To ask my neighbour not to put our address on parcels?

[MummytoCSJH]

I've seen many a post about this topic. I just don't know how to tell my neighbour not to do this! My partner accepted the parcel from Amazon before looking at the name as I wasn't in and he was working from home, but this has happened before and I resolved not to accept them again if they're at our address but not for us. My partner works full time (sometimes from home but not regularly) and I'm at university full time and work part time so I'm not sure why she expects us to be in more than her? I don't want an argument or falling out as we don't have any other major issues with her, other than the odd cheeky request, but frankly its a pain to be taking in her parcels then chasing her up to get them. They're not signed for either so she could easily claim we stole them! How to I tell her to stop (kindly)?

Tell her that she must have "accidentally" put your house number on her amazon account because you keep getting parcels for her. Does she want you to show her how to correct her address, if she's not sure how?

Why are you worried about seeming rude when she's not bothered about being a cheeky fucker. There's some good wording on the thread to use but if it were me, I'd be keeping the parcels and telling her to do one. She'll soon stop if she's charged but not actually receiving anything.

It isn't rude to ask her to stop using your address, it is common sense. Just go and tell her to stop.

I don't want to come across as rude to her

Are you kidding? Shes being a total CF and you're worried about being rude? You need to be firm with her & you're worse than daft if you deliver them to her

Next times she comes for her parcel keep telling her you don't have her parcels only your own, then shut the door. She will soon get the message when she knows she ain't getting her parcel.

is there an option of advising that it could be considered fraud as she is deliberately using the wrong address? For example she gets items then states not received as delivered to you and then you have to sort problem out?

A lot of people on here say that you shouldn’t take in parcels for neighbours. I try really hard to get deliveries when I am in but it doesn’t work and my neighbours take them in as they are around more than us.
I always say thank you, buy Christmas gifts for their children and take the odd bottle of wine round as a token thank you.

However to put the wrong address on is rude. The stupid thing is, if she used her own address but it got delivered to you if she was out, you probably wouldn’t mind but she has now burnt that bridge....

What’s next, OP, if you don’t nip this in the bud right now? Getting furniture delivered for you to store? Where would your DP draw the line? If you come home and find her sitting in your garden using your bbq next, would that be ok too?

It’s absolutely ridiculous that your DP says to “just leave it” and you’re worried about coming across as rude. Both my neighbours are older than me but neither would dream of putting my address on a parcel. Completely out of order.

Big girl pants on; tell your DP in no uncertain terms that he is not to take in any more parcels for NDN and tell your neighbour that she needs to go onto her Amazon account right now and remove your address.

I take parcels in for neighbours and they do for me - that’s different from not asking and presuming to use your neighbours address!

If any more parcels come, ask for the name on the parcel before taking hold if it, as the driver will be off like a shot once it's in your hands.

”...she will message me tonight asking if I can take it round”

Answer and tell her no she can come and collect her parcel. And if it is not collected by X time and day you will be returning to Amazon.

Then when she collects it make it clear that you and your partner will not be taking in anymore parcels for her. There are plenty of ways for her to have parcels delivered without inconveniencing her neighbours.

Definitely stop accepting deliveries for her to your address. She could be ordering bomb making equipment for all you know!

I work from home and regularly take in parcels for my neighbours, but only if I know the person and address. I don't mind as I get on with my neighbours and they will help me out if needed.
I would not accept a parcel addressed to someone else using my address. This sounds like fraud. If there are issues the debt collectors will be knocking on your door.

Op, why are you being such a mug about this?

Why are you worried about being seen as rude?

Just tell her to stop it - no ifs, buts or explanations. Just ask her to stop doing it.

Then don't accept any more from the delivery drivers. Within 2-3 times of stuff getting delivered she'll find some other way... Delivery to a collection point, workplace, or pay for chosen delivery date... you know, like everyone else does...

If something is left without needing a sig, simply return as "RTN to sender, no one with this name at address", pop it back in the post.

Why are you even posting about this on MN? What's stopped you acting rationally before, the first time it happened? If you need permission and reassurance you're not being unreasonable.. you have it. Go fix it!

she will message me tonight asking if I can take it round

Just reply "we, lol, no?"

Or just block her/put her on ignore.

You do know you can decline (cheeky fucker) favours? You don't need a reason why. Just no.

To be honest I would just be blunt and tell her to stop doing it. Job done.

This is ringing alarm bells. Either there is something dodgy going on with your neighbour, or they are INCREDIBLY lazy.
I like the approach by @truthisarevolutionaryact. Maybe it's worth shooting Amazon an email too telling them of the situation.

I wonder where you would stand legally if you just kept the parcels for yourself? She wouldn't be able to complain to Amazon that she hadn't received it because they delivered to the correct address.

We take parcels in for our neighbours if they aren't home and vice versa but would never dream of putting someone else's address on without checking with them first.

I would just presume they were a gift for me!

I'd just keep a few to teach her a lesson.

Usually the delivery driver, if delivering here as a back up, will say 'would you mind taking in this parcel for so and so?' Hence why my partner didn't check the name. They just said we have a parcel for you. I dont know how I feel about keeping the parcel, obviously I don't want to get in trouble for stealing it, but she could easily claim that I have done as we weren't required to sign for this one and she's sent it here (rather than there possibly being some confusion about it being delivered to another safe place or neighbour if it doesn't turn up). I'm only 21 I didn't get along with my previous neighbours and they made life hell for me and my little boy hence being nervous about rocking the boat. She hasn't messaged about the parcel, I'm not mentioning it to her but when she does eventually come for it I am going to make it clear I don't want her using our address again. As I mentioned, it was sheer luck my partner was even home today, I wish we hadn't been!

@Mummy
I'll reiterate the fact that if she gets into debt it could affect your credit score as her name is linked to your address; be straight to the point and tell her NOT to use your address.

Thanks Bookworm. To be honest I dont think she would be doing that, considering she's right next door, at the moment I know we're the only people on the electoral roll here and the only financial links on my credit and my partners are each other (not sure what else could show up). But I keep an eye on all of that regularly anyway and will definitely mention the fraud thing if any letters etc start coming here.

OP if you don't want to talk to her treat these like a letter for a former occupant, tell the post office to return to sender as recipient 'not known at this address', and to the delivery for Amazon say the same thing to the delivery people, this person is not resident here please return to the depot. That way you don't have to confront her and you can just say I don't have your parcel...It's fraudulent and as other posters say could affect your credit score, also she's building up a profile at your address which might then be used for other things. I'm surprised that the post office would allow you to collect the parcels as you would have the wrong id, so again can use that as an excuse if it comes up. Just avoid if you can't face confrontation, she'll eventually get the message. Plus there are liability issues about receiving parcels if an item damaged you can be held personally responsible.

Also I would take Bookworm's point seriously a friend's next-door neighbour did something similar, but in that situation they got my friend's details by going through her bin...people can be excessively dodgy...