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Leaving a child to drink

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GrandTheftWalrus · 15/04/2019 00:02

One of my friends just admitted she leaves her 1 year old sleeping to go to the pub!

I have a 2 year old and I feel guilty at leaving her to go along to to the bin shute

Is this normal or am I right to be horrified?

OP posts:
Mooey89 · 15/04/2019 07:33

If you know that she’s out on a particular day and leaving the baby, call the police.
And definitely refer rob sS

Impatienceismyvirtue · 15/04/2019 07:35

I don’t believe this is a genuine post, but on the offchance it is, I’ll stick around for the conclusion. Let us know what SS said.

user1493413286 · 15/04/2019 07:35

She’s not a good home; her children would be removed for that

user1493413286 · 15/04/2019 07:36

*mum

cdtaylornats · 15/04/2019 07:36

Why doesn't she just bring the child?

AuntieStella · 15/04/2019 07:41

Where she goes is irrelevant. Even if it's a unpredicted emergency, she should be making urgent arrangements for someone to go the DC who might otherwise have been unattended.

You simply do not go out of earshot (natural r monitor) of small sleeping DC.

If she leaves young DC, deliberately it seems, then that is wrong

(For context I started leaving my DC home alone aged about 10, which seemed normal to me but was seen as rather young by many MNetters. Some prefer to,wait until secondaryage.

But infants, never

quaterafter1 · 15/04/2019 07:45

She is NOT a good mum!

Why do you need to ask this op? You have children of your own, you know what dangers are around!

At 1 the baby might try to climb out the cot. What if they fell and badly injured themselves.

What if there was a fire?

What if they choked on something?

What if someone broke into the house and kidnapped them?

What if the baby just woke up and was crying for mummy, only to be left alone in the dark with no one to comfort them?

Angry

Absolutely disgusting behaviour!

Purplelion · 15/04/2019 07:48

Why are you even asking this question instead of just ringing SS as soon as you found out?!

Sexnotgender · 15/04/2019 07:51

For those saying pubs shut at 11 not in Scotland they don’t. Pubs generally are licensed until 1am.

Please report to SS. Totally unacceptable.

KMoKMo · 15/04/2019 07:53

Absolutely all of what @AuntieStella said

Where she goes is irrelevant. Even if it's a unpredicted emergency, she should be making urgent arrangements for someone to go the DC who might otherwise have been unattended.

You simply do not go out of earshot (natural r monitor) of small sleeping DC.

If she leaves young DC, deliberately it seems, then that is wrong

(For context I started leaving my DC home alone aged about 10, which seemed normal to me but was seen as rather young by many MNetters. Some prefer to,wait until secondaryage.

But infants, never

SileneOliveira · 15/04/2019 07:53

She is a good mum but does this about once a month

She isn't a good mum.

custardcreams1 · 15/04/2019 07:55
Shock She's not a good mum. Who does this really? Disgusting.

I have a pub about 3 minuet walk away and the last orders are around 11:30pm.
I'm guessing her pub is very close by and she goes for last orders, is she meeting someone or something it's odd she does this.

Dvg · 15/04/2019 07:56

so what happens if the baby wakes up or the house sets on fire or something? poor baby :(

whifflesqueak · 15/04/2019 07:58

I live next door to the village pub where I work and socialise. It’s literally baby monitor range from my house.

Dh and I have joked about doing this but we never have. Even if in distance terms it’s no different to being in the garden, somehow it feels wrong.

Lost5stone · 15/04/2019 07:59

Agree it doesn't matter where she goes. If she had to go to A&E it still wouldn't be acceptable to leave a 1 year old alone.

Yabbers · 15/04/2019 08:12

You have a legal duty to report this if the child is alone.
Why do people write things like this?

coco2891 · 15/04/2019 08:13

W the actual F!

You've had to post On MN to ask if this is acceptable ?!?! Beggars belief !

BiscuitDrama · 15/04/2019 08:16

It’s not true that nothing illegal has happened here @MitziTheTabbyIsMyOverlord

www.gov.uk/law-on-leaving-your-child-home-alone
states ‘The law doesn’t say an age when you can leave a child on their own, but it’s an offence to leave a child alone if it places them at risk.‘

OoohAyyye · 15/04/2019 08:26

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MinisterforCheekyFuckery · 15/04/2019 08:32

Where I live, SS are VERY busy, very stretched. Understaffed and underfunded. I doubt they'd take this on. That doesn't mean it isn't worth reporting.

I work in a safeguarding role. SS are understaffed and overstretched everywhere, that's true, but they absolutely would investigate a report of a parent leaving their 1yo baby home alone while they go to the pub. No question. I've known Children several years older be placed on Child in Need plans due to being left alone while parents go out drinking. Leaving a baby alone is indefensible.

Waveysnail · 15/04/2019 08:36

Wow

galumph · 15/04/2019 08:42

what the actual fuck

why do you need to ask OP???

I'm gobsmacked that this is even being considered on this thread. YOU DON'T LEAVE BABIES ALONE FFS!!

galumph · 15/04/2019 08:43

wait, is this a joke??

Dillydallyalltheway · 15/04/2019 08:48

I am honestly hoping that this is a sick joke, if it isn’t then for gods sake you must ring social services. Anything could happen to the baby, she is definitely not a good mum at all. Not that it changes anything, but out of interest how far away is the pub?

Please please tell social services immediately before something does happen, you will never forgive yourself when something does happen. Good luck.

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MichaelMumsnet · 15/04/2019 09:01

Hi all,
We have had a good look behind the scenes, and can't find anything to suggest that the OP isn't genuine. We've made a couple of deletions on this thread - so please do bear in mind our Talk guidelines when posting.