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The Ten White Horsemen Of The Apocalypse Wedding Part 2

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jessicawessica · 23/04/2019 13:27

I've never had to start a second thread so no idea if I've done this right.
I couldn't resist the title.

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Annonymiss123 · 14/07/2019 19:32

So exactly how many groomsmen has he been left with? Are we talking the Bee Gees now?

😂😂😂

WellVersedInEtiquette · 14/07/2019 21:24

@AlexaAmbidextra ShockSad

EdtheBear · 14/07/2019 21:54

I think you are right they have invited DD to babysit but at the same time they might be trying to re build the shattered bridges.

EdtheBear · 14/07/2019 21:56

While I think they might be hoping for a babysitter, they might also be attempting to rebuild the shattered bridges.

Motoko · 15/07/2019 02:11

Nah. They've got seats to fill now.

SagAloojah · 15/07/2019 04:52

DB2s daughter, partner and DS are not going to be seated at the meal with my mum.

I'm confused, I thought DB2 had declined?

FredaFrogspawn · 15/07/2019 06:02

They messed up - they’re young and by the sounds of it a bit foolish. Surely you could be the grown up here and hold a family meeting, elicit an apology, be kind about the whole thing and save their wedding. Otherwise you have a fractured family forever. Do it for your mum if nothing else.

FredaFrogspawn · 15/07/2019 06:04

And attend of course, with good grace. Forgiveness is a wonderful thing which will teach them more than they are learning now. If you loved them enough to want to go in the first place, then love them enough for this.

lyralalala · 15/07/2019 06:19

@SagAloojah It says DB2’s daughter

snitzelvoncrumb · 15/07/2019 07:09

It will be interesting to see if they decide to organise transport for gran now.

EdtheBear · 15/07/2019 09:09

Nah they won't sort transport for Gran. That's back on Op plate to take DD and DM.

Op Is Gran fit enough to be responsible for DD at the wedding, if not who is going to be looking after her?

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jessicawessica · 15/07/2019 09:40

DB2's daughter lives with her partner and their DS. They never received an invitation at all originally. Now they've had a phone call from the bride inviting them to the whole day.
DB2 still not going.
My mum has bought herself a little car in the past month so it looks like she will be driving herself and DD but they will be coming home after the meal, not staying for the evening do.
I agree with PP....they have seats to fill now so are ringing round.
I have no intention of attending. The pity invite that me and DB" received was the last straw. My mum, who passed the invites onto us, had already forewarned DN that we would not appreciate being thrown a bone, but I suppose they were desparate to fill seats.
If we attend now it does not make us look like the "bigger person." It makes us look like mugs as we hand ov

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jessicawessica · 15/07/2019 09:41

over our expensive presents.

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TalkToMeAboutSocialWorkPlease · 15/07/2019 09:46

What's happening with your weekly Sunday lunches?

SagAloojah · 15/07/2019 10:00

Oops, got it, I'm up to speed.

Does DB2's dd not mind how her dad was treated?

It's great that you and DB2 are not putting any pressure on your dc not to attend btw.

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jessicawessica · 15/07/2019 11:09

DB2's DD did ask her dad if he'd mind but he took the same attitude to me...just because we aren't going doesn't mean we expect everyone else to decline.
Sunday lunches did continue at DB2's for a few weeks. Then my mum said that she wasn't going to be pushed out of her own kitchen so we should go back to hers. It made sense as she had the biggest house and garden.
Also, she figured that DN and bride would have gotten the message by now and would assume that we were all still meeting up at DB2's house.

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k1233 · 15/07/2019 11:15

Wow. Have been wondering how this was working out. I'd be sticking to my guns and not attending either. But then I have a low tolerance for fair weather people. Not good enough for a proper invite but now they need bums on seats, suddenly you're family and should attend.

Angech74 · 15/07/2019 11:50

So glad I found your updates OP. I'm looking forward to the next instalment of Post The Ten White Groomsmen :)

TapasForTwo · 15/07/2019 11:52

What does your DN's dad (your brother) think of all of this?

MarieIVanArkleStinks · 15/07/2019 12:07

If ever a situation were calculated to show people's true colours, a wedding (or funeral) is it. I'd be tempted to say they bring out the worst in people, but this side of their characters must always have been there to start with. Equally, thought, there will be people who are there for you in life's tough times who won't necessarily be those you expect.

IMO, it's always better to know exactly who you're dealing with, and to move on from these situations with this in mind.

Enjoy your holiday!

Happynow001 · 15/07/2019 12:14

OP, I think your mother is a legend! 😁

MarieIVanArkleStinks · 15/07/2019 12:19

NB. Isn't there only one Bee Gee left?

AzraiL · 15/07/2019 13:22

I wouldn't even care if they were attempting to repair/build bridges now, given that they were so cruel about burning them when they thought they had friends to fill those seats.

Weezol · 15/07/2019 15:44

Another idea for a card. Seems they are unaware that you reap what you sow and are ploughing on as if they have done nothing wrong.

www.farmtoysonline.co.uk/products/fendt-tractor-plough-greeting-card-p2570

Mummyoflittledragon · 15/07/2019 17:15

I’ve been wondering what has happened. They really are sooo lacking in self awareness. Oh well. 🤷‍♀️

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