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How to get your 12 year old to understand 14K likes is NOT good

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Phoenix4 · 24/04/2019 13:13

On discovering my daughter has just started sharing an account with her friend on tiktok (lip sync vids) who is publicly posting

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HennyPennyHorror · 24/04/2019 13:19

Why isn't it good?

Pinkyyy · 24/04/2019 13:20

@HennyPennyHorror Tell me that's not a serious question?

Bellasorellaa · 24/04/2019 13:21

did she buy them?

PlainSpeakingStraightTalking · 24/04/2019 13:21

Whats tiktok

misses the point

Pinkyyy · 24/04/2019 13:24

@PlainSpeakingStraightTalking from what I've seen it's an app similar to Instagram, but you post videos instead, usually with a song as background music. It's VERY popular with extremely young children (literally like 7-11 year olds) and seems hugely unmonitored.

jimmyhill · 24/04/2019 13:25

14K likes from pervy men basically.

That's what TikTok is for.

NoUsernamesILike · 24/04/2019 13:26

It's also extremely dangerous with 5 minutes of viewing the app I was clicking #tags and cane across very inappropriate things that I wouldn't want any child viewing. It's also rife for bullying.

NoUsernamesILike · 24/04/2019 13:27

*came

CurtainsOpen · 24/04/2019 13:28

Welcome to Mumsnet, new poster!

PlasmaRain · 24/04/2019 13:30

How did you not know your 12 yr old DD was doing this? Do you not monitor her online activity?

Phoenix4 · 24/04/2019 13:34

..what to do when their friends aren’t keeping safe?

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babysharkah · 24/04/2019 13:35

I'd get you daughter off TikTok. Why does she have unsupervised access?

babysharkah · 24/04/2019 13:35

Is that you again? Get them off TikTok. Authorise their access. Simple.

howmanyleftfeet · 24/04/2019 13:37

Where is she when they're sharing the account?

Do you know her friend's parents? Do they know what she's up to?

DrinkSangriaInThePark · 24/04/2019 13:37

They've just banned TikTok in India for pornographic content and paedophile activity. Looks like it's going to be banned completely. I wouldn't let your 12 year old near it!

Lovemusic33 · 24/04/2019 13:38

She’s 12, remove her phone/tablet and ground her, simples 😁

Hopeygoflightly · 24/04/2019 13:39

It's for 13+ for starters, and has been described as a 'hunting' ground for predators. And has just been banned in India completely.
This below is from 'Techcrunch' which actually gave it a really positive review compared to Youtube and others for kids.

The main issue as always is DO NOT let your young children have unfettered access to the internet, on social media accounts or any other platform. Tiktok says it's safe and kid orientated which relaxes parental guard but it IS NOT because it is the internet and it will attract people ( paedos or older kids having a 'laugh') who are not safe for your kids.

''The app has also been the subject of troubling reports about its dark side, which is reportedly filled with child predators, devious algorithms, dark patterns, and teens bullying and harassing one another. It’s not clear, however, that TikTok’s affliction with these matters is any worse than any other large, social, public-by-default app of its size.

It is concerning, however, that under-13 kids are setting up social media accounts without parental consent. '

Phoenix4 · 24/04/2019 13:40

She had her own account and this is private, so only invited friends, she knows she can only accept people she actually knows and I keep this monitored..she told me the day she had shared her friends account and she had some input on a post.... she was so chuffed to be included. Thinks I am spoiling her fun/chance a being popular etc.

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Phoenix4 · 24/04/2019 13:44

We can not stop our children using these apps, they are acceptable on the grounds of innocently for fun, being lip sync video posting between their eeriness. The issue is how to get our children to keep safe without losing that innocence

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SooticaTheWitchesCat · 24/04/2019 13:45

Sometimes you need to spoil their fun if it keeps them safe. Just say no.

Smumzo · 24/04/2019 13:46

FWIW my 12 year old has a private account and no one can see her video except her friends from school. She made a video with her younger brother in it who was 5 at the time and was in his pants. They zapped it within a half hour of it being uploaded.

Phoenix4 · 24/04/2019 13:46

Sorry, prescriptive text!? Meant Posting between their friends

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Hopeygoflightly · 24/04/2019 13:46

'We can not stop our children using these apps'

You're joking right? TAKE away her access, she's under age to use it and you know have over 10k strangers looking at your daughter online. Tell me that's safe?
Parent her, FFS.

justasking111 · 24/04/2019 13:48

I take the phone off my seventeen year old whilst he is revising for A levels, I really cannot understand why parents of much younger children cannot do this to be honest.

SooticaTheWitchesCat · 24/04/2019 13:49

I would stop it. In fact I wouldn't have allowed it to star in the first place, not at 12.

You are her mother, not her best friend!

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