Fiancé in a strop-WIBU

[waitingformightynerds]

Sorry for the long post. Just need to get it off my chest.

Me and DP are staying at his mum and stepdads house this weekend with DPs daughter as it’s her birthday during the week.

DP and his stepdad went out to fetch something from a seller close by. On his return DP decided to tell me that the sellers GF has “a nice arse, like really, it was a proper nice arse” to which I admittedly got a bit moody but it soon passed

DP asked me if he’d done anything to upset me because he didn’t know if he had, I told him a little but I’m fine.

He’s now gone in a massive strop and called me childish, he now won’t talk to me unless it’s a one word answer.

I sent him a text (we’re at on the same sofa) explaining why I had been upset but that I was sorry just to keep the peace. He ignored it.

My foot just touched his and he asked why I did that in a snappy tone.

WIBU to be a little upset by his comments?
I apologised to him but it seemed to make no difference.

What a disrespectful pillock, who comments on another womans arse to their partner, its just not nice.

Pack up and go home - dick

Is commenting on the attractiveness of other people something he or you do often?

If not then I wouldn't be apologising for his strop! Is this someone you want to marry?

I certainly wouldn't be excited about it - sounds like an arse.

Why did you apologise? It’s not a respectful thing to say to you, I can’t imagine commenting on a mans arse to DH.

Tbh, you both sound as childish as each other.

You're the childish one? He's the teenage boy! Honestly have a deep think about if this is the kind of man you want to spend your life with? Men like this who think it's okay to a) objectify women and b) expect their partners to be cool with it are the dirty old men of tomorrow!

He sounds an absolute cunt. Seriously, why are you putting up with that? And don't apologise you've done nothing wrong. Sounds like he said it to purposefully engineer an argument

Seriously, go home. Don't put up with this shit. Just go home.

So he’s the one who made perverted comments about another woman’s body and yet he’s in a strop with you? What a nasty arsehole.

Well he's a dick isn't he? Don't marry him op.

Get out now!! Just not worth the hassle, seriously. Of course he's totally wrong. He should have a) never said it but as he did, b) once he realised you were upset, given you a hug and said sorry.

Leave. What a prize twat. How old is he? Was his daughter around you when he was making those lewd comments?

He can't possibly be worth the trouble. Apologise to your hosts and go home... without him!

He’s training you. You get (rightly) annoyed by his disrespectful behaviour, he sulks and makes life horrid and tense.

Next time you won’t say anything.

Is he like this a lot?

My husband likes arses. I’m sure he notices nice arses. He’s never once in 15 years told me about nice arses he’s seen whilst out and about.

Why on earth do you want to marry this man OP?! He sounds like a manipulative arsehole. I mean that's quite something that he caused all the issue and YOU apologised!! You seriously need to consider whether you should be with such a turdbeast!

Massive red flag. Do NOT marry this man, it will get worse.
He tried to hurt and humiliated you and got YOU to apologise.

Leave and tell him to stuff it.

At this point in time going home isn't an option. I do regret apologising but I hoped he would see that it was a stupid thing for him so say.

I do know that being at his mums stresses him out (I'm not making excuses).

We are engaged and other than an off comment here and there he's never been like this. It's almost like I'm not allowed to be upset. I'm not even mad he looked at her arse, it was the fact he felt the need to really tell me how good it was.

How would he react if you said that a man you'd met had a massive "lunchbox" and talked about how it looked and how much you liked it? I'm guessing he would see a problem with that, even though it's fine for him.
On the plus side, you haven't married him yet. Keep it that way!

He's done a number on you already by the looks of it, since you are apologising.

I would be furious if my oh said that to me, he would be the one trying to get back into my good books....I would tell your dp to do one and grow up

My husband likes arses. I’m sure he notices nice arses. He’s never once in 15 years told me about nice arses he’s seen whilst out and about.

Yes, quite. I've got a very large chest and occasionally have a bit of cleavage. They catch attention, because of course they do - they're enormous! But I've found a 100% correlation between friend's boyfriends who are obviously glancing at them and arsehole behaviour.

When I get pissed off I cry and that makes him feel bad which pisses me off more almost because I feel like I've blackmailed him.

I don't know how to proceed, thankfully we'll be going home tomorrow and should have some time when his daughter goes to bed.

This rings so many warning bells.

He comments on another woman, then gets annoyed with you? He’s a wanker.
This would be a deal breaker for me, (having put up with very similar shit from my my ex-husband)

Please don’t tolerate this abuse, your fiancé is not worthy of your attention.

WTF did you apologise for?

He told you about another girls arse which quite rightly you got a bit upset about and he’s managed to turn it around so you’re apologising to him?

He’s a manipulative twat!

He knows full well that going home is not an option for you, hence his shitty manipulative behaviour. How long have you been together? I'd take this as a warning as to what sort of partner he will be