@Honeydukes92
That’s really interesting. Not hugely dissimilar to a relationship I was in at around 18 to early 20s.
Although certainly not wealthy on the scale you’re talking of, my ex’s father had (still has) a very successful business which he’d started from nothing and grown into something which made him and the family very well off.
I mention that because he’d come from quite a poor background himself so I assumed he’d be very ‘normal’ and easygoing with regard to money, despite the wealth he’d acquired but, in reality, even at my young age he was pulling strings with my ex around when he should propose to me, when we should marry, children, the house he’d buy for us, etc.
It was very bizarre and quite frightening actually. Needless to say it was also off-putting and I split with ex before it went too far.
I subsequently married a great man who is a relatively high earner and I managed to progress my career to the point where I’m at around 70% of his salary.
I’ve never given a second thought to the ex and “what could have been...” until earlier this year when by complete coincidence I boarded a flight home from Asia and ex’s father was a couple of rows behind me! He didn’t recognise me, or if he did he kept quiet, as did I, but it got me to thinking about how it would have been with him as my FIL and in all likelihood how awful it would have been.
It felt almost overwhelmingly empowering to be sat there feeling as though I was his equal - long haul business class after a successful meeting - rather than what I’d have been if I’d married his son, which I expect would have been a producer of grandchildren and a bored ‘housewife’.
Anyway, cool story and all that, but I know I’d hate to be with someone for their money.