Potty training, 2.5 hours and 3 floor wees in... Give me strength

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He keeps asking for his nappy, doesn't tell me he needs a wee and cries when I park his weeing self on the potty.

Absolutely no interest in sitting on it despite promises of a Happy Meal!

Aibu to ask what your first day's were like to reassure me we're going to get it this week??

Oh no, McDonalds

(I had a Big Mac at lunchtime).

Anyway OP, you have nothing but sympathy from me, because potty training is hands down the most soul destroying bit of parenting for me.

Child 1 - STUBBORN AS HELL. Would hold wee for 8+ hours rather than wet herself/on floor/in potty. Tried and gave up over and over and over. At the grand old age of 3y10m I told her she was going cold turkey. She did the usual “holding it all day” thing and I lost my shit Told her we’d sit in the bathroom all night if that’s what it took and... she released a little bit of wee.

Day two she tried the same and I said nope, we’re not playing that game again. Never looked back.

Child 2 sounds a bit like your boy. Speech delayed (possible ASD) and 4 in May. Also a stubborn little wretch. Knows what to do but just... won’t. We have a coveted toy sitting on a shelf waiting for his first wee in a potty but he doesn’t give a shit. Kill me now.

My son has language delay and it has taken since Xmas to potty train him. He is 3 tomorrow. Stick with it! He will get there.

Also if he is physically big then go straight to the toilet not the potty.

Sometimes copying you helps. So wake up you wee, he wees. Then breakfast

Morning snack time. You wee, then he goes then you both get a biscuit etc

My child, no special needs, was nearly 3.5. I tried twice before (last attempt was 5 momths previously) and had a similar nightmare. I then decided to stop worrying about it. One day they just said they wanted no nappy. And have been dry since. My advice to you is don't panic, particularly as he will have 1 2 1 in school. Let it happen when he is ready xx

I used to have wee races with my grandson. We have a downstairs loo, so I'd say it's time for a wee, he'd sit on the potty, I'd sit on the loo, first one to wee got the chocolate button. He was a bugger for hanging on to it but he hated not winning things, so a few times of me winning (and eating the chocolate button in front of him) got him into the swing of things very quickly.
Similar with getting dressed, getting out the door etc, we now put an alarm on google/ get Alexa to count down from 100, we race to see if we can beat the them, out the door on time mostly.
I had twins, they were difficult to potty train as you can imagine (2 of the little wee monsters at the same time!) but we persisted and they got it after about a week or so? Good luck.

Don't beat yourself up about the reward. Honestly. It's great that he used the potty and it's great that he got his reward.

Now you set up a new deal. You and he both know he can use the potty. So you need him to use it x times, marked on a star chart, in order to get the other costume.

Don't worry about what anyone else thinks. No one believes that one use of the potty = perfectly toilet trained.

You're doing great.

My daughter was three this month. She's highly intelligent, but point blank refuses to potty train.
I tried again on Friday and I refused to put a nappy on her after taking off her night time nappy in the morning. We hit a stalemate and she held her wee for 7hrs before finally giving in and running to the potty. It's what she does every time, and nothing I do can get her to stop holding it until she's absolutely bursting. I'm scared she'll give herself a bladder infection, so I just give in and put a nappy back on her 😔
I've spent many years toilet training other people's children, and have a degree in early childhood studies, but my own child has me stumped...

@Haworthia we could be pee buddies!! I've told him tomorrow he can go to OchOnalds if he does TWO wees. For what it'll take to get two wee's IN the loo i'll need vodka not Maccies!!

So we came back from the doctors, i took of the wet pants and the less wet nappy and left him bare bummed whilst i got something from upstairs. 10 minutes later he put his wet foot on me. Im like,
Why is your foot wet?

Blank look.

Dude did you wee on the floor?

Yes!

Where?

Over there!

I mean it was literally a step away from the damn potty. Grrrrrr.

Tomorrow is a new day...

I cannot offer any suggestions, though if you offered me a Happy Meal as a reward I think I would wee on the floor! I know it's MN craziness to admit giving the child a Maccies, but he's tube fed and a crap eater. He likes their chicken! (and toys)

I had boys. I had success putting Cheerios (cereal) in the toilet and telling them to make the Cheerios “dance”. Worth a try.

It’s still day 1, hang in there, the first few days are bad. Start again tomorrow with chocolate buttons as the reward, these are good as they can be given immediately.
Ido wonder if he’s ready though as he seems to be doing a lot of ‘mini wees’, maybe give it a week and if there’s no real improvement leave it for a couple of months.

I've realised my fundamental parenting fail. No way would my child perform for chocolate, he gets it anyway due to his feeding issues. If we have another baby I'm keeping the chocolate sacrosanct!!!

Couple of mum directed wees on the potty. All the rest in the floor despite potty being there and available

Hey a couple of wees on the potty has been good! Keep going!!

If school are fine with nappies maybe wait a month or two until the weather is better and you can hang around outside (and clothes\the floor will dry quicker!). I found potty training a nightmare and my son doesn't have any additional needs. You sound like you are doing a fantastic job but no need to drive yourself mad if you don't have to rush