To let 4 year old still have a dummy

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Last night I got into a fairly big argument with DH over DS's dummy, (stupid, I know.) So basically DS just turned 4 and still has a dummy. We've always let him have this since it's been his main comfort since he was born.

Yesterday we had a visit to the dentist, who told me that the dummy needed to go asap, as it was causing an openbite. I told DH last night and he said we should get rid of the dummy.

AIBU to think that I I should let DS keep it. This may sound ridiculous, but DS has never been a good sleeper, and I think taking the dummy away would make it worse. Last time he spent the night without it, (We were staying over night and forgot it,) he bairly slept all night. And I think that if we take his then he'll just steal DD's (she's 14 months old.)

He only really has it at night and only occasionally through the day. Surely it can't be that bad?

(just to point out it was only at night!)

Easter is just around the corner. Leave all the Dummies for the Easter bunny to give to babies and leave him a big boy present in return.

A dummy at 4 years old! Get rid of it and listen to the dentist.

It makes you sound rather unintelligent to even be asking the question after what the dentist told you.

I got rid of my children's dummies when the were 12 months. At the time, they still wanted it, but they didn't need it.

At that age it's much easier to remove, none of this dummy fairy or bribery. Just remove and they will forget in a week.

Now your child is older it's going to be harder, but you really need to do it. Maybe he doesn't sleep well cause he wakes up looking for his dummy? If he gets used to being without he will get better.

Can you take some holidays from work or do it over Easter? So you're not a zombie in work

You're not doing him any favours at all by keeping it - you'll affect his teeth AND his speech. At 4 yrs old you need to address the sleep issue without relying on a dummy.

Keep reminding him this week, he is a big boy now, the bunnies will be coming to take his dummy, he might cry wail just change the subject, it will plant the seed, pick a day to say Oh looks the bunnies have been, look what they left. Before you plans this clear the house of many spares.
When my neice was 3 she gave hers to Santa, she came down all happy, played with her toys and pulled an old dummy from her pocket, delighted Santa hadn't taken them all.

We took dummy away at 8 months. Three nights of no sleep and never looked back. It should be easy at four as you can explain to him.

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