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AIBU to think schools shouldn’t be giving out Easter Eggs?

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TulipsTulipsTulips · 12/04/2019 13:22

My DD4 will be showered with chocolate I'm the upcoming week. It’s part of the fun of Easter. But her teachers have already given her, and all the nursery class, a medium sized chocolate egg each and chocolates were being handed around today. AIBU to think giving out chocolates is for parents to monitor and decide, and the school should focus on other healthier Easter activities? Why are schools spending money on unhealthy treats that have no educational purpose?

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Pimmsypimms · 12/04/2019 16:27

YABU. I'm a midday supervisor in an infants school. Today we gave out 20 cream eggs for those lucky enough to find one on their seats at lunch time and each child got a mini foil wrapped egg with their pudding today, it made their day!!

Faultymain5 · 12/04/2019 16:30

I think if you don't allow your child chocolate then it's best to let the school know just in case, but if they are allowed chocolate then this isn't a big deal. Just take it off her and ration it out like I assume you do with all the other chocolate that she gets.

This is what I don't get, the teachers are not supposed to be feeding them chocolate and the like. I shouldn't have to let them know that. My DD is able to eat chocolate, she just needs to be supervised brushing her teeth, which is impossible to do at school (understandably), my DD is okay to eat the occasional sweet, but 6 year groups of 32 children each and birthdays every week somehow stops being occasional, and when I permit the shool (and parents) doing it, I never get to treat. Thanks very much. I'm the mean mum and school is not the place for treats it's the place for education. A treat is dress down day, a treat is the end of term video (which I also don't agree with), food should not be seen as a treat.

And breath!

Lifeover · 12/04/2019 16:31

for some children this could be the only easter egg they recieve

Stuckforthefourthtime · 12/04/2019 16:34

for some children this could be the only easter egg they recieve

At an independent school?

Faultymain5 · 12/04/2019 16:34

for some children this could be the only easter egg they recieve

And?

Forgive me for the flippancy but I'm more concerned that they have hot meals, not that they get sugar as a treat.

Alicatz66 · 12/04/2019 16:34

Maybe the Easter bunny could bring quinoa and avocados

sweeneytoddsrazor · 12/04/2019 16:40

Maybe the teacher could have made palm crosses with them and organised a donkey ride to Jerusalem. Or taught them about crucifixion or people rising from the dead. Would you have preferred that to an egg.

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TulipsTulipsTulips · 12/04/2019 16:40

Ok I know this will probably wind up my detractors that I’m posting again here, but DD4 has just come home with a properly massive chocolate egg from the SPA! It’s in the cupboard Wink

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Scabetty · 12/04/2019 16:44

No sweets or chicolate are allowed in my school. Children can give out fruit on birthdays. No cakes or biscuits at class parties just fruit and ready salted crisps. What fun we have Confused

Jebuschristchocolatebar · 12/04/2019 16:49

My ds got a lovely chocolate bunny from his teacher today. I know she bought them herself even though it’s a wealthy school. I think it’s so kind and thoughtful of her.

PostmistressMcColl · 12/04/2019 16:49

PennyArcade - I think it's lovely if the kids get treats, but I just don't think they should be edible treats!
Yes my DD knows she mustn't eat food unless the label has been checked. And so she hadn't eaten the coins. But the teacher gave them to her and it's not hard to imagine that an 8 year old child might think that adult in authority knows what they're doing and will keep them safe. I shouldn't be having to rely on an 8yo's judgement for my DD to be safe. (She knows how to cross a busy road, in theory, but I wouldn't let her walk home on her own yet!).
And she ended up being left out of the treat, which is a bit crap for her.
Aren't non edible treats the perfect solution here?

Catchingbentcoppers · 12/04/2019 16:53

Your DD's teacher sounds like a right cow going around trying to make these children happy. Phone Ofsted, then the Police. Oh and the Daily Mail, you might be able to get your photo in the paper making an angry face and shaking your fist.

DirtyNumbAngel · 12/04/2019 16:53

What an evil shower of bastards OP! I'd definitely be taking legal advice on this!!

My kids go to mere state schools and even DS2's Primary school did this! I was incandescent with rage as, I can imagine, are you.
Our school has form for this though. When my youngest broke up for Christmas his whole class received a chocolate Santa!!! Can you believe that?!?

