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Was IBU to not replace this drink?

422 replies

SoftPlayStandOff · 10/04/2019 15:25

Soft play centre. Large one with different areas for different age groups.

I'm sat in the corner of the pre-schooler area - DS2 (4) and DS3 (2) are around and about playing. I stand up and look the opposite way to check on DS1 (7) and DD1 (10) who are elsewhere in the older kids section. When I turn around DS2 has a fruit shoot in his hand. I tell him to put it down, its not his. He does so and I think no more of it.

A couple of minutes later a woman comes up and tells me DS2 has drunk out of her child's drink. I apologise, say that i didn't see him drink it but I'd asked him to put it down when I saw he had it. She went away.

I speak to DS2 and he says DS3 handed it to him so he thought it was DS3's so had a mouthful. DS3 had picked it up from the middle of the floor in the middle of the soft play.

A couple of minutes later the woman's friend comes and asks if i'm replacing the drink. I laugh thinking she's joking and explain that I was sorry but it had been left in the middle of the floor and my toddler picked it up and gave it to his brother. She says again - 'well XXX can't drink it now its had his lips on it, are you going to by another?' I apologised again and suggested that surely a wipe with a baby wipe would be fine? She looks incredulous and says something about germs. I point out that its softplay - germs are everywhere and no, i was not replacing a drink that had been left in the middle of the room that my child had inadvertently taken a sip of.

Had this been a reverse I would have just wiped the bottle and let my kid get on with their drink. If i was the sort to be concerned by germs i would have not been at softplay or at the very least i would have kept my kids bottles by me (as I had done with my own kids bottles).

They proceed to bitch about it loudly until I left.

SO WIBU to not replace the drink in these circumstances?

OP posts:
GrassyGreen · 05/03/2020 10:27

I think you are being unreasonable to not replace it. The other family may have a tight budget too.

Louise91417 · 05/03/2020 10:27

You could have done a reverse and kicked up a stink about your child being exposed to their childs germs and what they were gona do about that...what was it to do with the friend anyway..if they hadnt said anything i probably would have replaced it bit with attitude they had and interfering friend i wouldnt have bothered replacing it..some people just like an opportunity to gob offHmm

MyDcAreMarvel · 05/03/2020 10:29

Opened this thread thinking I have read this exact scenario before , then realised it’s the same ZOMBIE thread.

drina27 · 05/03/2020 10:30

Do you really need to ask?

RubbishRobotFromTheDawnOfTime · 05/03/2020 10:33

If the drink had been on the table or other normal drink-keeping place where you wouldn’t expect anyone else to touch it, I’d have replaced the drink.

But given the drink was left in an area it shouldn’t have been in, and was unattended on the floor in the middle of a load of toddlers, no I wouldn’t replace it. Five other kids could have had a go on it too! Why should you be the one to compensate for them leaving the drink in a risky place?

RubbishRobotFromTheDawnOfTime · 05/03/2020 10:34

Argh, zombie! Why??

gamerchick · 05/03/2020 10:35

Ah who dug this up?! Hmm

Daftodil · 05/03/2020 10:39

If she was worried about germs and the drink was in the middle of the floor, would she have given it back to her child even if your toddler hadn't touched it?

I probably would've apologised, but wouldn't have offered to buy a new one. I wouldn't have asked someone else to replace my child's abandoned drink either. I might've replaced it if asked though, depending on my mood on the day.

whiskeylullaby2 · 05/03/2020 10:43

You obviously should have offered to replace it!

TheGreyInThisCity · 05/03/2020 10:51

🧟‍♂️🧟‍♀️🧟‍♂️🧟‍♀️🧟‍♂️🧟‍♀️

Also agog at all the people who see a 400 post thread and decide to reply having just read the OP, as if what they have to say is so novel that none of the other 399 posts will have touched on it, and with no regard to the fact that the thread may have moved on somewhat since the OP.

drina27 · 05/03/2020 10:55

Didn’t know it was an ancient thread. Still doesn’t make it irrelevant, though.

Newjez · 05/03/2020 10:57

My response would have been one of shock, with an Ashen face, and then you should have said very softly, my child has allergies, I've checked the ingredients list, and it should be ok, but do you realize how irresponsible you have been by allowing your child to spread food amongst other children?

VadenuRewetje · 05/03/2020 11:00

The drink was left unattended in a part of the place that shouldn't have any food or drink in it anyway. If your kid hadn't picked it up, it would have been picked up by staff and thrown away - there would have been signs all over the place saying no food or drink in the play zones. The owner forfeited it as soon as it taken away from the tables imo.

Do not replace it.

VadenuRewetje · 05/03/2020 11:01

@TheGreyInThisCity oops! Sorry. Guilty.

gingersausage · 05/03/2020 11:10

@MyDcAreMarvel I was wondering why the subject was so fascinating it warranted another 500 page thread, then I looked at the date 🤣.

YouDoYou18 · 05/03/2020 11:38

I mean thinking of it as if it were my daughters drink that had been drank, I wouldn’t have expected you to replace it... she has allergies so I wouldn’t have let her have the rest, but i wouldn’t have left it in the middle of soft play! I keep all drinks with me and they come back for some!

Sewrainbow · 05/03/2020 12:07

Yanbu - I wouldn't have replaced it if it was left unattended on the floor, if she was that bothered about germs and others taking she should have kept it with her...

Waveysnail · 05/03/2020 12:16

I would not have replaced it. Bloody hate it when parents let their kids wander around soft play equipment with drinks. It was abandoned on the floor - tough luck

Liverbird77 · 05/03/2020 12:24

No way should you have replaced it. It should not have been left on the floor. Of course kids are going to pick it up
For all you know, the other woman's kid could've had a cold sore etc and was at risk of spreading it through their carelessness.
I would've replaced had my child snatched it from another's hands, or indeed if it was in a table in the food area.

BrimfulofSasha · 05/03/2020 14:35

Would you take a sip out of someone else's drink- that you didn't know- in a pub? Of course not.
This is what your child did. Especially given the scare tactics of the media with coronavirus ATM you definitely should have replaced it. I can't believe 2 seperate people had to tell you this was the case and you were still pig-headed and refused.

Parent's like you are the reason most of us hate softplay.

SorrelBlackbeak · 05/03/2020 14:37

IT IS A ZOMBIE THREAD. IT WAS STARTED A YEAR AGO BEFORE CORONAVIRUS WAS A THING.

Twinkletoes888 · 05/03/2020 14:56

I’m waiting for the thread later of another child drank my child’s fruit shoot was IBU to ask for replacement?

If that’s the only problem you have at your soft play you’re doing well, someone took a massive poo in corner of the play frame of ours.

I wouldn’t of replaced it either

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