Nc as I know friend is on here!
I'm due my first baby soon. One of my friends has not yet had her own children but recently started working at a nursery which provides care for 0-3 years. Part of this job meant she got (I think 4 weeks) training.
Friend has since become unbearable. She constantly is giving me advice and telling me what I should be doing etc. She has started buying things she says I will need which is very kind but she buys things that overrule decisions I have made as a parent. For example I want to try and use reuseable nappies. I'm aware this may go out of the window when baby is born but my family have all used them and I'd like to give it a go. Friend says this is ridiculous and has bought me lots of disposables. I have tried smiling and nodding when she gives advice but I get nowhere. I have also tried shutting down the conversation but she just continues.
Yesterday we met for lunch at our local dog cafe (we both have a dog so usually this is how we meet!). She asked about our nursery and I showed her a picture of what we have done. Immediately she started saying how the cot should not have a bumper. I said oh yes I know, it came as part of the bedding set but baby won't be in cot for a while and I will remove the bumper before we put baby in it. I know this might sound daft but I'm just leaving it on for decoration for now and then when baby moves from crib to cot I will probably chuck it. Friend starts saying how my baby will be at risk of sids and how I am being dangerous. I shut this down by saying I am fully aware that bumpers are not common practice now and I have every intention of removing it before baby goes in cot. Friend eventually lets it go.
The next thing she starts on is breastfeeding?! She starts giving me advice and says if I formula feed I should be aware of how poor it is in comparison?! I said I intend on trying to breastfeed but I may not be able to and won't be putting pressure on myself. At this point friend said people who say they can't breastfeed have given up without really trying?!!!! I told her that was ridiculous and that a fed baby is better than one that is starving.
Anyway this morning she has sent a mutual friend a huge text (I've seen it as I was actually with our mutual friend) saying how I wouldn't listen to her advice, will not be breastfeeding and will place my child at risk of SIDS.
I am raging. I am completely done with the friendship and am taking a huge step back. AIBU to think it is none of her business if I choose to feed my baby formula etc and that she should back off!!!