WHY CAN'T THEY JUST THINK OF THE CHILDREN?!?!?

Hmm
Omzlas · 12/04/2019 16:59

The only time I'd consider you being unreasonable was if your child had an allergy (I.e. nuts) and there was a possibility that the egg would cause a reaction.

In any other case, YABU

Aprillygirl · 12/04/2019 16:59

I bet you're fun at parties.

FlowerTink · 12/04/2019 17:06

Dd's preschool gave out chocolate at Christmas and an egg each at Easter. DD was so thrilled with her gift from preschool and I was pleased all of the children had been thought of. For various reasons the children may not be given any other eggs or chocolate and this way they are still part of it and included.

rainbowstardrops · 12/04/2019 17:24

I work in year 2 at the moment and I bought all 30 children a little hollow chocolate egg for Easter .... out of my own money!!!
I also gave them all a Christmas card with a chocolate coin and a candy cane - again out of my own pocket. I will also buy them all a leaving gift in July.
It never occurred to me that some parents might bloody find a problem with that!!!
Can't bloody do right for wrong with some people Angry

Dishwashersaurous · 12/04/2019 17:28

More concerned that your child is showered with chocolate. Mine certainly won’t be. Therefore a small chocolate from school two weeks earlier isn’t going to make any difference

Myothercarisalsoshit · 12/04/2019 17:29

We are a healthy school but our policy does allow for treats at Christmas and Easter. Last week myself and my TA organised an Easter egg hunt fir the kids in our class. They had never experienced this before. At home time they were given a small chocolate egg and a small chocolate lolly each as a gift from us. This came out of our own pockets and I can absolutely guarantee that these will be the only treats some of ours get. OP you say you have your child’s unwanted eggs in a cupboard? Why not take them with you when you do your big shop and donate to a food bank? Make someone happy!

HotpotLawyer · 12/04/2019 17:33

Oh, god, write in and complain if it makes you feel better.

Teachers being nice to kids, celebrating Easter, whatever next? They deserve to be taken down a peg or two and have their end of term marred by a complaint, that will teach them! And give them the motivation they need to turn your child's school into Dotheboys Hall.

SchrodingersUnicorn · 12/04/2019 17:37

It's a nursery class, so children and teachers (read also carers, trusted adults, tear wipers etc) have really close bonds. It's not just school.
Also, it's an independent school so although they encourage healthy eating they aren't as tied by the government food police as schools. It's basically an independent nursery.
My DD (3, also in nursery class at an independent school) also got an egg, signed with love from all her teachers/TAs, and dairy free specially for her. I thought it was a lovely gesture, even though she doesn't eat much chocolate. I'll put it away and use it for her egg hunt on Easter Sunday and not get her one ourselves, then read the label with her when she finds it so she knows it's from them.
Also wondering if Tulips child is in my DDs class now!

PennyArcade · 12/04/2019 17:39

PennyArcade - I think it's lovely if the kids get treats, but I just don't think they should be edible treats

What's the problem with school giving out a small chocolate treat before the end of term?

Some children get 10 Easter Eggs at Easter. A minority get none... Why does your Dc's condition trump all?

I have two adopted Dc's. The primary years of their lives were fucking appalling! But don't let that that stop you in your quest to hate teachers who care about the minority.

Your kids are fine. Great! Good for you being a wonderful parent 👏👏👏 That's a slow clap BTW.

Wake up and realise that schools care about all their pupils. Some more than others - because some deserve to be treated. Not yours, obviously! 🙄

sonjadog · 12/04/2019 17:40

The parents in the school may have a lot of money, but that doesn't mean they are good parents. If kids don't get an Easter egg, it may not be because the parent doesn't want them to have chocolate, it may be because the parent has addiction problems, is alway at work all the time, just has no interest in his/her children. It really isn't that hard to understand why there might be children who don't get Easter eggs at private schools too, and why it might be really nice thing for them that their teacher remembers them.

PostmistressMcColl · 12/04/2019 17:44

PennyArcade - I've told you what i think the problem with a chocolate treat is - some children will be left out. I'm all for treats but I don't see why they must be edible. My point (not the OP's) is that a non-edible treat can be inclusive for everyone. I don't really understand why anyone would have a problem with that?

RabbityMcRabbit · 12/04/2019 17:46

Jeez teachers can't do right for doing wrong can we OP?Confused