Please settle an argument .......... in other peoples' houses ............shoes on or shoes off?

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On entering someone else's home, should the visitor keep their shoes on or remove them?

It's more just the simple concept of not prioritising floors over guests' comfort.

There is something pretty skewed about that. When I'm lying on my death bed, I'm not going to be thinking of how much my floors meant to me.

Except that most of us have neither poo nor vomit on our shoes.

@Isthisafreename yes and I would consider it very bad manners of you not to do it in my house. Doesn't make me wrong or you right does it? So why the quoting me in bold?

"Ok, then it only sounds like those who are “aspiring” to be upper class are those actually happy for poo and vomit dragged into their carpets just so they can feel so high up there.. "

I think generally, the thought is that 'aspiring to be's' are the ones who would insist on shoes off. Lower/wc/upper would be about guest comfort, upper because they can just replace flooring every week, lower and WC because we just don't care and can get Henry out and the vanish powder (generally, before I get jumped on, and imo and ime this is true)

@SchoolOfLife2 - Ok, then it only sounds like those who are “aspiring” to be upper class are those actually happy for poo and vomit dragged into their carpets just so they can feel so high up there..

Seriously? You sound like you have a major chip on your shoulder. I don't get this obsession many English people have with class. The fact you seem to be taking the suggestion that you are "lower class" as a major insult is, to my mind, weird and out-dated but hey, each to their own.

Nobody is "happy for poo and vomit to be dragged into their carpets". Can you not just accept that different people are different and have different norms? I brought up the whole toilet flush and germ-ridden splash ending up on the floor. A lot of shoes off people don't seem to be worried about the potential for transmission of germs from people walking into the bathroom and then around the house in their slippers or socks so really, for many shoes off people it's a very selective hygiene issue.

@Ellapaella - yes and I would consider it very bad manners of you not to do it in my house. Doesn't make me wrong or you right does it? So why the quoting me in bold?

Because you said your would consider it bad manners not to remove your shoes in someone else's house. By doing so, you appear to be assuming that your way is the right way. I was pointing out that is not necessarily the case.

BTW, of course I would remove my shoes if I was asked to. I wouldn't assume I should remove them though.

On downstairs (unless asked to take them off), but I'd take them off if I went upstairs

Ok, then it only sounds like those who are “aspiring” to be upper class are those actually happy for poo and vomit dragged into their carpets just so they can feel so high up there

Well that’s ridiculous.

You know, I’ve contributed to many threads and I’ve never come across anyone so determined to be right than you.

You’re so invested.

There is something pretty skewed about that. When I'm lying on my death bed, I'm not going to be thinking of how much my floors meant to me

Nor will I be thinkng oh god a host asked me to take my shoes off ... what a shock

Ok, then it only sounds like those who are “aspiring” to be upper class are those actually happy for poo and vomit dragged into their carpets just so they can feel so high up there..

I wouldn’t have said anything, but this is a bit (nouveau?) rich coming from someone who labels their family ‘upper class’ but then refers to the ‘guest toilet’; whose family assesses if someone is unfamiliar enough or leaving quickly enough to merit keeping their shoes on. An amusing gaucherie I admit I would like to see.

@SchoolOfLife2 - Nor will I be thinkng oh god a host asked me to take my shoes off ... what a shock

Of course not as you think shoes shouldn't be worn indoors. But will you be thinking about the person who walked into your house with their germ-ridden shoes and worrying if it was that which is causing your untimely demise.....

🤣

I'm pretty sure most people won't be thinking about shoes on their death bed, on or off.

coming from someone who labels their family ‘upper class’ but then refers to the ‘guest toilet’

I was debating mentioning this myself

LaurieMarlow

coming from someone who labels their family ‘upper class’ but then refers to the ‘guest toilet’

I was debating mentioning this myself

Me too ... and the mention of a living room.