a one off experience that will stay in his memory for a long time.

Thanks everyone. Still on the fence but I appreciate the input.

He’s 17. It’s a one off. He’ll be fine.

completely fine as a one-off, when he didn't even select the date himself.

Early night the day after and job done.
At 17, you get tired quickly but you recover super quickly too!

He's 17 not 7, it will be fine.

I went clubbing the night before my part of my A level art exam. Did the exam with zero sleep and got an A. He'll be fine!!

Let him do it, the adrenaline of the film will carry him.through the next day. No I'm not jealous I have to wait until next week to see it. At all.

Definitely fine as a one off. He's 17, next year he won't have to ask you, he'll just do what he wants anyway as will be an adult. He'll have a great time!

He's 17! At that age I was about to finish school and move to another country, around the world many 17 year olds have their own children.

It sounds like you've raised a lovely son, part of the next step or parenting is now letting him make his own decisions. Likely he'll cope fine, or if not then it's a good way for him to learn about the impact of a late night on revising the next day.

Dh and I have been talking and he’s not keen. He’s usually a bit more lenient than I am and I honestly was leaning on letting him, but I want to present a united front. Dh doesn’t ask for much so I told ds no. Just crappy that I had to be the one to tell him when I was leaning towards yes!