To ask for helping calming my 1 year old down, scared and desperate!

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Wrong topic i know but im pretty desperate! For the last half an hour my 14 month old had been absolutely hysterical crying, kicking his legs, arms, crawling up to the wall and banging his head on it, i gave him a bottle and he's thrown it away and carried on banging himself. Ive tried TV, phone, food everything. I cant pick him as he stiffens and launches foward and wriggles making it dangerous. I can't get anywhere near him to take temp. Ive just had to leave him on the carpet screaming throwing things around. Im worried hes going to hurt himself and have no idea wtf this is!

What can i do? Nothing is helping and genuinly worried about him

What started this? Has he shown any signs of being ill?
If not i’d Put him in his cot, draw the curtains and see if he eventually has a sleep, and hopefully it’s just a big tantrum?

Personally I would sit on the floor and try to cuddle him. Try to talk in a gentle, calm, low voice. Reassuring things like “it’s ok”
Do you know what has triggered this? Has he been hurt, or frightened or angered?

My DS was like this when certain teeth were coming through. I held down and gave ibuprofen.

what was the run up to this? When did he last eat, drink, nap?

Yes stop trying different things and just put him safe and talk calmly. Don’t leave him or ask him to do anything etc

Can you set him up in a safe zone with duvets/cushions so he can’t hurt himself?

Do you know what triggered it?

Ear infection?

Ear infection?

I'd be concerned he was in pain or unwell and call 111 personally incase as he can't tell you what's wrong.

Has he been eating/drinking? How did it come on? Is this out of character? You can get an idea of how hot he is by touching the back of his neck.

Could it be something like a button or zip has caught on him or something?

I have no idea what triggered it, he seemed fine and actually happier than usual this morning. He napped from 10-11 and had bannanas and porridge for breakfast around 8.30. I haven't left him by himself just taken away anything he can grab, ive tried soothing him, talking to him quietly stroking him but if anything it's making him worse. We were watching CBeebies and he was messing around with his lego bricks when one went under the sofa and he couldn't reach it so i think its that??

If it is very sudden and not just a tantrum I'd seek some medical advice. Is he in pain? Have you checked his temperature? Strip him off and check him all over.

Assuming that this isn't normal tantrum behaviour for him I would assume there has to be a physical cause. I'd probably try and get some calpol down him and see if that helps.

Put the TV on? (and then take his temperature)

Sounds like a proper tantrum then. Just make sure he’s safe and ignore him until he calms down. I find the more I fuss with dd the worse she gets. So just make sure he can’t hurt himself and leave him to it basically.

Have you got a garden? Can you scoop him up and take him outside for some fresh air?
Has he got a favourite song you can play? Tv programme that grabs his attention?

I just don't think a 14 month old would have that big of a tantrum. If my 18 month old is like that he's in pain.

slimchristmas he doesn't feel hot to me, he's been like this once before but it didn't go on for this long. I don't think anything has caught him, hes wearing a plain t-shirt and tracksuit type trousers and i dont have any jewellery or anything on

I just used to stick them in a warm bath. Total change of scenery.

It's nothing to panic about though, it must suck being that age.

tanterose the doctor checked his ears the other day and were clear

Check his toes and fingers for a hair wrapped round them? They can cause this amount of distress

My ds used to have tantrums like that which went on for hours. He is a happy healthy 6 year old now. Just leave him at it and make sure he is safe. He will calm down eventually

Constipated???

Poor thing - I echo what people say, try as best as you can to make sure he doesn’t hurt himself and stay as calm as you can.

Sounds like a meltdown (although obviously don't know your child!). My son starting having these at about 10 months old. He used to have 3 or 4 a day (usually food related, or if he was woken up from a nap). Nothing ever calmed him down. He didn't want to be held, couldn't be distracted, all we could do was make him safe and wait it out. He would get to a point where he would allow himself to be consoled, and then it would calm down. Directly after one though, the slightest thing could send him back into one. He also used to have them several times during the night.

It sounds like a night terror! Except he wasn't asleep when it started, was he?