So my just turned 17 DD has arrived back home after a weeks holiday with school. During the week she messaged to ask if she could take the train to see her boyfriend (1 hour away) on Monday night (school re starts on Wednesday). I said of course.
A day later she messaged to ask if she could go Sunday night instead. I was a bit confused as I thought she was only coming back on Sunday so just asked what day she was back. No reply to that - message conversation moved onto something else.
She's just home now. Great to see her. We've all missed her. However she's said she's leaving to see the boyfriend this evening and will be back Tuesday afternoon.
I don't know what to do! I'm gutted! I assumed she'd want to catch up with us tonight. I'd planned to drive her to her boyfriends tomorrow. I explained this to her but she said 'but I've made plans...'.
I don't know what to do. I could refuse (she needs me to drive her to the station). She can see I'm unhappy about this (I was a bit teary when we were discussing it) and I really would hope she'd show some empathy. However I'm not going to be force her to stay. Just wish she would want to (or at least put on an act and pretend she does!). I'm assuming the best parenting approach is to let her go. She's almost and adult after all... 😢