To not believe in the mythical baby who....

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....goes to sleep "drowsy but awake?"

This is the suggestion I see in books and online but my DD, nine months old, has loudly objected every time I try it. She'll lie in her cot, have a look around for a few minutes, then start screeching.

She is currently waking up every twenty to thirty minutes, apart from between 12 midnight and 7am,when, thank goodness, she will sleep (cosleeping)

The rest of the time we are trying to get her to sleep in her cot beside our bed. She has always needed resettling in the evening and she has never napped for long, but this is just ridiculous. She went to bed at half seven and I've been up to settle her again three times already. I go back to work next month so I'm keen to have her in a better routine. What do I do? She was getting so much better up until this week and now we are back to square one.

Some babies will do it but every child is different.

Dd would when younger but at 9 months she was at the height of separation anxiety so not a chance of it happening.

Mine does! Completely freaked me out though as DC1 would only go to sleep after several hours feeding, bath, swaddling (when small), more feeding then blasting with white noise in my arms until she was in a deep sleep, then gently manoeuvre her into cot, more white noise then sitting completely still until I was 100% sure she was asleep before creeping out ninja style. DC2 I put down briefly to do something else and find she’s just nodded off! Weirdo!!

My youngest did this for a while, between 3-6 months, I think, for her daytime naps. She'd have a wee coo to herself and then go to sleep.

My eldest was similar, but instead of cooing she'd shout happily (like, properly shout) till she went to sleep. It would last about 20 minutes before she'd drop off.

My middle child didn't do daytime naps except on me.

My dd has always gone to sleep drowsy but awake, i never fed her to sleep and now at 14 months i just put her in her cot with her aoft tiys and blanket, she plays flr 20mins or so usually then goes to sleep

As others have said every baby is different

Well in the last couple of weeks I have finally managed to get DS to fall asleep from 'drowsy but awake'.

He's 2 and a half.

There was not a hope in hell that it would have worked when he was a baby!

My 2nd DD did at bedtime but it’s all bullshit because she still woke up multiple times in the night so it made no difference. Finally sleeping through at 4 years old.

I’ve never seen my kids drowsy and they’re 10 and 12. They’re either awake or asleep. I always felt like I was doing something wrong when they were babies. But no. They were just bastards.

My two didn't do it until I went back to work and they were totally exhausted by nursery. And it was more that they were so knackered the minute they were horizontal they fell asleep. Unfortunately when their stamina improved they didn't retain their sleep skills!

My second does

My first would scream until she was sick. I thought it was a myth too at that point!!

DD1 did this from about 3 months. DD2 - never!

My eldest was never drowsy. In fact at 5 he still is eyes wide open until he finally sleeps. Baby 2 is showing more potential on the drowsy front.
But I agree it’s a phrase that is based on a mythical baby and another thing we parents can bash ourselves on head with.

My eldest did it from birth. Sorry OP!

Second one did not!

They’re all different.

Mine had a sleep regression at that age! She is 18 months, first slept through at 17 months . I would say, ride this one (it might last a couple of weeks) then re-in state your routine. It's hard work! Good luck!

Some of mine did some of mine didn't 🤷🏽‍♀️

My no1 child did this. She was very happy to be given her dummy (and from about 4-5 months) her cuddly, and she would just nod off, no fuss. Of course at the time I attributed this to my awesome parenting skillz.

Then no 2 child arrived. He hadn't had the memo on this . And thus I discovered that no 1 was just a streak of luck!

My two year old is of the same breed. He’s never slept through and there is absolutely no fucking chance you’re getting out of his room until he’s been asleep for at least 15 minutes. He can be nodding off in his tea and I’ll take him up and he STILL won’t co-operate Sorry. Some small people were just sent to give you a prolonged endurance test. If it’s any consolation, you do sort of end up being able to function as a zombie. As long as I get a 4 hour block I’m ok, but I swear I will grab every single second of an opportunity to sleep in the day. Like even 7.5 minutes while DH supervises breakfast. Also, going to bed earlier helps a bit. Re the evening waking, is she hungry or does she just want a cuddle? White noise is brilliant but it needs to be LOUD. And make sure she’s not too hot/too cold. Sending massive amounts of knackered solidarity and

My 9 week old does this - with my NCT mums I am in the minority but also fully aware it could and will most likely change at any moment!

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I have managed this too in the last few months It went from rocking him to sleep till he was about 7 months old. To falling asleep in my bed and then moving him to his bed. To lying with him in his bed until he's asleep. To sitting at the end of his bed until he's asleep, to now putting him to bed and leaving him to fall asleep, while I chill out in my room. Absolute bliss now!

No way I could have done this any earlier though, he was too clingy and needed me close to feel safe enough to sleep.

My second born is a drowsy but awake type though, so different to her brother.

OP
All babies are different and your little one just needs you more. Enjoy the snuggles while it lasts! It goes far too quickly.

The problem is that someone had one or two of those babies, thought it was down to their amazing parenting and wrote a book. If they'd got onto child 3, they've had a velcro baby and realise it wasn't their parenting at all.

I had a horrendous sleeper for my first child, I nearly didn’t have anymore he was that awful, I was tired for 3years, he’s now 5 and still not brilliant. Baby number to is AMAZING at sleeping, he was a dream to put to sleep, I used the drowsy but awake approach, he’s great at napping too. I put him in his cot wide awake and say ‘love you, go to sleep’ and he does! It amazes me each time and I count my lucky stars! Some kids are good sleepers some are rubbish depends on the child not the parent.

She is currently waking up every twenty to thirty minutes, apart from between 12 midnight and 7am,when, thank goodness, she will sleep (cosleeping)

Stealth boast?

So she's sleeping through. At nine months.

I'd say count your blessings.

My eldest would cry to be put down & would never be rocked to sleep. My youngest is still insisting on being rocked to sleep at 18m. Babies are ridiculous!

Dd did from about 9 weeks. Ds1&2 never, in fact ds2 slept through before ds1.
When ds2 was a toddler he would often ask to go to bed when he was tired which was nice.

Sorry, that was ungenerous of me.

In case this wasn't a stealth boast, I think yes, a lot of babies don't do all the things the parenting books advise, and it's annoying. But, if you're able to sleep 12-7, you'll be fine at work.