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Are WE the CFs here or neighbours??

553 replies

TigersRoll · 16/04/2019 16:56

3 houses share our driveway (including ours). So you get the 1st house and then ours next to each other and then at the end you get the 3rd house. 3rd house is a big house and has a double driveway (prob enough room for 3 cars anyway). 1st and 2nd house have a tiny section of driveway each, ours been the smallest, barely big enough for one car.

Anyway, DH likes to faff with his car, our driveway is too small to do anything on so during the day when everyone is at work he pulls it into the shared bit. Occasionally he parks his work van on the shared bit but basically, if anything is on the shared bit, 3rd house can’t get to their driveway which is why DH does it when everyone is at work.

This worked well for ages, occasionally woman next door would come home early but would park at the top on the street and walk down. One time all of a sudden she came home at 11am (!) came storming down the driveway carrying a number of bags (she’s a nurse) and muttered something about so much for buying a house with a driveway”. DH was confused as she’s never mentioned it before but he moved his car straight away anyway.
A week or so later we had workmen at the house and they parked on the shared drive. She came home from worked, marched up to the workmen and told them they had to move. This meant packing up tools, ladders and various other stuff before reversing out of the drive just so she could park next to her house. As soon as she was in they moved everything back, low and behold they came out almost immediately and said they had to move as she was going out. They did, she went out and reappeared 15 minutes later again telling the workmen they had to move everything!!! Surely if she knew she was going back out she could have just parked at top of drive where there is tons of room??

Anyway she appears to be making a point of doing this now everytime DH has something on the shared driveway but has never actually spoken to him about it!

Last night we got an angry knock on the door. Her husband was stood there and he looked at our car and said “can you move it” in a really snappy tone. It’s a big car (Land Rover) and as our driveway is so small the arse of it sometimes sticks out into the shared bit. Unfortunately neighbour also has a Land Rover making getting past a bit of a squeeze. DH looked at the car and the space (as it was on our driveway) and the bloke snapped “I’m not scratching my car again trying to get past. Move it”. DH then had to move the car so it was practically touching our garage door. This bloke has always been very pleasant before so it seems so out of character!

AIBU to think his wife has started some kind of vendetta against us and roped him into it or is it our fault??

OP posts:
Belleende · 17/04/2019 13:17

OP you don't have a CF neighbor problem you have a total dick of a husband problem. Is he this much of an arse about other things? Would you say he values your opinion?

UbbesPonytail · 17/04/2019 13:23

Are you even sure you all own the driveway? I thought it was standard that a homeowner technically owned the bit of driveway in front of the house before so in your case you’d own outside house 1 and house 3 would own outside yours, which basically guarantees that access is permanently available and cannot be blocked, minus the need for emergency vehicles.

SoupDragon · 17/04/2019 13:37

which basically guarantees that access is permanently available

How?

Dontdragyourfeet · 17/04/2019 13:59

Sounds like they put up with it for a while and then decided that they had enough. I can see why they would be annoyed but think they should have spoken to you about it rather than being passive aggressive.

AlexaAmbidextra · 17/04/2019 14:20

but think they should have spoken to you about it rather than being passive aggressive.

They did. The husband knocked and told DH to move his car.

Lizzie48 · 17/04/2019 14:33

The OP isn’t being a CF, it’s entirely her DH. She’s being forced to park on the road by her DH. I suspect she created this thread as a way to show him just how much of a CF he is. Unfortunately, though, most posters have directed the venom at her.

The vitriol needs to be aimed at the DH IMO.

Lizzie48 · 17/04/2019 14:35

Have You shown the thread to your DH, OP, and if so what has he said? Sadly, twats like that don’t care what other people think.

AryaStarkWolf · 17/04/2019 14:36

The OP isn’t being a CF, it’s entirely her DH.

tbf she asked "Are WE the CFs" so she was the one who included herself

Rach182 · 17/04/2019 14:47

If I was the neighbours I'd spend this lovely bank holiday weekend parked on the shared driveway but blocking OP husband's private drive and then go away for a night. Since it is apparently a shared driveway that shouldn't bother her husband.

I feel sorry that OP's husband has put her in the awkward position of being a CF by association.

TigersRoll · 17/04/2019 14:48

God is this still raging on! I get it, we’re the problem. I did tell DH I’d created the thread and he said he wasn’t interested in what a load of housewives think (his words, not mine) and that mumsnet hates all blokes anyway. We’re not talking at the minute anyway so I’m probably not in the best frame of mind to talk about it. I feel like scratching his fucking car, smashing up the plant pot and splashing vinegar in his eyes at the minute, never mind the neighbours

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BingandFlop2019 · 17/04/2019 14:49

I'm with you OP. Meaning I get the position you're in. You can't control your husband but you're taking some of the crap for it all Thanks

woodhill · 17/04/2019 14:49

Yes smash that pot over his head OP.

Is he a time traveller from the 70s - housewives indeed Grin

lyralalala · 17/04/2019 14:50

Does your husband have any good qualities? In your shoes I'd be giving serious consideration to leaving him and his wanky attitude to it.

IWannaSeeHowItEnds · 17/04/2019 14:53

Are the opinions of housewives less valid than other people's then?
I know you didn't ask but I want to say ltb. Life is too short to stay married to a disrespectful arse!

TigersRoll · 17/04/2019 14:55

He pisses me off, fucking about on the drowsy washing the bastard car every weekend - he doesn’t just wash it like a normal person, no ... he scrubs the tires clean, hoovers every inch of the inside, polishes it, has hose pipes and cleaning equipment all over the sacred shared bit - shit everywhere

OP posts:
TigersRoll · 17/04/2019 14:56

And this is at least once a week

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Disfordarkchocolate · 17/04/2019 14:58

And no one has driven over his stuff yet? I feel sorry for you that he's being such an arse.

Bluntness100 · 17/04/2019 14:59

Well I'm not a house wife.

Does my opinion count? Maybe it's just women in general he doesn't think opinions count? Like your opinion doesn't count?

So What about the blokes on here? Do they count? I mean really everyone is unanimous he's behaving like an anti social antagonistic wanker.

I'm also curious as to what his good qualities are? He's selfish and antagonistic towards the neighbours, uses sexist mysogynistic language, what's he got going for him?

TigersRoll · 17/04/2019 15:00

They can’t drive over it, the shared bit is narrow so when he’s washing stupid car he has it stuck right out so nothing could get past. A couple of days ago house 3 had a Tesco delivery and I actually heard the bloke say he had to carry all the crates down as “next door” had Land Rover arse stuck out. Woman next door said “sore subject”

OP posts:
Whodafeck · 17/04/2019 15:02

I’m not a housewife.

He’s a dick.

Why do you put up with it?

flumpybear · 17/04/2019 15:02

I'm not a housewife, I'm in medical research management thank you @TigersRoll 's husband!
And he's an arsehole lashing out because he knows he's wrong!
I also love men... nice ones anyway

PCohle · 17/04/2019 15:03

It seems a bit odd that in the OP you thought your NDN had started a vendetta against you and was being a CF, and now it's actually all your DH's fault and you're really embarrassed by it and furious with him.

AryaStarkWolf · 17/04/2019 15:03

actually having read your updates OP, I feel more sorry for you than for your neighbours :(

Lizzie48 · 17/04/2019 15:03

I also wonder what his good qualities are? I don’t think I could live with someone like that. Angry

Morgan12 · 17/04/2019 15:07

That is ridiculous that he washes the car that way every weekend.