To ask my neighbour not to put our address on parcels?

[MummytoCSJH]

I've seen many a post about this topic. I just don't know how to tell my neighbour not to do this! My partner accepted the parcel from Amazon before looking at the name as I wasn't in and he was working from home, but this has happened before and I resolved not to accept them again if they're at our address but not for us. My partner works full time (sometimes from home but not regularly) and I'm at university full time and work part time so I'm not sure why she expects us to be in more than her? I don't want an argument or falling out as we don't have any other major issues with her, other than the odd cheeky request, but frankly its a pain to be taking in her parcels then chasing her up to get them. They're not signed for either so she could easily claim we stole them! How to I tell her to stop (kindly)?

Be resolute op! Hope it goes well

If she is never home to accept them, and you refuse them, they will probably have to go back to the sender. It depends on the courier of course, but I know that at least one of the major ones insists on two forms of ID to collect from the depot: one photo ID plus a utility bill to prove their address, and of course they won't be able to provide the latter as it isn't their address on the label.

Oh, somehow missed that you've already had the address issue yourself with her parcels. Surely she has had the same issue then, you would have thought she'd have twigged by now.

Have you considered the fact that if she runs up debts her name is linked to your address and this could affect your credit score.
Tell her under no circumstance is she to use your address or you will return all parcels as unknown at this address.

My CB neighbour did this last week (after a flurry at Christmas which i ended up 'delivering' to them daily when they could be bothered to answer the door, without a word of thanks, eventually i refused deliveries) then had the cheek to put a note through the door asking us to 'pop it round' (we were in at the time they did this). I went straight round and told them it had been returned via DPD that morning, handing over the tracking receipt, and i had called the company to ask them to delete my address as it was clearly a mistake (they couldn't as they wouldn't discuss the account but they didn't know that). Their face was a picture as it had only been a few hours since they got their delivery notification 😁 and had clearly done it on purpose. They professed to have given the wrong address by accident (but they knew it was here? Two doors down? Yeah right....).

Needless to say i doubt we will get any more. Just return to Amazon/ refuse the delivery.... they will soon get the message.

Definitely don't take anything round, just inconvenience them as much as possible.

You're being a mug, love.

And she knows it

If she messages you, that is the perfect opportunity to include a message back to her.

"Hi CF Neighbour, I am unable to hand deliver your parcel to you tonight or at any time in the future. If you want your parcel, you can collect it between 3pm and 4pm tomorrow only as we are busy before and after that time. I will be returning it to the depot after that. Please ensure that you update the delivery address for your online purchases as we will not be accepting any parcels going forward that we have not bought ourselves. We want to remain on good terms with you but this is overstepping and in order to remain on good terms we have no option but to put a stop to it. I'm sure you understand"

Or something like that.

I don't want to come across as rude to her.

You're worried about being 'rude' (no, its called asserting your boundaries) to your CF neighbour couldn't give two shits about being rude to you by assuming she could use your address and treat you like her unpaid skivvy? Shove that and tell her to naff off. What's the worst thing that could happen? She'll end up not talking to you? Brilliant!

I think this could be classed as fraud, op. I think your plan of returning to sender is best for the moment. What a cheeky mare!

FFS, grow a spine! You don't have to be rude, being firm is not being rude. 'You need to come and collect your package yourself. I'm not available to provide delivery service.' She comes over, 'It's fraudulent for you to use an address that is not yours. I will no longer accept packages for you as I feel my courtesy has been abused. You need to make other arrangements because I'll refuse parcels that are not for me and return to sender any that get through.'

The end.

My partner says just to leave it

I bet he's told her it's fine to use your address

Watf is WRONG with some people??? Cheeky cunt

Just be a bit forgetful and crap about delivering it. Take a day to reply to texts “oh sorry - only just seen this - Fred must have taken the parcel in I guess - sorry - out at the moment - really busy so not sure when I’ll get a chance to pop round”

And then don’t go round.

Let them come to you and generally make it a massive hassle.

Oh this makes my blood boil, I’m a childminder so I am around the house at various points of the day, last week I have parcels for number 2, 7 & 9. (I’m number 6) stupidly I took them all in.

Today number 2 and 4 have written a delivery instruction to leave parcels with northernrunner at number 6. I said no, the poor delivery driver didn’t know what to say, I felt so guilty afterwards but I do feel like a sorting office sometimes.

I'd either refuse to accept the parcels or ring amazon and ask them not to deliver on her account to your address. If you get notes to collect parcels, ring the sorting office first and ask if it's your name on the parcel. If she keeps having to get things redelivered or collect them from the PO herself, surely she'll get the message. Do you have an Amazon locker or collection place nearby that she could use?

If you don't want to be confrontational you could make something up about your dh having to break off from important conference calls to take in parcels while working from home, but actually she's the one who is being rude in using your address without permission.

What I don’t understand is the billing address and the delivery address is different so she is then putting in your address with her name and not just leaving a not on amazon if not at home please leave at and then your door number but the package would still have her address in it.
I would definitely be saying to her when giving her the package I have just noticed that this has our address on it but your name so I didn’t want to open it as I have not ordered anything but think they have mixed the address up when processing the order and that explains why I keep getting g your parcels so next time you order I would just make sure that you click your own address.
I am happy for them to attempt delivery to mine if you are not at home but you just add this to the if not at home part on amazon and then it still has your address in it and not mine just so that there is no confusion going forward.
This way you are calling her out but still being a bit nice about it and then if it happens again I would just return the lot as she is then just being even ruder than what she is already.

Wait she will message me tonight asking if I can take it round You don't also hand deliver them to her on demand too do you .

I need a butler. Will you be mine for free please?

Don't open her message tonight. Then be out in the evenings. FFS don't be hand delivering it either. Leave it a few days at least before you make yourself available for her to come to you at a time of your choosing that will happen to be inconvenient for her.

You could just say ‘Could you stop getting parcels delivered to us please as it’s really inconvenient’.

”...she will message me tonight asking if I can take it round”

She is a CF of the highest order, and you should have no qualms whatsoever about pissing her off.

When she messages you, @MummytoCSJH, send her this reply:

“No. I won’t be popping your parcel round to you. I am not your concierge and it is beyond cheeky for you to use my address so I have to take in YOUR orders. You need to come and collect this parcel, and you need to take my address off your orders, because we will NOT be accepting any more deliveries for you!”

Pretend you never got it. Deny all knowledge.

It's cheeky to put your address, but is it such a bother to take in parcels for neighbours? We take in parcels for five different neighbours, at least three a week. I don't mind helping out at all.

We have a shop literally directly across the street from us that takes amazon parcels. If I know I won't be in, I get them delivered there to collect. Usually I would assume that he might have told her its fine cuppy (sorry can't tag you on mobile) but I don't think he's ever spoken to her and he's rarely here when I'm not, like I said we'reusually both out all day! No, I don't deliver them to her, she always asks me to though. She's not even a neighbour up the street, she's next door. I'm 64 (not real number) and she's 66 for example.

Tell her the dog chewed it up.

No, it's not that much of a hassle I suppose. The neighbour at the other side has asked me a few times if I'd mind if she isn't in when they come. This, fine. Putting my address on without asking - not even safe place address, proper address on the parcel - not fine.