To walk home alone at 3am?

[cantdorightornot]

Basically I live 10 min walk from the city centre or about 2-3 min drive.
Last night I went out with friends and I walked home at around 3am.
My boyfriend goes crazy with me but what is the point in wasting £6 on a taxi plus the taxis always huff and puff when I get in knowing how short the journey is.
What do you think?

I do it (although it's been a while) but I don't like my 18 year old dd doing it!

Taxis aren't completely safe either.

Re cycling, just keep in mind that drunk cycling is illegal and dangerous.

@Tensixtysix
God that sounds terrifying.
I get scared going downstairs when DH is away if the stair lights not working😐

@safariboot
God that’s true I guess I’ll never be able to sleep when DCS are old enough to go out at night.

Graveyards are the safest places to walk through. Only Goths to bump into and they are harmless

I love walking around at night. I don't necessarily think taxis are that safe tbh.

I'd be telling him that I can do my own risk assessments.

I’m lucky to have a very safe off-road (but unfortunately uphill) nighttime cycle route, and I never really get so wasted I can’t control the bike. It’s rare I see a single soul after a certain time. I’ve never come a-cropper in almost 20 years of cycling under the influence anyway, and the countless police I’ve encountered while doing it have never been anything other than friendly.

On the rare occasions I don’t have my bike and I walk home, I feel slightly on edge. Not terribly and not enough to stop me if cycling wasn’t an option, but I definitely prefer being on wheels.

I've done it many times although these days (getting old!) I tend to be a little more aware of what I'm wearing if I plan to walk home after being out i.e. I will wear flat shoes (that I can walk fast in, run if necessary), I won't be carrying my work laptop (or it will be hidden in a bag that doesn't look like a work bag with a laptop), I won't have 'excessive' amounts to drink when out and if I feel slightly nervous I'll have my front door keys between my knuckles ready to use as a weapon.

I’m obviously a wuss [turns on nightlight]

Graveyards are the safest places to walk through.

I don't think that's necessarily true. A close friend of mine was attacked and raped at knifepoint in a graveyard when she was walking home (only 10 mins walk from the tube station to her flat). This was in east London.

Get a cab - who wanders the streets at that hour fgs?
Why can’t your DH collect you if there are no cabs?
Or just leave earlier?

Depends upon how sober you are at the time. If you're even slightly wobbly, cab everytime. Sober, go for it.

I did it as university so did all my friends, I was sexually assaulted.

Still affects me and my relationships now nearly 20 years later. I have problems ( major flashbacks) when I go to dentists- I have to be sedated or have general anaesthetic for any work, I can't walk with anyone behind me at all my distance, I hate walking in the dark and have been known to freeze and not be able to move when I get too scared and call friends for help to come and get me. For the first few years afterwards if someone came up behind me and touched me on shoulder / spoke to me( normally to ask something say at work) I jumped with fear then burst into tears with relief that I was safe and not being attacked again.

I always thought I was street smart and would be fine, I wasn't. I also got lots of 'advice' and what others would do if it happened to them ( ie they would get away, it wouldn't happen to them)

It broke my confidence, gave me nightmares and flashbacks.

I've had three lots of counselling but that gut reaction / fear hasn't quite
Gone away.

Only takes that one time.

I probably won't change your mind but please please be carefully. X

Just spotted your update.

Get a fucking cab.

A woman in our nearest city was raped as she cycled home last night. £6 seems a very small amount of money to avoid that.

Up to you - not your partner. Difficult to say if 'safe' as depends on area, how you dress, how drunk you are. Could well be safer at 3am than 10 pm though, purely because fewer people around.
As for cycling after drinking - this is not illegal. There is no limit as for driving a car. So as long as you don't endanger anyone the police are not going to bother about you.

I would get a cab without a doubt

I used to do it in my 20s and didn't bat an eyelid but nowadays, I'm just too feart! Doesn't help that I've been watching too many murder/death/kill docs on Netflix.

I wouldn’t
It’s sad and wrong that it’s considered not to be safe but that’s the way it is.

As for cycling after drinking - this is not illegal.

Actually it's an offence under Section 30 of the Road Traffic Act 1988 and you can be fined up to £2.5k. Unlikely to ever happen but an offence nevertheless.

I would never ever do this and have never done this. Why risk it? Makes no sense for the sake of £6
Ever since I was a teenager I have always stuck to this rule.
It beggars belief IMO that women still do this ... we are more vulnerable to attack..

Years ago I wouldn't have thought twice but not now. 3 am is really late - less people around if you do get in trouble.

And i'd be terrified if my daughter did it.
It's just not worth it.

I would hate my daughter to do it however did it many a time at Uni and twenties purely as had no money.
I was lucky however always walked in the middle of road ready for a really quick dash - don't ask it was very logical to me at the time.

You are not BU. You should be able to walk when and where you want. That was certainly my perspective.

I was sexually assaulted walking home a number of years ago (close enough to the city, western road is typically busy with traffic even past midnight).

I would not do it now. Take care OP!

I'm usually home earlier than that but I walk home at night all the time. From work, socialising, the gym etc. The gym is through a park. TBH, probably my two worst experiences were in a minicab and on a train in terms of creepy men. Got mugged at 7 or 8 at night as a student with my housemate (also female). What am I going to do, stay in the whole time? I can't live my life like that.