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Original poster

MIL giving alcohol to my one year old

89 replies

deesolovely · 21/04/2019 15:46

okay, it was a few sips but to me it is unacceptable. I kept my mouth shut and my DH eventually said I don't think its a good idea but it took him long enough and was only when I gave a few evils that it stopped. AIBU to feel really pissed off/disgusted by this or would you think its harmless.

I'm not happy with it and will be telling DH to have a word to say it is never to happen again or I will be having words and they will not be as pleasant. Am I over reacting?

OP posts:
UCOinanOCG · 21/04/2019 16:16

Not on at all.

IHateUncleJamie · 21/04/2019 16:16

Was it meat vodka

I hope not. Grin

ilovesooty · 21/04/2019 16:17

If you were sufficiently composed to give your husband "a few evils" you were capable of intervening yourself.

Nicknacky · 21/04/2019 16:17

Seriously how much “shock” can you be in that your can’t open your mouth and say “errrr, don’t do that”.

You and your h are your baby’s parents. So parent!!

SunshineCake · 21/04/2019 16:17

FFS this is so ridiculous. I thought the coke for a three year old was out of order but what right does she think she has giving a baby alcohol. If you did that social services would be all over you.

XiCi · 21/04/2019 16:18

What was it? A sip of a shandy or wine/spirits. None is acceptable but it would make a difference how apeshit I went

Purplecatshopaholic · 21/04/2019 16:19

You just sat back and let this happen?? Blimey!!

Bringbackthestripes · 21/04/2019 16:22

Shock why would anyone think that was okay? Was she already half cut or something?

PineapplePatty · 21/04/2019 16:23

Jaegar bomb?

w0man · 21/04/2019 16:23

You're not over reacting, if anything you under reacted to be honest.

colditz · 21/04/2019 16:23

Was is frothy?

MummyDummyNow · 21/04/2019 16:26

I would go crazy at someone giving my 12 year old alcohol but a 1 year old!!! Bloody hell OP, this is your child and your responsibility to look after it!

Original poster
deesolovely · 21/04/2019 16:27

Again, I hold my hands up. It started with her sitting on MIL's lap who had a glass of prosecco in hand, baby grabbed glass as they are prone to do and put it to her lips, which mil didnt stop and then she did it twice more, which is when my dh intervened. As previously said, hold my hands up, just shocked and thought my DH would intervene quicker. Trust me it will not be happening again, have already spoken to DH who has said that he didn't think baby had sipped anything but will be speaking to mil and making sure she understands.

OP posts:
ScrewyMcScrewup · 21/04/2019 16:31

YABU to let your baby drink prosecco. Do you want her to grow up to be some kind of lightweight? Russian vodka or nothing.

Blondeshavemorefun · 21/04/2019 16:33

Maybe dh thought you would say something m
Obv it’s isn’t on or funny

Insomnibrat · 21/04/2019 16:33

Still, it now opens up a whole range of prosecco themed gifts you can now buy baby for its second birthday....Wine

Missingstreetlife · 21/04/2019 16:36

There used to be a gripe water with alcohol in it, they did sleep. Victorians gave them laudenam but some died

SchadenfreudePersonified · 21/04/2019 16:40

I remember "proper" gripe water.

It was bloody lovely! I drank the lot - kids didn't get a look in.

Piffle11 · 21/04/2019 16:40

When my DC1 was around 2 months he wasn't sleeping well. Talking to ILs about it, MIL disappears and reappears with a bottle of whisky and a teaspoon. Starts unscrewing the bottle and says 'a couple of spoonfuls of this will sort it'. I say something along the lines of 'fuck off' and she gets very defensive: 'I used to do it for my DC when they didn't sleep - it was the doctor's idea'. Her DH was giving DS KitKats at 4 months old too - I presume he was just sucking on them - so I guess they were hell bent on getting him addicted to alcohol and sugar from the word go.

Lockheart · 21/04/2019 16:40

So MIL didn't give alcohol to your baby, the baby grabbed the glass and tried to drink some?

It sounds like the baby didn't drink anything at all, or would have had such tiny amount it would make no difference.

What a fuss over nothing. Next time just say "please be careful with the baby and the glass, MIL".

Yabbers · 21/04/2019 16:42

Over on the thread about MIL giving Coca Cola, we’re told that making it forbidden only makes them want it more. So, by that argument, it seems it’s fine what MIL did here.

Littlechocola · 21/04/2019 16:45

The baby put it’s mouth on a glass containing alcohol three times?
By saying nothing you are just as bad. Don’t blame your dh for a ‘near miss’.

wigglypiggly · 21/04/2019 16:48

so your mil didn't actually give your baby any alcohol, baby snatched the glass, that is when mil should have put the glass out of reach and either your or daddy should have taken baby away.

wigglypiggly · 21/04/2019 16:48

so your mil didn't actually give your baby any alcohol, baby snatched the glass, that is when mil should have put the glass out of reach and either your or daddy should have taken baby away.

C8H10N4O2 · 21/04/2019 16:52

JesusInTheCabbageVan

Grin

If a toddler keeps grabbing a glass of wine the most effective way to make them lose interest is to let them taste it.

Another one here who remembers alcoholic gripe water. I'm sure I remember bottles of slightly sweet alcoholic liquid named Dinnefords (sp?)

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