To walk home alone at 3am?

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Basically I live 10 min walk from the city centre or about 2-3 min drive.
Last night I went out with friends and I walked home at around 3am.
My boyfriend goes crazy with me but what is the point in wasting £6 on a taxi plus the taxis always huff and puff when I get in knowing how short the journey is.
What do you think?

Yanbu

It really depends on your route home, how busy it is etc. When a late teenager and in my early 20's I took really stupid risks getting home. Utterly stupid of me.

If you feel safe doing it then no yanbu. I've done it a couple of times as I'm only a 10 minute walk from the city center too.

I'd do it
But then I have in the past walked 20 minutes in the dark on country roads from a commuting town from the last bus to my village.

It’s not utterly stupid at all- you should be able to walk anywhere at any time without someone else attaching you. However the reality is that it could be risky for you sadly. Your bf isn’t wrong there.
Would a Pre-booked Uber be cheaper? Would your concerned BF get up and pick you up?

It's your choice and not his. If he's that bothered then suggest to him that he gives you a lift home or pays for the taxi. I think he's treading a very fine line between caring and controlling.

I'd do it 🤷‍♀️

I’ve done it in the past, but usually I cycle home. I feel invincible on my bike! I’m not of course, but I definitely feel much safer cycling late on my own than walking. A cheap pub-bike is a glorious thing!

If she pre books she loses spontaneity
Are things really not safe? Or go we just hear the bad news?
As a pp says, my bus drops me off 20 mins away. I walk home on unlit roads. Its fine.

Personally I wouldn't walk about a city centre alone at 3am and DH wouldn't want me to either.

Over the years I did it too... but I wouldn't do it now. My town is slowly getting more weirdos

A lone female at 3am, noway. £6 is hardly breaking the bank for your safety. I don't think your OH is wrong in saying you shouldn't do it.

Should her oh do it?

Can't see why the taxi drivers huff and puff. All the ones I know are far happier doing quick short journeys for standard minimum rate than long journeys with not much chance of picking up a return fare. 🤔

I’m a 10 minute ish walk from a bus stop and often get the bus home. When I lived in London I used to take all sorts of night bus / wandering around combinations to get home because taxis out to the suburbs are horrifically expensive. I always felt pretty safe but there’s always a small risk. I Certainly wouldn’t be impressed with a boyfriend who suggested I couldn’t assess risk for myself though.

Eh, I've walked home at all ages and at all times in East London, including through an unlit graveyard, with absolutely no bother that I couldn't handle. If you are comfortable in your area and know your routes (and a backup route just in case) then I dont see why its anyone else business.

I wouldn’t personally, I live in Manchester City centre and I certainly wouldn’t be comfortable walking around there alone at 3am. I’d pay the £6 and put up with the huffing and puffing of a taxi driver knowing my safety was worth that much.

I am fully aware in a perfect world you should be safe to walk around at 3am without being attacked or assaulted but we don’t like in a perfect world and I wouldn’t take the risk with my safety for the sake of £6

5 min of my walk is actually through the city centre and the last 5 mins is on a main road (not much traffic on night but still cars) then you get to housing estate etc.
His argument is that because I'm tipsy I won't have my wits about me.

It completely depends on the area.

I live in an area with a high crime rate. I personally wouldn't want to walk the streets past about 10pm here, and even my DC who are 27, 19 and 16 would rather jump in an Uber than walk home at 3am.

However, it's really personal choice so YANBU at all.

I would probably do it but then you are taking a risk. A 12 year old boy was killed for him phone near me a while ago, he was supposed to be staying at a friend's and decided he wanted to go home, not sure of the exact details of why he was allowed to leave alone so it's not just a risk for women. Like I said I would probably do it because no one ever really thinks anything will happen to them.

A definite no from me.
We should be able to walk alone at night but I don’t think it’s worth the risk.
Even though most attacks on women are from someone known to them opportunistic assaults tend to happen more frequently when it’s dark and few people are around.
I would worry if one of my nieces in their twenties did this.

His argument is that because I'm tipsy I won't have my wits about me.

Depending on how alcohol affects you, that could be a good argument but only you'd know that.

YANBU
I used to have to regularly walk home from work at 2am through the centre of Manchester as the bus did not stop outside my door but about ten mins away.
I did once witness a violent mugging on a Saturday night but was never once personally attacked beyond a few heckles from dickheads.
Theres no way idve got a taxi from the bus stop every night I worked how ridiculous.

Its riskier for women to walk alone at night... but theres still statistically less risk of anything happening than you being involved in a road accident but I bet he doesnt take issue with you driving anywhere.

Sometimes women do have to walk places alone at night. YANBU he sounds like hard work. Fine to express mild concern but infantilising and controlling to 'go crazy' about it.

I had to walk for over 1 hour from a city center to the edge of the city all by myself as a teenager.
There were no taxis, buses had stopped and my parents didn't drive.
So I walked through all the dark parks and unlit streets, because at the time I thought they were the safest places to be hidden from view.
Got home all right.
Never went out late at night again, unless I could catch the last bus.

I sometimes work late shifts and come home at 1/2am. I live 10 mins from work but I always drive as I feel safer. There have been stabbings and robberies on the main road to work and I don’t want to take the risk. I have children and a husband to think about.

In an ideal world, yes, you should be able to walk 10mins home and no one should say or do anything to you, but you never know who you’ll meet and the mindset of a psychopath will never change, even if the world’s mindset changes in regards to a woman walking alone.