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MIL giving alcohol to my one year old

89 replies

deesolovely · 21/04/2019 15:46

okay, it was a few sips but to me it is unacceptable. I kept my mouth shut and my DH eventually said I don't think its a good idea but it took him long enough and was only when I gave a few evils that it stopped. AIBU to feel really pissed off/disgusted by this or would you think its harmless.

I'm not happy with it and will be telling DH to have a word to say it is never to happen again or I will be having words and they will not be as pleasant. Am I over reacting?

OP posts:
DotForShort · 21/04/2019 16:59

She didn't fill the baby's bottle with vodka. The baby grabbed at the glass and probably didn't even taste any alcohol. Sounds like a storm in a teacup glass of Prosecco.

sweeneytoddsrazor · 21/04/2019 17:00

There is a hell of a difference between a little one grabbing a glass and trying to drink it and MiL gave my little one alcohol ffs. She should have put the glass or child down.

Grammar · 21/04/2019 17:01

Truly outrageous. It's illegal and potentially a safe guarding issue.

Farmerswifey12 · 21/04/2019 17:04

YANBU to be annoyed. That's disgraceful.

YABU and so is your husband to have let your baby sip prosecco x3! Also if your husband hadnt noticed or intervened after 3 how long would it have taken you? You say now looking back but it shouldn't take hindsight

FenellaMaxwell · 21/04/2019 17:05

God your baby’s a bastard. Tell them to buy their own drink!

TheGoalIsToStayOutOfTheHole · 21/04/2019 17:17

FIL did this with DD when she was about 1 too. I hit the roof. It was 'only' the froth off lager, but its still alcohol. Caused a massive scene which I wish I could take back but..it wasn't really my fault. I just told FIL to stop it as shes a baby and why do it anyway? SIL overheard and started on about me 'talking down' to FIL..ugh it was a huge mess. However, even the massive scene was worth it as he has never given her it again so..

UCOinanOCG · 21/04/2019 17:18

So it wasn't done on purpose? That's a bit different.

FriarTuck · 21/04/2019 17:18

There is a hell of a difference between a little one grabbing a glass and trying to drink it and MiL gave my little one alcohol ffs.
This ^^ !!

thegreylady · 21/04/2019 17:20

Apparently my mum used to dip my dummy in sweet sherry to keep me quiet in the air raid shelter!

Toddlerteaplease · 21/04/2019 17:23

Was she rubbing whiskey on the gums. I know several people who swore by that when their babies were teething. Much older generation though.

Billballbaggins · 21/04/2019 17:25

In the nicest way you need to grow a backbone and stand up for your child

Nanny0gg · 21/04/2019 17:26

Was she rubbing whiskey on the gums. I know several people who swore by that when their babies were teething. Much older generation though.

Um. That was for toothache not teething

Singlenotsingle · 21/04/2019 17:28

What a total overreaction. It's not as though MIL had filled the baby bottle with whisky ffs! So DD had a little sip or three of prosecco... She will have suffered absolutely no harm at all! And it's not as though it's ever going to be a regular thing is it?

PreseaCombatir · 21/04/2019 17:37

Ok, so she didn’t actually give it to your baby.

I’d be more pissed off with myself if I were you, you should’ve just took the baby off her, she clearly didn’t have enough hands

campion · 21/04/2019 17:42

SchadenfreudePersonified
it was lovely,I agree. A hint of aniseed iirc and cheaper than absinthe.

SchadenfreudePersonified · 21/04/2019 17:44

" After control for these factors, children who had been introduced to alcohol before the age of 6 yean were 1.9 to 2.4 times more likely to report frequent, heavy or problem drinking at age 15 years than children who did not drink alcohol before the age of 13. It is concluded that young people reared in home environments that have permissive attitudes to alcohol use and who are introduced to alcohol at an earlier age may be more vulnerable to alcohol‐related problems in adolescence."

onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/pdf/10.1111/j.1360-0443.1994.tb03360.x

canigivemybaby.com/alcohol/

SchadenfreudePersonified · 21/04/2019 17:44

campion

Grin
00100001 · 21/04/2019 17:47

Such drama
🙄

Jodie571 · 21/04/2019 17:50

I’ve seen a parent do this; to a child that was 3 or 4 and I thought it was disgusting.

My DH said I was overreacting which worried me slightly for our potential future children but that’s another story lol.

I do not think you are overreacting at all

PanamaPattie · 21/04/2019 17:50

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C8H10N4O2 · 21/04/2019 17:51

children who had been introduced to alcohol before the age of 6 yean were 1.9 to 2.4 times more likely to report frequent, heavy or problem drinking at age 15

That oft cited study looks at children actively given alcohol by their parents in their own home on a regular basis.

Not toddlers who grab a glass from another adult away from home.

Hooverisalwaysbroken · 21/04/2019 17:55
Shock

I just posted on the Coca Cola thread that we allowed “grandparents rules”, but I wouldn’t be to happy with this... I get that it was an accident, so wouldn’t be too cross, but on this I would make myself completely clear that it not is acceptable. Our oldest is 10 and has recently wanted “a sip” to try (must be friends) and I have said “18 is the law”.

RomanyQueen1 · 21/04/2019 17:57

I used whiskey on the gums for teething, only miniscule on a cotton bud.

llangennith · 21/04/2019 17:58

I'd be annoyed if it was Cola but livid if it was alcohol. If it happens again you won't be shocked into inertia but will take action like grabbing your child and saying, "No way!"

llewellyn25 · 21/04/2019 18:06

Wow, I would be furious if ANYONE gave my baby alcohol. Why would anyone thinks that's a good idea?

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