To ask if your mixed sex children have a good relationship?

[RoseGoldEagle]

I have a 2 year old DD and have just given birth to a baby boy. I am really close to my sisters, and they both have only girls, and for some reason I assumed this baby would be a girl (which I know is completely irrational!), and to be honest my initial feeling (which I now feel horribly guilty about) was a tiny bit of disappointment that he was a boy and that DD won’t have that sister relationship. I know that’s awful and I hate that I felt that initially, am obviously so grateful to have two healthy children. Does anyone have a DD and DS with a couple of years gap and what kind of relationship do they have? I realise there’s no guarantees two girls would have got on and everyone is different but would just really appreciate anyone’s experiences. Please go easy on me, I already feel so awful about that initial feeling ☹️

I have a girl and was secretly hoping number 2 would be a girl too as I have 2 sisters and thought they'd be better mates. I now see this was ridiculous as they are just two little people who hang out together, annoy each other and live each other, their genitalia really is totally irrelevant.

They're 23 months apart and adore each other, they play and giggle and wrestle and fight just like if they were the same sex. We have number 3 on the way and have put the two biggest in a room together, they love it.

Your kids will either get on or not get on, sex won't make any difference. If you believe children and adults of opposite sex can be mates there's no reason your kids won't be.

I have a boy and he is very close with his sisters.

The girls fight with each other much more.

Another observation is that my previous partners who have sisters seem to relate better to girls and my son recently mentioned that his friends with brothers only seem more nervous / silly around girls.

That’s just my own personal experience and I’m sure that’s not the case universally so I didn’t want to offend anyone. Just wanted to give OP a positive spin.

Having a boy is AWESOME by the way.

Sorry that meant to say previous partners related better to women!

There is just over 12 months between my brother and I. We are best friends. Always have been everything will be fine lovey

Agree it's about personality rather than sex. I don't get on particularly well with my sister, but i have lots of female friends. (I'm a gentleman mumsnetter)

My sister is my only sibling and 30 months my junior and we never really got on from the off. We were very different from an early age and would argue at the drop of a hat. From our teens onwards we largely ignored one another as we had no shared friends or interests.

She was/is combustible and my parents' technique to prevent this was to pacify her at any cost and she had far more latitude for bad behaviour.

We aren't particularly close as adults and can still have the odd row at Christmas and we only really see each other if we are both at our parents house. I wish it was otherwise but there we go.

I have one of each with a 2 year gap and they also get on really well when they're not fighting. I agree with the pp who said it can help them get on better with the opposite sex in life too.

17months between my two who are 8 and 9. They are the absolute best of friends 99% of the time.

We have boys and a girl and they get on famously.
I was aware of a “boys only” attitude starting to attempt to pervade via nursery friends attitudes when they were younger and I nipped it in the bud. I would have similarly nipped any girls only attitudes in the bud too. I always had a rule when they were small that anybody who wanted to join in could. So we have never had a separation and everyone feels equally valid. They play happily and respect eachothers differences. Now they are older they have some similar interests and some different. I think it’s about nurturing relationships and kindness towards each other with siblings.

I have a 3 year gap between my DS and DD (DS is older). They are so close and call each other their best friend (they are 10 and 7). They bicker sometimes but there is so much love there. I have an older sister who has two girls 2 years apart and they don’t get on AT ALL. Same applies to my older brother’s 2 girls. There’s a four year gap between them but they are like chalk and cheese and don’t like each other. The sibling I’m closest to is my brother and always have been.

One of my close friends growing up had a brother less than 12 months younger than her. They always had a good relationship. If there were get togethers he'd be part of it or his and her friends would mix together at get togethers.

In a way I imagine better than same sex as they didnt have to share as such being different genders but close to have similar interests etc

Niece and nephew exactly as yours, with a two years gap. They get on famously! None of the rivalry you cannget between same sex sibs, but close enough in age to share friends and interests and roll eyes at adults

(And they are 22 and 20 now, btw! They were good friends right through teen years and co tinue to get on well!)

My two have three years between them. They are teens, and they are currently sprawled on the sofa giggling like maniacs about stuff only they understand. Don't worry, there's every chance they will love each other to bits (and drive you insane with their meme-related nonsense )