I'm a childminder but aibu to not do all I'm asked to do.

[Missymoo71]

I mind 3 children from 7.30am to 5pm, 4 days a week. All in Montessori and school so free from 9.30 to 1pm. I have been doing jobs in the house as asked. Exp: change the bedsheets, wash and dry. All washing for the house hold wash and dry. Then I have to iron everything....I do their weekly shop for them also. Clean out the fridge, clean out the food presses and giving the playroom "a scrub ' I also make dinners, drop and pick ups for Irish dancng have swimming clubs for the 3 and have to stay while class is on. Now, here's my AIBU. They have a cleaner, she gets paid a lot more than me and yet it seems I'm doing a hell of a lot more than the cleaner. She has actually told me she used to have visit them twice a week, until I started. I'm feeling a bit used. I know I should be helping as I am paid while they are in school. But just feel like she is taking the absolute piss expecting me do the cleaners job as well as caring for the children who are my priority. At the interview, she specifically stipulated that she had a cleaner so I wouldn't be asked to do much. Wwyd?

Term time I think this is reasonable.

School holiday time - childcare only.

Yep, she is a royal pisstaker by the sounds of it. You are a childminder and should only do duties that are directly to do with the kids.

You aren't a childminder if you are in their home. You are a nanny and by the sounds of it a housekeeper too.

Check your contract.

Ask for a pay rise.

And I'm pretty sure you're a nanny not a childminder. Find out what the standard nanny rate is in your area and see how it compares. I have neither a cleaner nor a nanny but would expect to be paying a nanny more than a cleaner.

You sound more like an au pair.

You are not a childminder you are a mother’s help and I suppose the answer is if you don’t like the job then look for a new one , you do have a lot of time in the day when there are no children .

Are you living in??? Sound like an au pair job to me not a straight forward child minder.

I would look for another job

Childminders don't do what you're doing.

You're closer to a live-out nanny. And nannies only do the cooking, cleaning and ironing for the children. No adults washing and ironing. And they get paid a lot more than a cleaner!

Why are you doing this job? Are you a registered childminder or Nanny?

You're a nanny if you're in their house. Most nannies who have school age charges would either not work those hours or do child related things don't they?

Are you sure you're a childminder and not their nanny/ au pair? I was under the impression that childminder's care for children in their own home not someone else's?

If you are a childminder though they are absolutely taking the piss! Surely you shouldn't be in their house for a start but if you are you should be only doing tasks related to the children and not changing their beds and stuff.

You should only be doing the children’s washing, not the whole households.

You’re not a childminder.

If you are looking after them in their own home you are not a childminder.

My childminder would tell me where to get off if I asked her to do the ironing! Are you actually a qualified childminder? Or is this the label you've been given? Because a childminder would be calling the shots with a contract that the parents sign and a fee that they choose to charge.

You sound like a nanny or an aupair. I think that in term time that's a lot but if it's all related to the children I guess it's doable, in the school holidays no way.

HI there

Childminders are self employed work from their own homes, so your employer may be underpaying you.

You're not a childminder though

I think she’s an absolute piss taker. Fair enough asking you to tidy/clean the playroom or even sort washing out for the kids etc. But anything that’s not directly for the children I wouldn’t be doing. Do you have a job description (or job advert, emails that say what you’ll be expected to do etc)? With the “free” time you have I’d expect to do kid related stuff- maybe even pick up a few bits from the shop etc if there was nothing in and you know you have to feed them. But doing ALL of the washing and ironing for the household is a piss take. I used to work for a woman who was like this- just expected that somehow one person would do three peoples jobs and then moaned when the bathroom wasn’t sparkling or the ironing wasn’t done to a high enough standard. Not the “used to”....

I don’t know what to suggest you do about it since I tried to have a reasonable conversation with my old employer about the situation and she basically told me I was the unreasonable one and that if I didn’t have the time to do it all whilst I was at work then I should take time out of MY time to do it (ironing, shopping etc). Eventually I wrote an email laying out what was/wasn’t acceptable with regard to my actual job description. She never replied so I handed my notice in a fortnight later and found something else. Doesn’t pay as well but at least I’m not being micromanaged every second of the day by someone with unrealistic standards. Last I heard she had realised she required more staff and had infact employed a nanny, cleaner and outsourced the ironing 🤷‍♀️

Also yes. Not a childminder. Although I suspect that’s possibly just the job title you’ve been given? Rather than actually being a registered CM?

Childminders mind children in the childminders home. Here in Scotland they need to be registered with the Care Inspectorate and its Ofsted in England as far as I'm aware. You are minding them in your home so you're definitely not a childminder, are you registered?

I agree this sounds like nanny not childminder since you are in their home. Are you self employed (childminder) or are they your employer and pay National Insurance etc (nanny?) all the things you describe are ok for a nanny if they are in your contract and you signed up to it, if not then you need to point it out!

You are not a childminder.

Childminders are self employed and work in their own homes. And they are in charge and set the agreements of the contract

You are a nanny/ au pair and should find new work for a family that appreciate you more!

Did they call you a childminder or is that what you call yourself? Are you getting paid a proper daily rate? You sound like a live-out nanny to me, and I can't understand how you ended up taking on all the household duties?!

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You are a nanny. reasonable to run errands, wash children’s clothes prepare lunch while kids are at school, but you are doing a housekeeper job in addition to the nannying duties.

Look up he salary for a housekeeper and nanny in the area. Start negotiating

As PP say this sounds like a nanny job, or rather a nanny/housekeeper because nannying normally only includes cleaning up after kids rather than doing 'heavy' housework or anything to do with the ironing. And nanny-housekeeper combined roles normally pay a premium. What are you on per hour?