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to be annoyed at how DP 'proposed' to me?

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FireFaerie · 13/07/2007 09:05

Sorry, this may be a little long winded..

Last night he got a bit drunk, i came back from work with a few little pressies for him (Cherry pie and a keyring i saw and thought he'd like) He then ignored me whilst chatting to 2 of his friends on the phone and then nagged at me to get in the shower so he could get on the computer. When i came from the shower in my towel, feeling tired and a bit cheesed off that me efforts had gone to waste, plonked myself down in my chair and made a bit of a comment about how cheesed off i was....

He then got down on the floor infront of my chair, told me to close my eyes whilst sliding one of his HUGE barbed wire looking rings from his finger, and said 'Ive got a question that i dont think your expecting' and then asked me to marry him..
I probably wouldnt be so miffed but he proposed to me a few times when we hadnt been together that long and i explained to him that as i already had a child i wanted to make ABSOLUTELY sure that we were doing the right thing, and that if and when he felt the need to propose later on in our relationship i expected him to do it completely sober. Weve spoken about it loads and always went on about how romantic it could be etc etc...
Am i being a mean and sour faced bitch? Do i expect too much from him?

I think this is probably the only place where im going to get some hardcore honest answers.
I said yes by the way, but did also say that i wish he hadnt of had a drink. He then passed out downstairs an hour later.

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frogs · 13/07/2007 20:19

Cheer up! Dh's proposal to me was, "I suppose I'll have to marry you then" when we got a positive pg test with dd1.

Needless to say I told him to ask again in a year's time, which he never got round to. We finally got married 8 years and three kids later, after me going to the registry office and fixing the date.

Moral: don't judge a man by the romanticness of his proposal. Not all blokes can carry off the dramatic, romantic gesture. Some just get all embarrassed and go a bit crap on you. I don't think it tells you anything about how genuine his feelings are, or how good a husband he'll make.

Dabbles · 13/07/2007 20:34

have only read op, but 'awwww'

tribpot · 13/07/2007 20:53

I 'proposed' to dh in that I said "so, we should get married, yes?" or words to that effect and he just kind of went along with it. But a few weeks later he 'proposed' by giving me the engagement ring we'd chosen in the bar in Copenhagen Airport where we'd first met. It was utterly humiliating as he went down on one knee etc but the people around us thought it was hilarious!

Ulysees · 13/07/2007 21:17

Congrats FF

Bf proposed to me a few weeks back over the phone......though he is in Iraq working so couldn't do it face to face.
He said he couldn't keep it in any longer, I'm seeing him July 23rd. I said yes too.

CalifrauniusFudge · 13/07/2007 21:22

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Cloudhopper · 13/07/2007 21:30

Bless him FF. It's obvious that now he has got the 'moment' over with he is thrilled.

Maybe he wanted to keep it fairly low key in case you said no, and now that you have said yes he is on top of the world!

Ulysees · 13/07/2007 21:31

Thanks CF. How did that guy get the 'other' Rialto Bridge in Venice proposal impression?

madamez · 13/07/2007 21:42

Oh my, I have along history of tipsy proposals both to me and from me, but luckily I never actually got married and always managed to escape in good time.

MrsFish · 13/07/2007 21:47

CONGRATULATIONS FF - hope you have a lovely evening.

My DH proposed to me on a driving holiday. He had an idea of when he wanted to do it (in the most northern town in the world) but a cock up in ferry times etc prevented that... he ended up doing it in Sweden. We had gone for a walk before dinner, down to one of the many lakes just before sunset... he went to get down on one knee and I said 'I'm not sitting down I'll get my trousers dirty' he then proposed and produced the most perfect ring which fit perfectly (and he had designed himself), I then said 'You're joking?' I guess he is the romantic one in our relationship We then went back to the hotel and got totally pissed and passed out together

flyingmum · 13/07/2007 21:48

Congratulations!

Look on the bright side, at least you got asked. My dearly beloved asked my father for my hand in marriage and completely ommitted to ask ME! So I have never been proposed to (apart from when I was five ). The only reason I knew I was engaged was because my mum kept giggling at me the next morning . . . Hubby claims he inferred a proposal because I didn't refuse him buying the ring at the jewellers!

Its been 18 years worth of marriage (very happy) and he never asked and I never said 'yes' (isn't communication a wunnerful thing?).

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lissie · 14/07/2007 17:23

well, how was the night out?

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