I'm not a parent or anything, just to put that out as a disclaimer. NC for this too.
I don't know what to do about my nephew and how to get him to respect me. He is the most insolent child I have ever met. I'm at my wits end with him. His mum works a lot so he's usually here every weekend at mine or the whole half term if it's the half term like now.
I'm only 21 and he's 11. There's not much of a massive aunt-like age gap but we're clearly not the same generation. What's worse is that I've got dwarfism so he nearly towers over me. It's not an excuse but I suspect that's one reason. My other nieces and nephews respect me and treat me as their aunt that I am unlike him.
My mum and my aunt who is his grandmother both feel rather sorry for him in that he's an only child and longs for a sibling.However, he's constantly disrespectful to me and an angel to my brother who is not even 18, fgs.
My younger brother is that older brother/uncle figure so DN literally treats him as if he's gospel. If DB says jump off a cliff, DN would jump off the cliff. Not even joking. He also looks up to my brother's friends.
The things he does:
He talks back to me.
He openly swears and swears on people/bible when clearly lying
He calls me names/mocks my disability under his breath which isn't very quiet.
He simply does not do as I say.
He screams and shouts, it's loud enough I can hear through my headphones at its loudest, when he's playing his playstation.
He takes my phone charger whilst I'm asleep without asking
He uses his playstation on my TV in my room whilst I'm asleep, again, without asking
One time, I told all the kids in the house that they could 1 pack of crisps. He goes and takes 2. I repeat to him 3x that he needs to return one. He didn't and I had to chase him down which hurt my chest due to my chest condition related to my dwarfism. He knew that and he still laughed whilst I was wheezing and had to take my inhaler.
Another time I was pulling him up on his lying and his attitude.
Nephew: But I didn't...
Me: Yes you did. Just admit it.
Nephew: But did you see me do it? [With a lot of attitude. My mum did see him do what he did.]
Me: Fix the way you're talking to me. Am I a kid from your class for you to be talking like that? Who am I to you?
N: A human being - imagine that with a smirk. (I was expecting something like Auntie Mug )
Another time I was ordering food. Food was all ordered but I forgot to change my brother's order because he's allergic to mayonnaise. I changed and I hear screaming in my ear. Screaming to change my nephew's same order to the same condiment as my brother. My brother has this special sauce that doesn't affect him as much. He doesn't need the same but he just wanted it because my brother did. I never changed it for him and he ate it just fine.
I don't know how to tell his mum. Even my mum and his grandmother get similar treatment. She wouldn't do very much because like my aunt and mum she feels sorry that he's alone. She gave him his PS4 back after 2 days after he used her bank account w/o permission. His dad is not on scene but when he was, he'd pull him up on his behaviour.
I just can't bear it. My other cousin, who is his mum's sister, took him for a few days because I refused to let him stay in my house.
I try to be more assertive and pull him up on everything but it's not working. He treats like I've got MUG written on my forehead.