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AIBU?

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I'm a childminder but aibu to not do all I'm asked to do.

156 replies

Missymoo71 · 11/04/2019 19:23

I mind 3 children from 7.30am to 5pm, 4 days a week. All in Montessori and school so free from 9.30 to 1pm. I have been doing jobs in the house as asked. Exp: change the bedsheets, wash and dry. All washing for the house hold wash and dry. Then I have to iron everything....I do their weekly shop for them also. Clean out the fridge, clean out the food presses and giving the playroom "a scrub ' I also make dinners, drop and pick ups for Irish dancng have swimming clubs for the 3 and have to stay while class is on. Now, here's my AIBU. They have a cleaner, she gets paid a lot more than me and yet it seems I'm doing a hell of a lot more than the cleaner. She has actually told me she used to have visit them twice a week, until I started. I'm feeling a bit used. I know I should be helping as I am paid while they are in school. But just feel like she is taking the absolute piss expecting me do the cleaners job as well as caring for the children who are my priority. At the interview, she specifically stipulated that she had a cleaner so I wouldn't be asked to do much. Wwyd?

OP posts:
Noobcrumble · 14/04/2019 10:07

OutComeTheWolves - yes it’s disgusting that people who have lived in the UK all their lives aren’t born with the essential knowledge that the standard definition of Childminder isn’t used in Ireland Hmm
In a further post I said that it made more sense to me when someone pointed out the fact that the term “childminder” is broadly used and I offered advice to the OP....but you seem to have dismissed that Wink
Plus - God forbid that I look something up on...gulp....Google, what the fuck was I thinking!!

fairyjuice · 14/04/2019 12:28

Not sure where this 'childminder is a broadly used term in Ireland' is coming from Hmm It's not. I am Irish, and have worked as a registered childminder in Ireland, and the only time I have ever heard someone who minds in the kids own home being referred to as a childminder is when they are being paid under the table with no tax or prsi being paid for them.

The regulations in Ireland are the same as the UK. If you work from your own house you are self employed. If you work in someone else's house, you are an employee and they must pay you minimum wage and pay tax and prsi contributions for you.

Regardless of this, the ops employers are taking the piss by adding more duties and constantly expecting more of her.

LaurieMarlow · 14/04/2019 12:37

the only time I have ever heard someone who minds in the kids own home being referred to as a childminder is when they are being paid under the table with no tax or prsi being paid for them.

Well that’s very common. Where are you based out of interest?

anotherroutine · 14/04/2019 12:51

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fairyjuice · 14/04/2019 12:54

I'm in the mid west. Childminders are a lot more common than nannies here but I think that's because cm is the cheaper option if you have less than 3 kids. And people with 3+ kids need to be earning a substantial wage to justify going back to work to pay the large childcare bill.

pollymere · 14/04/2019 17:49

I used to pay mine £5 an hour for when she had my child. She was great because she would happily charge half hours too. I didn't pay holidays etc. This would be the charge per child for most so you be on £15 an hour. I'd expect you to make snacks or lunch but nothing else. Assuming time for food prep, you'd only really have an hour to do other work but they need to pay you an appropriate rate for that five to fifteen hours a week you are doing.

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