I am not sure exactly how to feel about this I think I feel pretty shit but not sure if iabu.
My parents live around 200 miles from me so we don't see each other that often. At Easter they have my db1 and his gf, my db2, his wife and 2 children staying for 2-3 nights from sat-tues. They have 4 bedrooms and a pretty big house although I appreciate that's a lot.
I have a group of old school friends and we get together with all ours kids one weekend a year and this year its only a few miles from where my parents live. My mum has been making noises for ages that she hopes I'll see her as I'm so nearby, sort of guilt tripping me that I wasn't coming to her.
So I suggested lunch on Easter Sunday (which is also my birthday) all together with the family. I didn't stipulate where ie. could have been pub or at her house etc. Have a terse reply saying we cant see you on Sunday as we have your dbs and family here.
No suggestion of popping in for a coffee, no acknowledgement its even my birthday. I know if this was me I'd make a huge roast and sit the 4 kids to eat first (my 2 and db's 2) and then the 7 adults afterwards. But she isn't even thinking of alternatives, just a no.
Also being tricky about getting together on other days as the same problem - too many people. And then I dbs and I all separately go back home on Tues.
I realise this is all pretty pathetic but there is obviously a back story - me feeling like an unloved unwanted child, very low self esteem persisting - and events like this just play into it.
I do have a degree of detachment and not giving a shot, but also want to know if others think my mum is being a bit harsh here?