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Original poster

To think family should have taken my son fishing?

59 replies

ladymorgan · 21/04/2019 11:34

So my fil, owns a stretch of river for fishing/enjoyment. He had owned half of it with his best friend who snuffed it. My Brother in Law then bought the other “half” of the river from the deceased, if that makes sense.

Anyhow. Brother in law and my ds’s cousins were visiting from New York where they live. They have a 4x4 landrover they keep here to drive to the river. So dbro took his kids and fil.

He knew my ds was home from uni and enjoys going fishing, and they had room in the car. However, they didn’t think of inviting ds even though he will technically be in line to inherit the half of the river owned by his gfather.

AIBU to think it was a bit selfish not to take ds too?

OP posts:
RosamundDarnley · 21/04/2019 11:36

Maybe it just didn't occur to them? Why didn't your adult DS (he's at Uni) ask if he could go too?

Piffle11 · 21/04/2019 11:37

Maybe it needed to be suggested to them? Some people don't think like that, but might be happy to accommodate if it's mentioned. My DParents would do this, then if mentioned afterwards will say 'oh you should have said something'. I'm not sure why the inheriting bit is relevant.

pinkyredrose · 21/04/2019 11:38

In line to inherit half a river? How the other half live! Why couldn't your son ask to join in?

BottleOfJameson · 21/04/2019 11:39

Was DS actually staying in the same house as them? If not they might not have thought of it or may have just fancied some time with just their immediate family. I would suggest that DS is proactive and asks them if they can all go fishing.

NorthEndGal · 21/04/2019 11:39

I'm not sure how the inheritance comes into it?
Basically he wants to go fishing, and isn't a child, so should speak up, or make his own plans.

sweeneytoddsrazor · 21/04/2019 11:41

Or maybe they thought your DS can go anytime with his DGF aand as they are only here for a limited time they just wanted to enjoy it on their own for the first time.

NoSauce · 21/04/2019 11:46

Snuffed it?
How often do they see your DS and the cousins from NY? Surely that matters in all of this?

Littleduckeggblue · 21/04/2019 11:47

Yabu why should they HAVE to invite him.

Original poster
ladymorgan · 21/04/2019 11:47

They rarely see one another and get on well. DS told them what days he was free that week if he could see them. (his car is in the garage)

OP posts:
TigersRoll · 21/04/2019 11:48

Snuffed it 😂

Scabetty · 21/04/2019 11:50

Stoped reading after ‘snuffed it’ as you sound weird.

Original poster
ladymorgan · 21/04/2019 11:52

scabetty yes alright darling, you too

OP posts:
NoSauce · 21/04/2019 11:53

Does DS take after you by any chance?

Original poster
ladymorgan · 21/04/2019 11:54

What do you mean sauce?

OP posts:
NoSauce · 21/04/2019 11:56

Well you sound a bit pushy and hard work.

TigersRoll · 21/04/2019 11:56

Uh oh ... it’s becoming a pile on! Run OP! Run for your life!!

Tevion10 · 21/04/2019 11:56

I wouldn't bother posting on here op if I was you it's full of immature bullies.

Bookworm4 · 21/04/2019 11:57

I thought you were going to say DS was 5, he's an adult he can speak for himself.

TigersRoll · 21/04/2019 11:57

It’s got much worse lately unfortunately

FreshAprilStart · 21/04/2019 11:57

Not sure you can claim such sensitivity over your son's feelings when so casually saying someone snuffed it.

Tevion10 · 21/04/2019 11:59

Sure has tiger

Original poster
ladymorgan · 21/04/2019 11:59

uh oh! I think you’re right. I never knew snuffed it was not a normal expression, it is around here at least!

Anyone have a hard hat please?

OP posts:
NoSauce · 21/04/2019 11:59

Oh sorry yes I forgot that we can’t ever disagree with anyone on MN for fear of being called a bully.

WorraLiberty · 21/04/2019 12:00

I never knew snuffed it was not a normal expression, it is around here at least!

Well let's be fair, it's a bit disrespectful isn't it?

TigersRoll · 21/04/2019 12:02

@ladymorgan there is a list somewhere of unacceptable words. I know toilet is one, as is toilet brush.

I was once piled on for saying the word “pump” instead of fart ... pump is normal where I live but clearly I missed the memo regarding unacceptable words.

Anyway, to answer your post, yes they should have offered at least.

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