To ask my neighbour not to put our address on parcels?

[MummytoCSJH]

I've seen many a post about this topic. I just don't know how to tell my neighbour not to do this! My partner accepted the parcel from Amazon before looking at the name as I wasn't in and he was working from home, but this has happened before and I resolved not to accept them again if they're at our address but not for us. My partner works full time (sometimes from home but not regularly) and I'm at university full time and work part time so I'm not sure why she expects us to be in more than her? I don't want an argument or falling out as we don't have any other major issues with her, other than the odd cheeky request, but frankly its a pain to be taking in her parcels then chasing her up to get them. They're not signed for either so she could easily claim we stole them! How to I tell her to stop (kindly)?

They didn't let me pick the parcels up Dottie, the eventually got returned. Still hasn't stopped her putting my address and her name though!

I do feel for you though, I know on one level it's a small thing but bringing things up with neighbours when you've had problems can be a bit of a minefield, and it's clear from MN that people can be extremely petty. I would just keep refusing the parcels. Hope you get things sorted out.

I just wouldn't bother getting in touch with her. She wants her parcel she knows where you live. Although I think I would start opening them and telling her that you just assumed they were yours as it was for your address.

Open the parcels and tell her that you were checking for cocaine as she’s obviously on drugs.

She has obviously got her address as the main one as it will have to match her card details but there is a option to add a second address which she has put as yours, a bit like putting a work address so probably not fraudulent. Though I do think you are meant to ask!!

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Stop engaging! Refuse parcels that aren’t addressed to you and when she asks, tell her. The point is she will stop using you as a convenient pick up point if she can’t pick up her parcels.

She’s being a cf because she is one.

Open up EVERY SINGLE parcel that arrives before you hand them over.

If you find purchase information, let the company know the address is wrong. Keep doing this and when she collects TELL HER that she has put the wrong address on the parcel. Let her know this is not OK and she needs to change it and continue to open up parcels when they arrive.

I would also consider "not being able to find the parcel" for a week each time. That way she would get them later than if she had to go to the depot to collect and putting our address on the parcel will no longer hold an advantage for her.

putting your address

The bloke who we bought our house off kept getting parcels sent here. Initially I thought it was an oversight and he'd text and say "sorry, it was a mistake, I'll pick it up at xxx day" until his Mother came to get some post for him and told me it was easier to get his stuff delivered here as he could just collect it on his way to/from work as he knew I was usually in (SAHM). I started refusing his parcels and now throw his post straight in the recycling.

I will always take parcels in for my neighbours as they do for me, they are not cheeky fuckers.

Order a parcel from Amazon under her name to come to your house,make sure it's for something embarrassing like anal lube or similar,then open it "accidentally" and give her it back

I never mind taking in parcels for my neighbours when they are out. However, I would think it odd if my neighbour addresses their parcels to my house.

Maybe just start being awkward..... opening parcels 'by mistake', 'losing' them, not answering the door to your neighbour etc.

I would also say to neighbour quite simply "please use your own address on your Amazon orders"

Wtf is it with people being Terribly British about offending somebody who is being a CF???

"You can collect it when we are in."

"This keeps happening - obviously I'm not a parcel depot so please get the address corrected on Amazon. Thanks!"

And be bloody inconvenient - "the dog was sick on it" "we opened it thinking it was ours because why wouldn't we" "I can't find it right now" "it's not convenient for you to collect it right now we are in the middle of tea/film/sex. Come back at 8pm".

When she comes round to collect just say
"Please stop sending your parcels to our address. We're often out during the day and there was that one time when I drove 20 mins each way to the sorting office to discover it was actually a parcel for you! What an inconvenience that was! We have busy lives and can't accommodate you using our address. I use the shop opposite for our amazon parcels - did you know you can send them there?" Then try and make a bit of polite chit chat (only as you said you don't want to fall out with her). She's really cheeky!

Neither of us are in all day today or tomorrow so she will have to wait. I will conveniently ignore her message for a few days (we're not friends on Facebook so it does come through but not always straight away) and wait for her to come round to get it and talk to her face to face. Like others have said if she'd have mentioned it as a one off or they'd have been trying us because she wasn't in that would be okay, though if she'd have asked if she could put our address on I would have advised her not to as we're in less than she is

I’d take it straight round and TELL her that she must have put the wrong address in by mistake as it’s addressed to you. That way it won’t be hanging over you.

Btw PLEASE don’t take pps advice to keep the goods. Just take this one straight round and then refuse any more.

Throw it over her fence....hard

For the parcel you have today tell her she has to come and collect it. For parcels from the post office , if you are not expecting anything don’t go. When she comes to collect today I would say please check your address is correct on amazons We won’t be taking them in anymore

I'll reiterate the fact that if she gets into debt it could affect your credit score as her name is linked to your address; be straight to the point and tell her NOT to use your address.

Don't panic. This isn't true (any more). But you could use it to ask her to stop I suppose as she might not know.

www.clearscore.com/credit-score/how-does-address-affect-credit-score

Just refuse to accept it and say that person doesn't live there but next door.
If they ask you to accept it tell them no.
Tell neighbour to change the address, if they don't inform Police or your solicitor.

Had similar. Neighbour does all shopping online and never in. I work from home so after a while delivery people asked for my signature not even knocking on neighbours door (the husband in but asleep). Talking about being disturbed about 5 times a day.

I disconnected my door bell so when neighbours ready to collect they couldn’t get hold of me for days.

I'd open and keep it if nice, otherwise donate to charity. It was sent to your address. It's obviously a gift. I would ignore her and if directly ask, tell her you know nothing about it. She is unlikely to be such a CF again.

Are you sure she didn’t just make a mistake in inputting her own address - only the number would be different from hers - and hasn’t bothered to correct it?

It's not that easy putting the wrong house number on now, and I think this was Amazon, so you have to add the address for deliveries.

I've said this loads already but to those saying refuse it, if it'd have been me at the door I wouldn't have accepted it, it's just that my partner didn't check because he saw it was our address on the parcel. I'm almost always expecting something so not answering/not going to the sorting office when I get a red slip won't work :( I wondered that too Seren, but I'm pretty sure she hasn't just clicked the wrong one as I use amazon myself and to change the address you have to manually add a new one and confirm it. We have never given her permission to get something posted here so even if she had done it and forgotten to change it back, I'd still be annoyed.