To Think 1 am is too late for a school night

[TowerRavenSeven]

Ds is 17 and got free tickets to a opening night movie (nothing that he’s been dying to see) He’d be going with a friend of his and she would be driving him home.

The movie ends at 12:30 and he’d be getting home at 1. He’s just got over a bad bout of bronchitis and has been crazy busy with traveling with school, exams, etc. I just think 1 am is so late yet I’m torn. He’s a great student, never been in trouble, serious about school and grades, etc. What say you? Honestly my gut feeling s no.

Goodness my 10 year old could pull a 1am finish and still be up for school the next day. It’s one off relax.

Why did you even bother asking, if you were going to say no? Poor lad.

WTF he's 17, he's old enough to get married and move out. get a fucking grip.

He's 17, next year he won't have to ask you, he'll just do what he wants anyway as will be an adult.
That’s not how it works for our house or anyone I know.18 year old sixth formers still have house rules.

He's 17 not 7! He'll be fine.

It’s weird and controlling to have so much input into a 17 year olds social life!

Crikey, that’s awful. He’s 17 and it’s a one off.

Poor lad.

I'd let him go, you can't really stop him at 17 anyway, he's a grown up.

he's 17 why would you stop him he's no longer a child.

one late night ain't going to hurt him.

S1naidsucks the same reason everyone posts on here, to get opinions and either stick with their decision or change their mind, because I’m not a perfect parent.

I'm surprised he asked!! I think you both need to loosen up a lot!
At 17 I was telling my mum when I was going out and when to expect me back. I was a lot like your son. Never took the piss and it would be once every few months.

At 17 I went on a week away with the girls to Ayia Napa!!

He’s 17 FFS! He could get married or join the army! I really don’t think you have the right to issue orders like this to a 17 year old. Let him do what he wants. You’re really storing up trouble for the future if you think you can order a 17 year old around as if he was 12!

FFS he is 17. My son of the same age does not finish work till that time 2 nights a week and manages just fine to get up. He is doing fine with all his school work and there is no way on this earth that we would stop him from going to a film that everyone will be talking about the next day.

You are being very unreasonable, poor kid

If its endgame he wanted to see and I was your DS I would never forgive you.

We've been waiting for this film!!!

As a one off I'd let DD but she'd have to understand there'd be no skipping school the next day, especially as its not a time of their choosing.

I did tell dd I'd rather her not book tickets for a film which sis opening tomorrow for the 11:45pm showing tonight - it'd not finish til 3am, and she has school tomorrow. Luckily I wasn't the only parent advising against it, so not the mean parent! As it happens she won't be home til nearly midnight tomorrow evening, with an early start on Friday - but that's her problem. And dh's, as he's volunteered to pick her up afterwards.

My daughter is 17. She wouldn't ask but tell me she was going and be back at 1, knowing she still needs to be up for school.

Shes going to be in college next year and needs to learn to manage her own life.

It's the cinema not an all night rave.

At 17? Defo! My 14 year old is going tonight but because it doesn't start till after midnight it won't finish till 3/3.30. She's old enough to deal with the tiredness

Wow. I think he'll be off as soon as he's able and won't look backwards if you don't let him live a little! Are you worried about that?

It’s weird and controlling to have so much input into a 17 year olds social life!

This ^ with bells on!!!!

In a matter of months he will be an 18 year old adult and you wont be able to stop him doing anything.

Have some faith in him and leave him to go if that's what he wants. It's one night.

Just thinking though , ds didn’t even go to bed before 1 on a school night at that age and still doesn’t now he’s in uni .
Still managed to get up on time

To all the pp talking about avengers it can't be that cos it won't be able to begin until 12am (as it's released tomorrow)

Just read updates. Can't believe you and your husband have so much say over his social life and that you actually said no!
He's almost an adult and I would expect him to start rebelling if this is how you treat him.

I think that’s pretty harsh OP.

Soon he may be off to uni. In my first year, I had a three hour practical (physical) class at 8:30am on Thursday. The best club’s student night was on a Wednesday. Every single person in that class was out til 3am on a Thursday morning getting hammered and still made it and I only threw up once

Back home by 1am after a movie as a one off when he’s a good kid, working hard and doing well at school? There are far worse things he could be doing. I’d cut him some slack.

Fair enough, OP. So, given the overwhelming responses stating you should let him go, have you changed your mind?